She makes her own fun. Poor kid, her whole family on both sides is a mess. She asked me to light her 5 candle and she made a wish. She wished they'd leave us alone. It made me feel bad. See how that dog tore up my Morning Glories? There's a whole section missing there now. Gawd.
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It's a shame your posies got hurt but Lis is adorable. She'll survive the mess. She has you to keep it real with and you'll always be someone she can talk to and come to for comfort and answers. That could well be the stabilizing factor that saves her through the rough times.
I try. Last night was bad. She heard some of it. I kept pointing her way and telling mom "This is not the time." It didn't matter. Lissa says I am right and they do "bad things." I feel so bad that she knows that. I tried telling her, you know, maybe I wasn't nice and shouldn't have said some things.." She wasn't having it. She said NO, Pat, they are stupid. They need to leave us alone! She even told my mom to go home to her own house. I hate it that she was here. When it was just me and her, she was fine and happy. We both are fine and happy when we're left alone.
She calls me Pat when she's serious.
you'd think your mom's clue phone would ring when her great-granddaughter is telling her to go home!!!
lissa is wise beyond her years!
She really is. She says such adult things. She told me last night she was sorting her things because there are some things she needs to keep for forever. she wanted me to know what she couldn't live without in case I got in a cleaning mood. She picked the antique toys and an old jewelry box.
Pat,
I think it's best that you address her from the heart and openly discuss the dysfunction you both contend with from the old gals. She's a bright kid and sees what she sees. She'll have more respect for you in the long run for the honesty.
It's a rotten situation but it is what it is and trying to mask over it with her wouldn't work anyway.
Life isn't always pretty and sadly sometimes kids are right in the middle of the ugly. Your being honest with her opens the door for her to be honest with you. That matters more than anything. You do a great job with her.
so funny, in case you get in a cleaning mood, lol....she made good choices, I woulda' probably picked the same things.
Lissa is your island of peace. At least you have that when she spends the weekend with you, it's your balance. You guys are lucky to have each other.
DD,
I hope things get better for you soon. I am glad you have the little girl to keep you where you need to be. BTW, she looks just like you in the tent pic.
Lissa is a smart cookie, wise beyond her years... just as she "knows" what goes on with her mom she also knows what goes on with your mom Pat.... she is learning to deal with both situations. The best gift the universe has given Lissa is YOU for a grandma...
I wish I could help you. Just remember that you gotta hold it together for that beautiful red headed cutie. She needs you & you need her,so just hang in there sweetie. You're her "safe haven" & she's yours. I've not come across 2 people that need each other as much as you 2 do right now. We're here if needed.
You guys slept in that thing outside? really? O wow. You are such a good grandma. Tents are the sweatiest hottest things ever. A steambath is so right. I figured you were camping out in the LR! You should have made a fire & s'mores!
Thanks guys. We didn;t make it all night, it was too hot. Maybe this fall we can try again. She's just getting big enough to trust her around a campfire. She's so wild.
10 doll, what would I do without you? You remind me of me.
DD, I'm a day behind on info. I had to find a shotgun and take it and my laptop out to a lonely place and "put it out of MY misery".
I like being alone (just family) in my home. When my husband worked shift work, I had found a wooden plaque that read--"Work nights-sleep days. Please be quiet and go away"! Best money I ever spent!
For you, I have 2 thoughts. For the general public, get a sheet of bright orange paper and write in very large demanding letters---QUARENTINE By order of _________ County Health Dept. Do not enter!
Now for your mother. If she is as relgious as she says she is----make several "Blair Witch" type objects and a couple of upside down crosses and nail then around your door.
Then about 2 feet from your door, make a circle of stones. Then draw a long line in front of your door with salt. Next, make a rustic looking sign that looks like it was made by the banjo player from Deliverance. The sign should say anyone stepping into the circle will at that moment lose his immortal soul through the hole will spend eternity in hell.
If that doesn't work, TURN THE HOSE ON FULL STRENGTH AND GET HER. What is she going to do? Get mad at you. From what I have read, better her than you!
I feel bad saying this,(because so many people had problems with moms) but I was really lucky. I had a happy mom who loved to laugh and didn't have a mean bone in her body. And she had to live all of her life next door(a 4 foot alley between houses) to a mother-in-law that really hated her because she wasn't a Cajun. And she had no problem telling her she hated her. Yet every week she was expected to do the shopping and paying the bills and taking her to the drs. when needed. You know the old lady stuff!
My mother was sitting by her bed when she died and she still didn't have anything good to say to her. She didn't like my sister and me that much either because we were the children of "that woman".
Daddy didn't like it but it was family land and that was all they had. Daddy was also worried about his dad--the sweetest man in the world.
I really think he always was afraid she would hurt my grandfather. My grandfather had to hide the fact that he would buy us Christmas and Birthday presents. My mom also made sure that we spoke respectfully to the old bitch. I used to get heart burn everytime I had to deal with her but I did it because mom asked me to. That was a true love story, my mom had to love my dad to put up with that.
I know you don't normally do this kind of thing, but could you send a shout out to my mom and dad (Sam and Ella) and send them my love.
I'll understand if that is something you don't want to get into. I don't want to start a mountain. Luv ya anyway!
Hang in there!
Two question---does your Aunt Ruth do the same thing? And how is your brother? Hope he's still well!
I already have salt and a pent iin front of my door, I am very open about what I am in my own home. The whole family is nuts, Aunt Ruth is harmless. She doesn;t bug me. My brother is happy in his group home away from out mother.
I am so sorry. I didn't realize I was going on so long!
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