There's box of Iris's waiting to be planted..they'll probably get planted too, even though I don't want them. It's not their fault. My mom brought them over in a bag and said they came from a neighbor who was cleaning up their yard. And I thought, that old drunk should be taking down her cheesy plywood Christmas decorations instead of digging up Iris's. We already have a ton of that shit anyhow. So, I ignored them. Today mom had put them in boxes and set them in front of my door, so I had to kick them out of the way to let the dog out. She makes me so tired.*
Mom wanted me to go run my brother around yesterday and I didn't feel good. She about had a hissy when I told her no. Today she lectured me on "We have to start taking care of him! We have to take him places!" Uhh, no, that's why he lives in a care facility. And by "we" she meant me, since I drive. All last Summer she was over here every day telling me to take him somewhere. It gets old. So, today I had to go out anyhow, so I took him. Turned out he only wanted to go pants shopping. He wanted new pants because he thinks the washing machine out there smells weird. I leaned over and smelled his knee and told him it smelled like clean jeans. I don't know what he thinks it smells like. He's so weird. I think he doesn't like sharing a washing machine with people he doesn't like. Yes. He is that strange.
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He has obsessions and compulsions about fucking EVERYTHING. Like, he wouldn't go into one store because there were too many cars in the parking lot. He wouldn't go into a convenience store because there was a red truck parked too close to the entrance. He's only scared of red trucks, not other colors. He doesn't understand pricing and tax and can't add and..omg, everything is a huge deal. And he needs a walker, and he won't use one because they don't look cool. Like he looks cool anyhow..it's so fucked up. So, what am I supposed to do if he falls? Call 911? I can't get him up and I really thought he was going to fall.
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The shits of it is..he has people who are paid to take him places, a whole list of people..but, he doesn't like the days they schedule or he doesn't like sharing a ride with other residents or the sky is blue and the grass is green or whatever the fuck dumb rule he comes up with. My mom is crazier than he is, at least he's in a facility. She's still running around loose. Man, I am so sick of her shit. I am not responsible for my brother. I feel sorry for him, but, he's just gonna have to suck it up and get past his weird compulsions and fears because I am not running out there every day because he needs a diet Pepsi or pants that don't touch his roommates laundry.
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Every time I step out the door my mom runs outside and tells me something that needs to be done. There for awhile she was leaving me alone because it looked like I was gonna kick the bucket. But, I'm still here so she's decided I work for her again. The lawn needs mowed! Your brother needs a root beer! Fuck that noise. Hire a lawn mower..buy some drug addict a riding mower, then you'll own his ass. I am NOT mowing.
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I guess I might as well go plant those Iris's. Only because I feel sorry for them. It's raining and she won't come out in the rain.
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DD, plant the Iris's, at least when they are blooming there will be some beauty. Maybe enough to block out the ugliness next door.
Plant them where you dont have to care about them crowding out other things. I had to take a shovel and split my lillies all up this past weekend. I cannot stand huge big lily bushes all over the place. So, I split them and have yet to replant the split off remains. I am putting them somewhere where I dont care about what they look like but will still grow & bloom. I had iris' given me to me before. They stopped blooming a few years ago. I used to have a sh**load of them. I dunno, they just died I guess. So, did my butterfly bush that was next to them. THAT almost broke my heart. I am getting a new one this spring tho. I replaced my russian sage and want more. Stuff just dies sometimes, no explanation. But we do have mole trouble and those damn Jap beetles! Those are hard to kill.
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How do I kill the damn moles? Somebody told us to stick strips of Juicy Fruit gum in the trails! They can't digest it after they eat it. My yard looks like a bomb went off in it! And the Jap beetles? I just Sevin dust them, but they seem immune to that. They eat everything :( Any ideas? Thx.
Damn Japs!
