LMAO at these pics, they aren't even worth saving. And it doesn't matter, she knows I was there and that's what's important. Hopefully her mom got better shots, she was closer. Lissa is smiling at her new dad there. He was clapping louder than anyone and she was soooo proud. She knew all the words this year and did a great job. I was about a million miles in the back and had fat men with tripods set up in front of me. Honestly, what is it about school pagents that makes fools turn into Spielberg? Anyway, she had the most beautiful dress on and matching velvet shoes and her hair was done really pretty with a matching flower sprig. And she spotted me....finally..and yelled "Pat! You came!" It was so cute.*
I'm glad she's proud, she should be. But, you know, I noticed a couple of kids that had no one there and no one bothered to dress them up. They were just wearing worn old clothes. It pisses me off and I know what that's like, so when those kids walked by me on the way out, I yelled "great job, guys!"..and I stood up and clapped. I think they liked it. They looked proud. I don't know why all children can't be treated right. I don't understand it. Anyway, Lissa did a good job, all the kids did. Boy, her mom is really sticking out there..did I tell you it's a boy? Yep. Lissa was right all along.
I'm glad she's proud, she should be. But, you know, I noticed a couple of kids that had no one there and no one bothered to dress them up. They were just wearing worn old clothes. It pisses me off and I know what that's like, so when those kids walked by me on the way out, I yelled "great job, guys!"..and I stood up and clapped. I think they liked it. They looked proud. I don't know why all children can't be treated right. I don't understand it. Anyway, Lissa did a good job, all the kids did. Boy, her mom is really sticking out there..did I tell you it's a boy? Yep. Lissa was right all along.
beautiful dress!!!
ReplyDeletewell, it might be better to have no one there, than a parent who would criticize...my mother would attend stuff and then berate me for something she considered i did wrong.....i would have been better off having no one there!
i've noticed that too about parents turning into spielbergs....they spend so much time 'capturing' the event on film, they don't 'capture' the moment themselves...
I just can't believe there are still parents that won't even buy their kid a holiday dress or go watch. It's shameful. I don't care if you're dirt poor, you know? Go to the used shop...or at least show up and cheer. People are assholes.
ReplyDeleteI love her dress!! She looks really adorable in it.
ReplyDeleteThis post reminded me of this foster mother I know. She never goes to her foster kids school pageants. She says she's too busy and has more important things to do. She is a very mean, uncaring woman. I loathe her.
What a gorgeous dress.
ReplyDeleteI want to attend a school concert. My Kodes has been acting out so with his issues we have to take things on a day to day basis and when it comes to public events it's really not pretty infact it's more stressful then not. We are taking him to this highly recommended dr over winter break...Im noticing along with his other issues asperger's or maybe all of his other issues have mirrored aspergers that he's been misdiagnosed.
Connie
She looks BEAUTIFUL! It's so nice to see a child who is adored and appreciated as the,"gift" she is.
ReplyDeleteLissa is such a little lady! That dress is very pretty.
ReplyDeleteAnon, I could NEVER understand why they give mean evil abusive people the privilege of becoming foster parents.
I must comment again...Look at her face she is absolutly glowing
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You're such a good grandma to Lissa! But what really tugged at my heart strings was what you did for those poor kids in the old clothes. I almost got teary-eyed and could picture you standing up and clapping when they walked by.
ReplyDeletePat, it's been said before but I just want you to know I think you're a great person!
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i copied ur blog
not matt
She looks really cute in that dress!
ReplyDeleteIt is so sad how some kids get the short end of the stick. They don't know any better either. This world is a cruel place.
that is the cutest post ever! thanks Lissa for being such cutie!
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ReplyDeleteNina, I understand, just sorry to lose a friend on my blog. But I have to close my blog also for security reasons. Will miss you there.
it sucked anyway, and it is all saved
security reasons?
7:27:00 PM, I don't know who you are or what this means. I am sorry if Brig closed her blog because of trolls. It was just a nice blog with holiday stuff. Why would anyone troll her? Brig, are you there??? Do you need troops?
