I just watched some Table For Twelve, call it curiosity. It gave me a headache. And why does TLC show all these big families going to the dentist? Why would I want to watch your kids at the dentist? It's gross. Put that thought aside, all I can think of when I watch the Duggars and the Hayes' is..THIS IS HELL. This is a living burning torturous hell where you never get a minute to yourself and you do nothing but run with constant screaming in your ears until you die. Until you fucking die! Why would anyone want to do this? If I didn't believe in selective reduction, I wouldn't get fertility treatments..ever..because if someone told me I was having a litter, I would jump off a bridge. No shit. I would come out of the ultrasound office door and drive straight off a bridge. Going a hundred and twenty miles an hour and cussing all the way down. Am I the only one??? This is fucking loud ass never ending sweet Jesus kill me now HEEEEEEEELLLLLL. "Mooooom! Waaaaaa! Daddy, waaaaaa, waaaaaaaa, I want, waaaaaaaa!" Fuck me with a steam roller. TLC couldn't pay me a billion dollars an episode to be a breeder.
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Thats hilarious woman!!! I had 2 kids. Done. The 1st one never slept all night for 2 1/2 years. His baby sister was born 2 weeks after he decided to sleep. I even had to rock him when he was still inside. Very restless. Even to this day, 26 years later, this child does not require much sleep. It's insane. I need to sleep. If I had even twins I'd have died. I don't get it either. And they usually have very nice homes, cars and can afford to take 15 ppl to the dentists at once. I couldn't do that. My kids were lucky to see a dentist when I could afford it. Where the hell do these ppl find money to have all this? Even food would be hundreds a week. I would have to run away. I couldn't deal with all of it. The dishes, laundry, the poop, the crying, no sleep. Nope.
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I had two, ten years apart. Raising kids is so stressful it took me a decade to be ready to do it a second time. I love my kids, but, 24/7 with a dozen? No, no way in hell. Lissa wears me to a frazzle and destroys my house in 10 minutes. I thought it was just me.
Love, love, love kids. I have three, *probably* could have handled four, but that's the absolute limit. I just don't get it. I'm sure these people (w/ the exception of Khate) genuinely love kids - so why would they have so many that it becomes impossible to have quality time with any of them?
I guess I'm sitting all by myself in the multiples section. I only had one, but wanted more. I had fertility treatments to have him, and part way through treatments to have another, my husband suddenly decided he didn't want any more kids. I was heartbroken. I would have been happy to have whatever I could have (but would have settled for one more), but he wanted none of it. I truly love him or I would not have stayed, it's that strong a desire.
That said, the Duggars and any other multiple family make me mad. They all have baby after baby after baby, and to some extent, they all suck the resources dry. My own niece makes me so furious with her repetitive birthing I just want to puke. She couldn't cope with babies, and continued to birth anyway. Five children, and they've all been taken away from her, but we have to protect her right to be a baby machine. I wonder what all these families look like behind closed doors?
Christina
Christina, I comforted my crying daughter on the phone last night because the test was negative..again. She is the sweetest most loving person I know and deserves baby. A baby could never ask for a better mom than Casey. Idiots and abusers have kid after kid. I just don't know what to say sometimes, it's so unfair.
DD, I don't think you are horrible at all. I believe the trap/spay/neuter/return concept should be applied to some humans too. I have a friend who knows a few vasectomy ninjas....
Pat I totally agree with you. I am pregnant via fertility treatments and I knew if I would have had more than two I would have opted for reduction. I actually got bashed on my blog for stating that opinion. It was just my opinion. I could not imagine having a "litter".
Pat, I feel for Casey. Sounds funny coming from someone with three kids, but there's a reason why there's a five year gap b/w my first and second kid. It was rough for me, and I already had one (and knew how lucky I was).
Hopefully it'll all work out for her. Then she'll feel the way I do now - she'll have a wonderful child and won't be able to imagine *not* having that particular child, and with time the pain of getting to that point fades. Which of course doesn't help her now, I know - I was pretty bitter during that time, and I don't think anything anyone said to me would have made any difference. Odds are in her favor, though - fingers crossed.