DD go to your hardware store and get a
padlock with chainlink set and lock her in
to her house from the exterior door. She's
beyond a menace now ! Just tell lissa that
she went on an extended vacation and you
are keeping her junk all safe. Try to invite your
crazy aunt elvis lover to her house before you
do it. What great success if you take care of
them both at once. Like you got a 2fer. Idk
what to say but your brother maybe how he is
as a result of your mom bullying and badgering
him his whole life through. She still has a lot of
steam in her engine by the looks of that box of irisis
and her manipulative daily antics. Do what you have
to do DD to find a bit of peace :) Kiki.
I'm sorry DD, OCD is a tough disorder and I know it drives non-OCD people insane. I have it too but not nearly that bad as your brother. Is your brother on medication? Sometimes psych drugs can really help with OCD, although unfortunately this doesn't happen often. (They don't help me.)
It sounds like your brother hasn't done any exposure therapy either. If he did that he would have to confront his fears and try to fight them. I'm guessing he is not in good shape other than the OCD so this might not be an option for him.
Either way, you're right that you're not responsible for him of course. He needs to suck it up and get on the bus when he wants something. Or else your mom needs to get a taxi and bring him what he wants. Tell she she can do that if his needs are so important to her!
Pat, I hear you on the 'not using the bus' topic. When my mom was in an assisted living facility years ago, they had a bus that went out twice a wk. to the grocery store & pharmacy. Do you think mom would go on the bus? No, she wanted my sis to haul over there everytime she needed something. I'd go down on wkends (I lived 100 mi. away) just to give my sis a rest. Take her shopping, out to eat, etc. and try and wear her out. One time when she called my sis, she and her hubs were 'doing the deed' and mom's msg. is just "SUSAN, where's my meat?" LOL, they cracked up and couldn't continue. (She meant she wanted her lunch meat, she refused to go down to the dining room and socialize and eat, except for dinner. B'fast and lunch was in her room...using a microwave and she had a dorm frig. She died 14 yrs. ago. Sis and I still laugh at some of her 'antics'.
DD...I wish I was close by, I would take your irises. I love them but can't seem to keep the alive from year to year. When we moved into this house, there was a large area of tall,yellow irises. They started dying out and that was it.
hopefully your iris' will bloom and make something beautiful that came from something ugly.
Glue some of those oldtimey joke hand buzzers to those irises so when she comes to pull them up (and she will) they'll shock the Hell out of that old bat.
Too bad she did not give you a fast growning hedge. Then you could have planted it between her §§ you.
Anon April 16, 2010 6:07:00 PM - don't they sell the "bag a bug" (for the japBees) anymore? They worked around here! My neighbors on either side of me used to put them up. I hardly see a Jbee anymore.
I use that bag of bug stuff..I throw it all around the outside of the house. I don't know what's in it, but, it works.
I planted the Iris by the clothes line where I can't mow. Maybe they'll kill the weeds there. I don't really care, they're on their own now.
When do I dig the iris`? I have some that have been in the same spot for maybe 5 years. Do I wait till they bloom, before they bloom? I live in CT.
Thanks in advance!
I am worried for you, DD. Having someone this nuts next to you, that doesn't stop hammering on you to do whatever crazy thing she desires at the moment is too hard for someone with health issues.
I know it's easy for me to say, but limiting anything you do for these people to a few set hours a week is the only way to handle it, I think. You are going to wear yourself out completely trying to do for these ungrateful wretches. This is an almost impossible situation, as you are living right next to the worst thing for you. I don't know how you can escape her influence, as she is always right there, watching your comings and goings, and she has no problem encouraging others to vandalize your yard.
I find my own relatives difficult enough to deal with, but no-one damages my home, or lives next to me, making my life near impossible.
At least you will have some pretty irises, unless she uproots them.
I feel for you, Pat.
Heidi, those things are unkillable..you can dig them anytime. Even when they're in bloom.
Christina, thanks. You may have an idea how stupid they are..and annoying. I'm not taking them anywhere anymore. They just take advantage and take up ALL my time.
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