I'm feeling bad right now. Like a bad mean person. Here's the deal. Some guy out here just called me and said he was a friend of a friend. I don't have many friends, I'm a recluse by choice. He said the "friends" name, but, I don't know him either. What he wanted was a pack of cigarettes. He said he was jonesing bad. I know that feeling and it's a long way to town here. It's like a little shitty city here, bordered by a mini burb on the right and fields and farmland on the other.
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It's not like I don't have extra smokes, I could have helped the guy out, but, I've learned from experience not to do it. Half the people out here are just norms with jobs and lives, but, the other half is..well, best avoided. They will take advantage of you and I've been treated like a free 24 hour phone company, taxi service and grocery store before. It's like, get a fucking job, you losers.
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I have no clue how this guy knows my name or number or even that I smoke, since I don't smoke at work or in the car. He also told me to take care of myself, avoid danger and God blessed me. If you know me, you know I don't like that shit. You pray all you want, but, don't you pray for me or God bless me. It pisses me off.
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I know it's not personal Sunday, but, I feel really bad now. Did I do the right thing? Will I someday need someone's help and they ignore me because I'm a bitch? (doubtful..I rarely need anyone and I do have a few friends.) Am I a bitch? If I knew who the fuck he was, I'd go take him some smokes right now, but, I don't. I feel bad. But, then again..wtf? (checking the deadbolt right now.)
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Lock the door. Sounds like a crazy person. Don't feel bad - world's full of wack-jobs.
Sincerely,
He who avoids all contact with his neighbors even to the point of fleeing at the sight of them.
No, no, no. Don't feel bad! If you don't have a lot of friends and aqaintences then you would probably have remembered the name of the friend. You weren't being rude at all, you were being smart and looking after yourself.
Oh, and I bet the name of the friend was something totally common like John or Tom and he was just hoping you would know somebody named just that. It doesn't necessarily have to be a wacko either, it could just be someone who knows who you are and was hoping that he wouldn't have to move his lazy ass for cigarettes. Either way - DON'T feel bad!
I completely agree with Crabbie.
Take care and don't do anything stupid out of guilt.
you did the right thing!!! his god will bless him in his own special way....
i've never heard of the phoning for smokes scam....but that's exactly what that was....and what would he do? come to you place, force his way in and commit heinous crimes? or you go there and he carjacks you??
yeah, his god will bless him for his scams...
he calls you again, you put a spell on him...tell you have caller id, the calls being traced and he's going to be prosecuted AND your spell will make his dick shrivel up more than it already is....
LOL..thanks guys, you made me feel better.
It is really strange. Thinking about it... First the bra thing and then this. I really hope those two incidents aren't connected because that would be really really freaky. I am with everyone else. Take a bit of extra caution just in case. Stay safe DD!
I really will..thanks.
Ha! That's nothing. If my bestest friend in the whole world called me up begging for smokes I might just tell her tough titties--my smokes is my smokes and it's cold outside, I ain't leaving unless I have to. So yeah, you're not even close to the sort of bad mean person that I am and I'm only 24. Think of how mean I'll be by the time I'm your age! ; )
Damn, you ARE mean.
Careful - feed one seagull and the whole flock comes down.
Dishy, no biggie. I too hate those "god bless you cause you are not giving me my way" bastards. they just make me roll my eyes. It's like they are saying they're better than you cause they're blessing you. I can't stand them. They can go to hell.
maybe he'll quit and thats a good thing. Cigs are expensive and bad for you. Was he willing to pay for them? Stock up & double the price, sell them & start making bank! Yeah, J/K. Get new locks & change your name! Move even! That guy scares me. I don't blame you. No need to start up something & he's a total stranger? thats f'g weird. Don't feel bad, a woman that lives alone shouldn't ever feel bad. I wouldn't have even opened the door for him!
Someone just rattled my doorknob..didn't knock. I saw him out the peephole going down the stairs..big greasy unknown dude. He left religious pamplets on my door but they were all old and yellow and in a grocery sack. This place is freaky sometimes.
YIKES !!!!!
It's ok..I paid a lot to have this place reinforced like a fort. No one and I mean no one can get in here unless I open the door.
It is still weird having someone mess with your door knob....Im glad your safe....sb
Call the cops, nobody messes with a doorknob unless they are trying to gain entry. Thats illegal. Just call the cops they will come out, the nasty dude will see them & stay the he** away from you. DO NOT take that bag of junk inside your apt!!!! Dispose of it somehow, w/o touching it!! Be safe. I'm scared!!! It's daytime, whats gonna happen at night??? :(
do the meateaters have a godfearing relative? the meateaters probably grunt, and the godfearer says 'praise the lord' and that's how they communicate...