I'm not supposed to have kids because I have a bad heart. It's okay though, I'm not sure if I want them anyway. I certainly wouldn't want that many, it would drive me nuts.
I was on a message board once where they were talking about one of these shows about people who have lots of kids. They were talking about some show were the parents already had about 14 kids and were pregnant with another. Their older kids did not seem happy about it. Everyone on the message board was criticising the kids for not being excited about getting another sibling. I was like, "Are you kidding me? Why should they be excited? They hardly have room to move in that house, and all they do is babysit! I wouldn't be excited either!"
Pat, you are not alone on this one. I am a twin but lucked out and had my 4 one at a time. I would NEVER want to deal with high order multiples because everyone suffers. Doing fertility without reduction is a huge risk to all and poses developmental and sanity risks to all involved after delivery.
I wanted to like this family but I can't. It's nice that the father still works and that they treat each other with respect but it's NOT NICE that 2 sets of twins weren't enough for this family.
This overuse of fertility drugs is disgusting. What is it telling the twins (and cara and mady) when they always want more more more? When is enough?
Also, they show bathroom things too. I give this family 5 years before they are also tabloid fodder and divorced.
Bernadett, thank you for that encouragement. I tell Casey I know she will have kids, one way or the other. She will.
And yeah, I don't get the multiple craze, how do they spend any quality time at all with so much to do. And the constant chaos, omfg. It's just a living hell to me. I saw an ep of the Duggars and it showed thier girls room. The big girls each has a baby crib at the foot of their beds! Jesus, nothing like having so many that the siblings have to raise the babies. That's just wrong. It goes way beyond "helping."
I'm with you, Pat. I really love children, their innocence, unconditional love,etc. My 3yr. grandson can wear me down real fast, never could I babysit 6-3yr, olds, never!
Pat, I am so sorry your daughter isn't pregnant yet. It's such a painful, sad thing to go through. The medications make many women feel terrible. Which makes you feel like you are going through all this for nothing. The sad desperation of getting your hopes up each month is more than many can handle. I hope that your daughter has a positive result very soon, and has a beautiful, healthy, baby. Once she is holding that baby, none of this will matter any more.
There just doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason to fertility, does there? I look at my sister's kids, and wonder why they are able to multiply. It just kills my sister, who only wants to indulge and spoil her grandkids. What I haven't previously mentioned, is that my niece never told any of us on this side of the family in either instance, that she is losing the kids, until they are actually gone and settled elsewhere. My sister probably would have taken her grandchildren in (I know I would have), but she has not had the opportunity in either instance. I don't know why people make the choices they do. I don't know why fertility is visited on those who can not handle children, and others who would make wonderful parents, have to struggle until it becomes work.
Christina
I'm with you on that one too. I love my kid. He's almost 14 and I'm still not ready to do it again. I won't ever do it again.
Life today is demanding, stressful and intense. Personally I could not do a good job by my children if I had that many. I stayed with one because I had the resources to support one emotionally, physically and mentally. I can't imagine being able to do that to individual children in a litter.
I have friends who are able to support as many as five children well. That was way beyond my limits. I admire them because in each case they have produced excellent adults and young adults. So I'm not saying having many children is wrong. I'm just suggesting having more children than you can support is wrong and in the case of litters it lacks moral sensibility.
LOL @ Vasectomy ninja!!!
A-fucking-men! Preach it, sistah! LOL!
I had my tubes tied aged 26 after my second kid. I asked the doc to pull my fallopian tubes out, throw them on the floor and stomp on 'em but he wouldn't promise. Heh.
No it's not just you DD. And we're not horrible, we just know our frigging limitations, is all.
I've taken care of that many, I used to teach elementary. And when I turned 12 I was farmed out to some people who had a big family and I took care all thier kids and their friends kids with no help, day and night. But, that's not forever. When you think about the noise and confusion and stress forever, it's like a death sentance, not a family.
