I am not going to Aunt Ruth's funeral, because there won't be a funeral. The relatives have decided Ruth didn't like funerals. Umm, no one likes funerals, but, anyway...my mother and aunt Bitch Face have decided to have Ruth cremated (that's their cheapest option) and bury her...are you even ready for this?......Bury her remains on top of my grandmother. Yep, you read that right. The reason? "Ruth loved Mama so, she would like to be with Mama." I don't even know if this is legal. Who seriously shoves a dead person into another dead persons already occupied grave??? Wouldn't it make more sense to bury Ruth with the husband she loved who is also in the Guntown graveyard with my Grandma? And put a small marker up with their names on it? No, that's not how it works here. They aren't even hiring one of those "expensive grave diggers," they're going to get one of the cousins to dig the hole..on top of Grandma..and they already have all the cheap plastic flowers from the dollar store.*
Nothing they do shocks me anymore. When my uncle died last year, they threw his ashes on the lilac bush in the front yard..because "Lloyd loved his garden." First, that is NOT his garden, it's a scraggly lilac bush you never water, right by the front door. And second, he has kids that might have liked to visit his grave but, now they can't because he's in a mud hole in the yard. Aunt Ruth fared better, I reckon. At least she has a grave..not her own, but, it is in a cemetary.
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And so the crying to Jesus in the front yard has started, complete with falling to your knees, arms outstretched to heaven, begging Jesus to let them in and stopping complete strangers in the street to tell them Ruth has gone to heaven! Waaaaaaaaaaa!
And so the crying to Jesus in the front yard has started, complete with falling to your knees, arms outstretched to heaven, begging Jesus to let them in and stopping complete strangers in the street to tell them Ruth has gone to heaven! Waaaaaaaaaaa!
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My family is beyond crazy and I hate them with a passion unbridled and unrestricted. All of this brings back such hurtful bad memories of two years ago when I had to save my dead son from this fate. They wanted to bury him on top of Grandma..a grandmother he didn't even remember..in their unmowed Guntown graveyard. I can still hear my mother shouting at everyone "I WILL HAVE HIS REMAINS! I WILL SUE YOU, I WILL HAVE HIM WITH MY MAMA!" No, no ya won't old lady. I buried him where he wanted to be, far from them, in his own grave with an awesome headstone with his own name on it. To be far removed from this family and their shit..forever. I hate my family. I hate them, they are the craziest most dysfunctional bunch of sonsabitches who ever lived. And it just goes on and on.
My family is beyond crazy and I hate them with a passion unbridled and unrestricted. All of this brings back such hurtful bad memories of two years ago when I had to save my dead son from this fate. They wanted to bury him on top of Grandma..a grandmother he didn't even remember..in their unmowed Guntown graveyard. I can still hear my mother shouting at everyone "I WILL HAVE HIS REMAINS! I WILL SUE YOU, I WILL HAVE HIM WITH MY MAMA!" No, no ya won't old lady. I buried him where he wanted to be, far from them, in his own grave with an awesome headstone with his own name on it. To be far removed from this family and their shit..forever. I hate my family. I hate them, they are the craziest most dysfunctional bunch of sonsabitches who ever lived. And it just goes on and on.
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My cab driver in Tijuana had that same Jesus on his dashboard. Is that sugar icing?; looks delicious.
Jarhead
It's plastic. Plastic Jesus is watching them.
How embarrassing. Who wants to be remembered in such a humiliating, undignified manner?
You have no idea how crazy these idiots are. Tip of the iceburg here.
What cracks me up is people who don't belive a body can be buried on their property. Oh, yeah, if you bought it from my family, there is. They've buried three people on this property and a couple on my aunts. Dug the holes themselves..they are fucking crazy! No one has any idea how crazy and retarded they are.
Really? I honestly thought you couldn't bury a body in your yard. I actually don't have a problem with that (as long as the body is clearly marked, that is) but I'm sure they've somehow made it into a spectacle. Did the deceased people WANT to be buried in someone's backyard?
No, they didn't and it's not legal. They do it anyway because it's cheap. And they have money. I mean, they aren't rich, but, they have plenty. They're just fucking cheap and crazy. And no the graves are never marked, that would mean speding a dime. They'd rather take the savings and go to Vegas. Nuts, I tell ya.
Is there anyone out there anywhere reading this blog who has any idea how fucking crazy they are???? Anyone??????
Yes, I truly believe that they are crazy. I'm more than convinced of their craziness and their selfishness. People like them can't be fixed. They're broken and they want to break everyone else around them. I hate people like that.
Thank you. They have ruined my life and driven me to a stroke and they still won't leave me alone.
i believe that cemeteries allow cremated remains on top of coffins....but if they dig a grave without the cemeteries permission, the cemetery could get into state licensing problems if they found out....so the cemetery would have to know---if they don't, they should be made aware, by oh i dunno, anon call?
i think pretty much everywhere bans you from burying bodies in the yard....i think the state health department would oversee that....though if they wanted to dig a hole in the yard for a burial if the police would answer your calls they would be the ones to call....
i totally understand you hating them....there's nothing you could feel for them besides hate because of all they've done....
unfortunately i know exactly how you feel....i hope someday you are free of the mother thing and it will bring peace to your life...
These people are totally batshit crazy.
It's absolutely illegal to bury remains in your yard - in a normal town one call to police would put an end to it, along with fines.
Apparently, not in the Twilight Zone of Guntown.
