DEAR ABBY: I'm having problems
with my boyfriend, "Adam," and I feel stuck. He recently was accepted to
graduate school, and we're planning to move there. We haven't lived
together before, and I'm not sure I'm doing the right thing.
I
will be working and paying for everything, and Adam will be just going
to school. He thinks this is a fair trade-off because "we won't have to
worry about money at all" once he has completed his education.
Abby, I don't think he cares that it's me
going with him. I feel like a space-filler and a meal ticket. How do I
go about finding out his true feelings and intentions? He doesn't make
me feel special, wanted or important -- ever. I worry this will end
badly. I do love him, but I don't want this to be a self-fulfilling
prophecy. Please give me some advice. -- TO MOVE OR NOT TO MOVE IN
INDIANA
DEAR MOVE OR NOT: You
do need advice -- and here it is: Your woman's intuition is telling you
this isn't right, and that your boyfriend can't be trusted to fulfill
his part of the bargain. You should listen to it because that's a poor
basis for uprooting yourself and becoming his benefactor.
The
person you have described is someone centered solely upon himself and
his own needs. A man who doesn't make you feel special, wanted or
important would make a very poor husband.
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Me: Bwaaaaaaaaaa ha ha ha! Sorry (or not) but, that guy has no intention of ever being her husband. She's a total dumb ass. But, I was young and believed that much in the power of love once, so I feel sort of a shit heel for rolling on the floor, piss laughing. BUT, you and I both know, these are the guys that become doctors with no student loans or not much and they don't marry the chick who supported them through school. They marry hot blonds with big boobs and buy them convertibles. It's even more ironic to me, because I WAS the hot blond with big boobs and I still wasn't smart enough to get the convertible. Let's face it, when it comes to love, it doesn't matter how high your IQ is, your head is still filled with bullshit. I can laugh at people like her now, because age and experience makes you wise the fuck up. Future Dr. BrokePants aint gonna marry Ms. CheckBook. No way in hell.
It's like All In The Family, remember? We rooted for Gloria and Mike Stivic for years! All the way through him going to school, living off her parents, right? What as the first thing he did once he got to be a college professor and they moved to California? Yep. Dumped her and the kid for some bimbo. And she had to come home and live with Archie and Edith again. Hell, he only married Gloria because Archie would have killed him if he had tried to just shack up with her. TV based on a million and one real life stories, then and still relevant today.
This story is as old as the hills, just like me. Fuck off, Mr. BrokePants. Get a fucking job. Not equal? It aint love. If he won't put a ring on your finger now, then you are never going to get one at all. Or any respect either.
5 comments:
yeah, you are laughing - but when a woman does exactly that, and I know men who got tricked like that, it is ok?
Even if they do get married, you know he's going to dump her when something better comes along. And probably before he starts making a lot of money. I think I would super glue his dick to his stomach.
Two words...Betty Broderick.
Bastard, it's okay if they're trading for pussy and let's face it, that's what most of the are doing. They know what they're getting. If a woman flat out plays them and lies to them, no, that is not okay. People need to protect themselves from vultures, no matter what gender.
Jane, hell yes. That's his plan. It's so obvious.
Connie, good one. That shit is scary, but, I saw her story and I kind of get her. She was crazy, but, he made her that way. Scary shit.
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