What I think is disgusting is when people choose to have a ton of kids and then expect everyone to send them free shit to help them out. Kate Gosselin and Octo-Mom are not the first to do this, remember those people who had eight kids in 1997? McCoughey, or something, their name was. They got a free house out of the deal and were still whining, "Oh wah, we need help, please help us support our babies!" This after they had fertility treatments to have more kids! WTF. Don't have fertility treatments if you can't afford children, you greedy idiots.
PS I am not including people here who have kids and then fall on hard times and need help. I am speaking of people who *know* they won't have enough money to support a whole litter of kids, but go ahead and have fertility treatments anyways.
I feel bad for the kids, how can you spend quality time with them. Fertility drugs are strong stuff, the after effects are still largely unknown.
That's what I think every time I watch one of these shows...I KNOW I couldn't cope with that many kids.
I thought I was done having babies since my husband had a vasectomy. Four and a half YEARS later, I became pregnant with my 3rd. She's 4 now, and of course we couldn't be more thrilled but MAN was I pissed during that pregnancy. Still waiting for my husband to get another one, but I'll probably have to get my tubes tied instead, since it was hard enough getting him to go through it once. Men are such pussies.
Sending good, fertile thoughts Casey's way!
I have twin 4 year olds and they still wake up in the middle of the night and have major tantrums. I am sooo done. If I hade 10 more I would either run away, kill myself or check myself into a mental hospital. Actually my two want me to enter myself into a nut house.
I think it is all crazy for people ot have litters just for the simple fact the kids don't get enough "parent time". Everyone always ohhhs and ahhs over people having big families, but why don't they ohhh and ahhh for people who have done a good raising 1 or 2? I just think too big of a family is a drain on everyone, monetarily, emotionally, physically...
I've got my two and I'm done. But I'd love to have TLC come film my life to show the other moms out there that all this crazy shit you do and think and say is NORMAL! Hot dogs for breakfast? Sure! Mom's tired so let's push baths off one night? Of course! Who wouldn't? Scream until your face turns blue? Duh. Before 9am? Absolutely.
I taught for 5 years almost. I got burnt out. I had to find something new. So I changed to business. I couldnt hack it anymore. I just dont know how these multi parents do it. I probably would of walk out, shut my door locked myself inside, hooked on happy pills and shit and said F it im out.
I love kids dont get my wrong but that many and half of them the same age. Holly Crap that would drive me Fin bonkers.
Truth be told, I only liked/loved my own kids. :-) Oh, okay, I liked my grandkids, too because I could send them home.
The table for 12 kids drive me nuts--the show is contrived and the kids are brats (and very scripted) except for the poor little one with cerebral palsy. To have high order multiples is selfish, in my opinion, because chances are great that one or all might suffer from a birth defect.
As far as Casey, DD, my fingers are crossed. I have a friends who, many years ago, decided they couldn't conceive on their own so they adopted. Six months after they got the baby, they had their own child. Surprise, surprise! Of course, that was long before the pregnancy tests they have, now. Both boys were treated and raised as equals. The doctor thought it was just a matter of "relaxing" and not trying so hard. I had another friend who had difficulty and she used to stand on her head right after sex! It worked.
I think all kids, including the Duggars, the Roloffs, and the Hayes (can't stand the parents--they are SO phony) should not become TLC's next victims.
Complete change of subject. DD, did you ever watch Pawn stars--they have some interesting items that come it. Fodder for a new blog--I think you'd like the show.
DD,
A good friend of mine was told early in her marriage she would never conceive. The doctor didn't have an explanation, just that she was one of the few that couldn't get pregnant. Anyway, she was fine with that and they adopted a son when he was a baby. Well, when the son turned
13, guess what? She got pregnant!! They were so elated. They love their son, but she always wanted her OWN kid. They had a little girl who turned one this past November.
~Palmetto Girl
The way to get pregnant is adoption. I've heard that so much. But, by then you'd realize you don't have to give birth to be a parent. I think my daughter knows this and I'll betcha she ends up with at least one adopted baby that we all worship. She really want to experience birth and pregnancy though.
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