
Dear Prudie, My girlfriend of six months has worn the same bra every day now for two weeks. I really wonder: Is this a normal thing for most women or a psychological issue? I feel it is a matter of hygiene, abnormal behavior, and also really gross.
—Dirty Laundry
Dear Dirty,Perhaps your worries about hygiene arise from watching too much soft-core porn in which women get in the shower and soap their breasts for extended periods. This is not because breasts are intrinsically dirty but because such scenes are gratifying to dirty minds. If bra hygiene were an actual issue, don't you think American womanhood would have been subjected to decades of commercials along the lines of, "What's that smell?" "It's Myrna's bra. Someone has to tell her!" On your behalf, I actually polled some of the cleanest women I know on their bra-washing schedules. The answers ranged from "weekly" to "when my white bras look black and can walk themselves to the washing machine." The average was a monthly laundering. So your girlfriend's behavior is perfectly normal and neither unhygienic nor gross. I understand that the intimate rituals of the opposite sex can be mysterious and even repulsive to the uninitiated. But if you want your girlfriend of six months to be your girlfriend six months from now, you will drop the judgmental tone and think of yourself as a lucky explorer of a fascinating, strange land.
—Dirty Laundry
Dear Dirty,Perhaps your worries about hygiene arise from watching too much soft-core porn in which women get in the shower and soap their breasts for extended periods. This is not because breasts are intrinsically dirty but because such scenes are gratifying to dirty minds. If bra hygiene were an actual issue, don't you think American womanhood would have been subjected to decades of commercials along the lines of, "What's that smell?" "It's Myrna's bra. Someone has to tell her!" On your behalf, I actually polled some of the cleanest women I know on their bra-washing schedules. The answers ranged from "weekly" to "when my white bras look black and can walk themselves to the washing machine." The average was a monthly laundering. So your girlfriend's behavior is perfectly normal and neither unhygienic nor gross. I understand that the intimate rituals of the opposite sex can be mysterious and even repulsive to the uninitiated. But if you want your girlfriend of six months to be your girlfriend six months from now, you will drop the judgmental tone and think of yourself as a lucky explorer of a fascinating, strange land.
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Sometimes I wonder if men have more hang ups than women do. Yep. Meanwhile, skid marks in his underpants, wiping boogers under the couch, power farting and playing flick football on the kitchen table with a rolled up pair of smelly gym socks is acceptable. Saxy.
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ugh...RACE TRACKS....***shudder***
and I have to deal with the farting too....I love men but man are they gross!
when i answered phones for an escort service, the 'ladies' as i called them, would constantly complain that men were not lifting their nut sack and washing underneath....
OMG! LMAO!
Miss Tia - AAAGGGHHHH.....That image will give me NIGHTMARES....ick
I love how we have to wax/shave everything. Plaster makeup on our faces. Barely eat what we want. And stay sweet.
While men have to.....uummm....
ugh.. i HATE that women are expected to shave EVERYTHING nowadays... if you're that worried about hygeine and cleanliness take a look in the mirror first!
re: Miss Tia's comment on nut sack cleaning
EW EW EW EW!!!!!!
I'm not a clean freak but I launder my bras way more than Miss Prudie suggests. Like every two days. I don't like the 'has been worn' odor. I like the fresh from the laundry odor.
As for the grooming requirements, male vs female....yeah it's very unbalanced. Why are we not acceptable as is? I complain about it, but I don't feel pretty or clean unless everything resembling hair is gone. I hate it but I do it anyway. So I'm a hypocrite too.
I don't get the whole "bare down there" thing. Hair is there for a reason and it will stay there. Granted, groomed but there. I'm 35, not prepubesent.
As far as laundry goes, I can throw on a tank top under something if I need to. I'm small enough that bras are optional once winter guys anyway.
Hits not guys. Hate predictive text on BlackBerrys although it kind of seems like a bizarre Freudian slip.
One good thing about getting divorced is never having to wash those nasty unnerwears again!!!
I guess it's a good think that guy didn't ask how long a woman keeps a bra. That's where we are like men with their tattered underwear. A good bra stays until it can no longer hold!
I wash my bras once a week or every week in a half because I honestly cannot afford to buy more and the ones I do buy are cheap and tear apart easily.
What kind of lot-lizard service were you working for miss tia?. Washing, soaping and inspecting wedding tackle is a daily joy in the shower for most men.
I did go for 72 days without a shower while working in the field once, and I had dirty clothes hanging from my pack trying to dry them from anyplace they would stick.
Jarhead
"inspecting wedding tackle" LMFAO!
I wish I had little titties so I did't have to wear a bra. But noooooooo I have to spend $30 plus on Bali minimizers. Machine wash is ok.....never in the dryer
Another gross male habit, chewing off finger nails and spitting them on the floor. Cutting toenails and leaving them-wherever. Bra gets washed when it's stretched out.
Geez. Have I been living under a rock? I thought bras were underwear and had to be changed and washed every day!