Your crazy mother seems to think everyone deserves to be in the same hole as Gramma?
When the time comes, you'll have the happy option of giving your mother's ashes a sea cruise.
FLUSH!
Oh, this has made me think of what I will do with her unwanted reamains. You can bet on it.
I, for one, think we need to come up with a way to send the mother-thing to live in Britney Murphy's house. They're falling like flies around there......
This is another chapter for your bestseller. I remember the picture of Eric's grave with the beautiful and huge stone. The engraveing of the stone was very special. It's too bad that Ruthie's time was up and left the "author" and your Mom. That may sound bad, but it is how I feel.
Will the town allow them to dig their own hole at the Guntown cemetary? I think they have laws preventing that in a cemetary?
The cemetary is very remote and unwatched. They do whatever they want. All the time. I can't even begin to tell you the shit they've pulled.
LOL Tonya, I'll book her a room.
NancyB, yep. I put alot into that headstone and he's buried in a different cemetary with his best friend and not these whore relatives. I won't be buried there either, I want far away from them.
I have no words about this Pat.*jaw on floor..oh I need to mop today*
I want my body to be donated. Use the parts you can for transplants and the rest can go out for the state med school, and whatever else they can think of. No fuss. No muss. No money out of my family`s pocket.
I have already told hubs and both girls. I have donate on my license. I have to find out if there is more you have to do for all this to happen.
I have words.
They are batshit crazy..that is a couple.
If the cops wont listen to you then call your state health dept. Every state has one. Because that is just plain unsanitary to put it lightly. Not even talking about the moral parts about it.
Hello?? Isnt the county going to have to account for where the body went? Like doesnt paperwork for burials or cremations have to be signed and sent off to the state or something?
Wow, that was alot of words..LOL
I come from madness. No one has any idea.
can you imagine 50+ years from now if they are digging up your yard and find a body??
or what if they have to replace a sewer line, gas line, etc and they bring a backhoe and uncover a body?
Pat, i know in the Veteran cemetery they bury the husband and wife in the same spot, if that is desired. For instance, my Dad died first and he was buried at 6 ft. When his wife dies, if she desires, they will bury her at 3 ft. directly on top. That is the only place i know of that this is done.
Pat, can't you move? I seriously fear your life and definitely your health are at stake here.
Again, my deepest sympathies.Just let the crazies do what they want and save your sanity.
"Insanity, craziness or madness is a spectrum of behaviors characterized by certain abnormal mental or behavioral patterns. Insanity may manifest as violations of societal norms, including becoming a danger to themselves and others" from wkipedia
I'd say YES. they are insane, screwed in the head, around the bend, bats in the belfrey, fucking nuts.......
This too shall pass. It just has to.
If you have not done it this is a lesson for you to write down your burial plans and have a person you trust oversee your last wishes.
otherwise
you be on top of your great grandma
it always amazes me that people who are old never plan for their end of life care
My daughter will never let that happen. She knows what I want.
To Barbara....Yes, that can be done in other places too...my inlaws were buried that way in California. Shared headstone.
Why didn't your uncles children get the control of his remains? How does your mother seem to "own" everyone in that damn town? How is that even possible? What does she know that keeps getting her preferential treatment from everyone in that town? To dig a spot for a cremation remains is $75. Its just a jar or urn of some kind. It doesnt get buried as deep. U may be able, by law to have this done on top of a grave. But I am guessing the cemetary commissioners have oversight and would not allow someone to dig a grave themselves. Not legal!!! Of course your mother won't be in trouble if she does. She will probably get rewarded! I don't understand this town you live in. It's not right. It's crazier than Hooterville!!!
Rox
Bizarre, isn't it? They do what ever they damn well want. That's how they got my house that was in my name. The law does not protect from them. They are untouchable and completly crazy. I am in hell.
When my son died we had him buried under my fathers headstone. It was done with full permission of the cemetery and they did charge for opening the grave and the burial of his small casket. Not because we were trying to cut costs, I just didn't want my son to be alone.
That, I understand. This I don't. My son didn't want to be associated with them in life, I wasn't going to let them touch him. And I didn't. My mother made that time hell (like it wasn't already)with her crazy demands. She drove everyone crazy. The funeral director asked me to stop her from calling him. She was going to sue me. All this while I was buring my son.
Good Gawd...a mother sueing their own child!!! been there & done that. When she died I was not at the graveside service. My siblings that I have zero contact with 'cuz they are nuts too, wondered why I wasn't there. THATS how crazy they are! They just dont get it. If someone sues you, and you are their child. You gotta figure after the 3rd time that your parent no longer considers you their own and indeed must hate you. I get it. I got it and stayed away. They would have just tried to stick me with her burial costs anyways. I may sound mean, but the woman obviously hated me. I didnt want to be near that place.
rox
I've never heard of burying a body on top of another. My mom and dad are buried next to each other, sharing a headstone and each having an individual footstone. She bought 4 gravesites when daddy died. They were quite young when he died at 32 y/o. She was 6 wks. preg. w/my brother at the time, he's 52 y/o now, so long time ago. I was 12 and my sis 4 when dad died. Not sure why mom bought 4 sites, but maybe I'll be buried on one of the two that are left. There are 2 burial sites on each side of the headstone, mom and dad on one side of it.
Well, it's done now. Aunt Ruth is in a hole in Grandma's grave. The cousin dug it. My family needs to be locked up.
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