ReplyDeleteShe looks beautiful. Her mom might not be perfect but she seems to come through in a lot of the important ways. I was wondering about the baby/when it was due? You have to take a close-up of her toothless grin when it happens!
ReplyDeleteThis baby is due in March. She lost the other one. Umm yeah.
ReplyDeleteLissa looks lovely. She totally shines from head to toe with personality and beauty. I know you must be very proud!!
ReplyDeleteI also feel sorry for the kids whose parents don't show up or dress them properly...even for the weather. Hopefully the teacher/school nurse is aware of the problems at home and keeping tabs. Hopefully.
I have a relative who works at an elementary school and it's sad how some parents just don't care. (In the case of this particular school, MOST parents.) They don't feel bad that their kids wear crummy clothes, they don't feel bad if they miss school plays. They don't even bother to show up to parent-teacher meetings half the time. They have no shame. I don't understand why people like that have kids. This is a school in in area where most people are really poor and for whatever reason they just don't seem to value education at all. You'd think if you were dirt poor you would want you child to get an education and a good job, but it's the opposite for most of these parents. Maybe they have been poor for so long they just accept it and don't care anymore about making their lives better.
ReplyDeleteWhat's also sad is that the few parents who *do* care just don't seem to have the resources to do anything about it. Half of them can barely read.
On a lighter note: Lissa looks very cute! That dress is pretty.
She looks so grownup with her little shrug! Your heart must have been coming out of your chest!
ReplyDeleteMy GD is 4 1/2. On Thankgiving Eve her dad was having a scotch on the rocks and she decided to have a sip. She swallowed it and turned to her dad and said "what makes you want to drink that"? ROFL
escrow
oh and, trolls, grow up or go away
Not sure I am able to follow all the deep family allusions here... but I totally understand your sentiment of 'showing up (when invited) no matter what' for a child. And I'm fully with you that it is unbelievable that for some kids nobody is able to make an appearance. How do people not spend even so much time with their kids to understand how important these first 'show off'-events are?!
ReplyDeleteLissa was beaming for a reason there. (Although I am again not sure about the new dad stuff. Are you okay with her calling somebody else now her dad?)
LMAO @ escrow. I know! I'm with her.
ReplyDelete8:15:00 PM..I'm fine with it. She loves him and he's really good to her.
ReplyDeleteI was one of those kids. No one ever came to a school event..ever. Not once. Never came to a parent/teacher meeting, nothing. When we moved to a new place, I was told to "go find a school." Just go find one and walk in, right? So, I would. Never ever new school clothes. No lunch money or lunch. No supplies ever. That's just the way it is for some kids. I hope people are aware of this and are kind to those kinds of kids. They can't help it that their parents treat them like nothing. It happens all the time.
ReplyDeleteGood I am glad that you copied my blog anonymous. Now go learn something about FMS! Nothing on their but entertainment crap anyway. Nothing interesting to you. Wow did you just waste your time. Idiot!
ReplyDeleteBecause they're an idiot, Brig. Brain dead idiot needs to go copy Heckmess instead.
ReplyDeletePat? What happened to Dawma?
ReplyDeleteYeah, I've followed enough of your stories about the mother unit to no longer be surprised. Still shocked, but not surprised. I have my own therories about what motors 'birthing, raising & never let go people' such as yours.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I'm secretely thinking that unfortunately only 2 categories of people notice that type of neglect in kids: Those that come from the same experience and (like you) have not forgotten and can therefore relate. And those that are equally horrified but immediately put you into the charity case category.
A stranger applauding is not the same as mom/dad just bothering to show up... but it is a lot, I think. That was a great gesture and probably meant the world to them.
Her dress is beautiful and she is beaming. What a great memory for her and for you, Pat.
ReplyDeleteShe is beautiful. She is just beaming. She is very lucky to have you for a grandma.
ReplyDeleteLissa looks beautiful! I love her dress. What a little gorgeous angel!
ReplyDeleteAnd that just cracked me up when she called you Pat :)
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omg lissa looks beautiful DD.. She is such a cutie. I'm glad the production went off with a bang. Thanks for sharing the pics.