One does not need a cigarette to live. It isn't like he was starving and you denied a morsel of food or a drink of water. It was a smoke. Not necessary to live. If one needs a smoke and is out, he asks a FREIND. Not a relative stranger.
God already blessed you by giving you the good sense to leave the door shut, and having the place as secure as you do!
Not a mean bitch. Just a smart one!!!
you ok DD???????
You're being stalked.
Carry a cameraphone or camera and Mace/pepper spray whenever you step outside...Mace IN YOUR HAND.
Doesn't look as weird as it sounds.
Rehearse so you're not surprised. You hear "Hi, do you have a minute?" or there's a tap on your shoulder. Turn and raise your spray at the same time, ready to go.
Don't see yourself playing defense, reacting while they call the plays. This person may not be singling you out...or maybe they are...doesn't matter. If you're ready for them you have an advantage and you have a good shot at controlling unknown situations.
I'd say "bless you" in the metaphysical spirit world sense, but I won't.
Instead - BE STRONG BITCH!!!
That's scary, Dishy, pepper spray is a good idea. Can't stop being a bitch when you have to survive. Be careful and stay safe.
Wow, that's scary...you may want to invest in a gun for self-protection.
And by being "mean" to that friend of a friend - you probably saved your own life.
Pat take care of yourself.... and do NOT open the friggin door to anyone!!! Be careful if they call you and say there is an emergency with Lissa, don't go running out of the house in the middle of the night ok.
If he were a friend of a friend I think he'd KNOW that you do not believe in God so why leave you pamphlets and "bless you". The guy is a stalker, if he's a religious fanatic he might be after you because of your work so be careful at the shop also.
Nads
I agree w/ you Crabbie - lock your doors DD. You don't owe anyone anything.
You're not a bitch. Well you are, but it was warrented this time. ;D This is starting to get freaky... stay safe!
i would definitely have a talk with "the law"....go there in person and make a report...mention the bras too...if you get another phone call, call your phone company to request a trace...this usually requires a police report and a promise from you that you will prosecute whomever is calling....
here's some 'ghetto' safety tips...i live in the ghetto and have run these past the police and/or have had them given to me by officers....
i would use caution if you get mace/pepper spray....many times an attacker can twist your hand/arm and use it on YOU....a key in your hand is a good weapon, you can scratch, gouge and poke....
scream your head off and do NOT go to kick him in the nuts....attackers expect that, hit him as hard as you can in his adam's apple....cuts off their breathing and if you hit it hard enough will dislocate their trachea....then you scream and run....
a camera cell phone is imperative if you wish to capture a picture of a person---even the back of them, their car, etc....if you are stressed you might forget exactly what you saw....a picture is worth a thousand words....tracfone offers camera cell phones now and you can get them pretty cheap...just get the cheapo 30 minute phone card and only use it for emergencies....
when you leave your apartment by yourself, 'talk' on your cellphone....yes, seriously--if you don't have a cell phone with minutes on it, PRETEND TO TALK TO SOMEONE....fake a conversation until you get to your car....people aren't inclined to go after someone on a cell phone because the other person could call for help---and they don't know where they are, they could be close by....you could even say "are you close by?" pause..."oh good, i'm walking to my car, maybe you'll get here before i get there you're so close"....
be really obversant of your surroundings and if you have a 'feeling' about something or someplace, don't ignore it!
ALWAYS walk with confidence....no slouching, no acting nervous....crooks prey on those who seem vulnerable....
helpful tips from a ghetto dweller....
You said you don't know how he knows your name and number and now it looks like he knows where you live too. Put this together with your bras being stolen, I'd say it sounds as if this nutcase is fixating on you. It could be nothing but I'd take it seriously and contact the law just in case. As everyone says, you are living alone and you can never be too cautious.
Susan
Good tips from all. Thanks.
OK: First off you're not actually helping anyone by buying them smokes so don't feel guilty. Secondly how the F did that person get your #
Third, ppl get their laundry ripped off *all the time* and it sucks and costs a fortune to replace but don't feel bad about that one, a woman prob did it.
Fourth, NO ONE should be trying your door they should be knocking.
I don't know how weird your neighborhood is, mine is really bad, my car almost got jacked yesterday. If it's a place where really random things commonly happen I would not sweat it. The cameraphone s a great idea, you have violent neighbors you're arguing with (I use this too)(one of my neighbors started randomly screaming at me in the stairwell)
Good luck too you - be safe don't be paranoid!
Um, re: the laundry, what i meant to say was don't feel *paranoid* sorry
someone must have told him your a dumb-ass thats easily douped, or he's a serial rapist!
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