OMG Miss Tia that is so wrong!!!!! ewwwwwww!!!! Hubs is pretty good about cleaning himself up, thankfully.
He lied to me, though, when we first met. I asked him if farting was a problem. He said no, in reality, yes they are a problem. A very raunchy problem. When I jokingly tell him that he coerced me into believing otherwise, he says: "But I don't have a farting problem!! I get gas, I fart, no problem!!"
Haha I just got done catching up with the last few months of prudie questions, all because of the bra question!
I wash mine when it needs it, every few days to a couple of weeks.
Oh and I always make sure to wash my husbands stuff myself, its foreplay at its cleanest!
If I washed my bra everyday, it would quickly fall apart! I only have a couple anyway, their difficult to find & if they're not comfortable they go in the trash.
Escrow-I wore those for years and years. I couldn't imagine leaving the house without a bra. I still usually wear one but I don't have to. I do need covers for the headlights. Big time.
I still like the after-surgery bras and haven't been able to really get used to any other kind. I feel weird wearing an underwire, kinda unnecessary. No wire, close in front.
Meanwhile, Minisnark now says, "brar" like Jill from RHWONY. We just can't help it.
This is the reason women have way too many brassieres. You wear them over and over UNLESS you have been sweating (like yard work, humid day, or hot flash). Then you wash them in the sink with some Woolite and air dry.
Hubs used to throw them in the washer and the dryer. OMG I could have killed him.
He wondered why I would wear them over and over too. I told him it is the mysteries of womanhood..you will never understand.
Well I was cursed with double d's again after having my daughter and know im down to a d. I hate having big boobs and wearing a bra. They are very expensive. Yes I'm one of the gross ones. Since I only have 3 that fit good. I wash them when they need them. I have others but they dont fit so great. I do take a bath/shower every night. I also dont sweat alot.
This is amazing to me. I never wear a bra more than twice without washing it, and I feel guilty when I wear one twice. Of course, I'm a "nearly B" and don't wear underwires, so mine go into the washing machine.
The last time I bought bras, I bought them online. I think they have about the best prices.
http://www.juliasbrashop.com/
I try to wait for a sale. That way I can have at least 5 all the time and just throw them in the washer and dryer once a week.
I don't have "a lot" for them to hold up so I don't need a wire and don't have to buy expensive bras.
Ever since my first bra my mom said we should hand wash our bras and panties nightly, usually with a bar of Ivory soap and hang it up on the shower pole to dry. Otherwise you'll get those yellowing deodorant stains on the bra. She was right. It's just something I've always done with the bra. The panties go in the washer. My mom is 82 and it's not unusual to see her snow white bras and underwear hanging up in her bathroom. I think it comes from her growing up in foster homes when she had only 1 bra and pair of panties.
ChitownPeg,
How right you are. My Mother was an orphan, and she always washed her "unmentionables" each night, as well.
I can still hear her telling me, "Always make sure your underwear is clean. You might get in an accident."
As soon as I read "Washing, soaping and inspecting wedding tackle" without reading any further, I knew it was our Jarhead. Too funny!
Yeah I thought bras were like underwear too requiring daily changing/washing. I have enough to cycle through a week until laundry day or beyond if I don't feel like doing it. Sometimes I just don't wear one. If nobody's going to see me, then no way am I going to wear one if I don't have to. Hate wearing them. Hate that I have boobs that require it. That's the way the flab rolls.
I wash my bra's every few weeks. I'm not dirty or sweaty so you wouldn't even be able to tell that they were worn. Does that make me dirty? I could care less. Once the bra comes off the man forgets about it anyway =p
men are just nasty asses. MissTia...LMAO! EW!
Men expect everything from a owman and they really dont do anything in return except get nastier.
I read this in a recent Cosmo: "Men marry women hoping they dont change, women marry men hoping they will". How true is that?!
rox
Dirty nasty black or grey bra straps are so gross. Once met a woman at a field office for a construction company. Her dirty bra straps were showing. Me & my husband both noticed it. Went back a few days later & the same dirty bra strap was showing. Thats just dirty and foul. It is. Wash my VS bras weekly, I have several & rotate them around so they dont actually ever get dirty unless I am out working in the yard sweating. Then I dont wear them till washed. I figure they are about like underwear, we sweat in our bras people and our hands touch them and they do get soiled & it can show. Please wash the bras. Dont EVER dry a bra in the dryer tho!!! It ruins the elastic & stretches them out. Jeez...
rox
I had *no* idea - I thought everyone washed bras after a day of use!
jesh...you ladies need to grow a pair and tell your man he needs to work at washing under his nut sack and his butt crack (it aint like its a tough skill to master). Have him shower at night BEFORE he gets into bed. And if he really wants to keep things neat and fresh, he should try keep things neatly trimmed down/back there rather than looking like an ape and having a crack filled with dingle berries. I "make" (she doesn't object too badly) my wife buy a new bra and matching panties every month or so and then she usually throws out an old pair. Fart heads suck. I will get out of bed or go to another room if I have to pass gass...just inconsiderate no to.
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