ReplyDeleteescrow, this kid has a TON of grandma's. She often calls me Pat. It's just something she started.
ReplyDelete9:20:00 PM, I'd really like to help kids like that. I'd like to start a scool clothes program here, but, I don't know how. You know, like a thrift store only free for kids that need an outfit for programs or proms. There must be a way to do it.
ReplyDeleteLis looks beautiful, so proud and happy. It must have been a great day. She'll remember her family came to watch ... her.
ReplyDeleteShe looks so proud! And she is beautiful. This will be one moment she will remember.
ReplyDeleteAs for those unlucky children whose parents did not care, it is gut wrenching. It was cool that you "stood up for them" and hopefully that will make a difference. I know how lucky I am to have never had a parent not pay attention and care. Not always in a good way, but they were there. Lissa is lucky to have such a mom and, especially, and grandmother like you.
She is beaming and beautiful - so, so precious. That color totally suits her.
ReplyDeleteI loved the presentations/shows at my son's school. I missed a couple of daytime ones because I had to work, but either his grandma showed up of my best friend.
It seemed to me that the kids that had someone there to cheer them on were always the same, and the ones that didn't, never had anyone there. Very sad. It used to bother me so badly 'cause I felt so horrible for them. I can see missing performances or academic award presentations because of your job or other extenuating circumstances, but to never make them? It breaks my heart.
DD I can't decide which one of you or Lissa is
ReplyDeletethe brighter star !! Your both wonderful !!!
I wish to share with you that as a young child
I had a one woman fan /applauder such as
you were so kind to those patentless atendees
at the paegent. Her name was mrs. Ruth
and she did what u did tonight such a small
lil gesture that will last a life time I can tell you.
Too a poor girl it was priceless and the feeling
she instilled in my heart that day in my fourth grade
Xmas concert still lives inside my soul. She cared.
Thanks for telling your story and uncovering such
a sweet memory and thanks for what you did
for those childrens self esteem ! You are a star !
Kiki :) in Canada.
Moon, I hope you're feeling better. We all missed you a bunch.
ReplyDeleteLissa looks absolutely adorable! The dress, the shoes, the shrug, etc. it's all perfect. She looks happy, too.
ReplyDeleteLocally, here in Oregon, someone founded an organization that organizes donated prom/special event dresses into a store-like atmosphere, and girls who can't afford clothes like that are free to choose whatever they want. I think it was organized by a young woman, and I don't remember what it was called--it was on the news local morning show. I don't really know what went into it, but there was no shortage of donations.
Christina
DD, she looks so pretty and so proud, walking tall in her beautiful outfit.
ReplyDeleteI love that age, still believing in the wonder of xmas and blinking lights and things to come.
At the pageant, how many little boys held their crotches, and how many little girls pulled their dresses up? It's also a weird age.
New follower here, Pat. Love hearing aboust Lissa! The expression on her face says it all. She was REALLY excited!
ReplyDeleteSharna, that's so funny because I was waiting for that and none of them did! They must have been practicing. No nose picking either. They did "hand plays" which I think is just a way to get their hands well occupied. LOL. Yeah, she was just busting with pride and mostly looking at her mom and dad.
ReplyDeleteLissa looks beautiful and so grown up! I didn't know she was going to have a little brother. How sweet.
ReplyDeleteI must say that I have missed a few of my son's events simply due to work. Unfortunately, too many of them are scheduled during regular working hours. Luckily, he's in high school now and there aren't so many of them. He's got a basketball game this afternoon. I wish I could be there to cheer him on :-(
OMG! Thats beautiful. And look at her, she is so happy & loves her new beautiful dress. Excellent choise with her hair! Fabulous. You're a good grandma.
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Parents often have to work and while it's not great, it's necessary to miss things. That's life. But, you can tell some of these kids have no one who cares. You can tell they dressed themselves in what ever they could find.
ReplyDeleteLis looks beee-a-u-tiful! I love that color dress on her with her gorgeous red hair.
ReplyDeleteSo glad you were there for her.
No Drama Mama, if I haven't said it yet, WELCOME to DD!
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