I don't feel too good today. Lissa was sick this weekend and now I think I'm getting sick too. There's nothing to blog about, everything is boring. What are you guys doing?
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Oh no, summer colds are awful! I hope you start to feel better soon. I am a diehard college sports fanatic and am just a tad bit excited that my team is competing for the College World Series. I hate that it's during the week, or we would have done a road trip to Omaha.
Bitching about having no cable or internet service at home since last Wednesday! So, we ripped out all the damn boxes and are returning them right now! I am at work but someone is doing it for me! Comcast can suck it! Except for when I need the internet, then they can just maybe not suck it then. Just fix it? Gawd, now I get what you were going thru. Except I can get online at work. But no tv, zero! Notta. rox
I just finished cooking bacon (in this heat) to make BLTs. I am taking the girls to the beach, and when I get back..I am going to water the garden. It is fucking HOT!
Sorry that you two are sick. I just got over the creepy crud myself.
rox---make sure whoever is returning it gets a receipt for the box because i know time warner has a nasty habit of charging people for returned boxes ($500) and when people say "i returned it" they'll say "do you have proof"? i bet your cable scum company would be the same way.....
think it's gonna be a lazy day....drained from yesterday.....might try to make an effort to find books in my bedroom.....
Oh, no, Pat! I'm sorry you're feeling sick. Hope your team wins, Palmetto Girl! Finally I have a day off. We slept in, and my husband is now up and trying to get our son up so they can go out looking for car crap. My son has an older Mercedes, and now my husband does, too. They go out to the you-pull-it type places, to see what parts they can get from other old cars of the same make, to fix up theirs. I went along once, and it was interesting from the standpoint of peeking into the other derelict cars and seeing what junk people left behind. It always makes me sad when I see a baby toy left, but some of the other stuff is interesting, and the parts are, of course, way cheaper than buying new. My husband is an absolute whiz at fixing cars and anything mechanical, electrical, etc. We always joke about him learning to use his "powers" for good instead of evil. My house is a mess, and I think I'm going to get serious about putting away all the junk. I want to have a garage sale, but we currently have so many cars that I don't know where people would park. We have a ton of stuff I want to get rid of. Periodically I watch Clean House, and find it very inspirational. The houses, all of them, are way worse than anything we have ever had, and most often people are able to break free of the mess. I don't have a problem with it for myself, but my husband could be a hoarder, and I find that very difficult to deal with. I am always cleaning a never ending supply of crap up. If my husband gets car parts in the mail, I find the packing label in one place, the box in another, packing materials in yet another, and the actual parts sitting around somewhere else. It drives me crazy. He really does not like to have me mess with any of it, either. Yesterday I signed up for about eight extra shifts in August. I don't know if they will give any of them to me as they will all put me in overtime, but they need the time covered, so we will see. I told the staffing person that I would like to experiment with the idea of having a big paycheck. I never sign up for extra, so I'm not sure how I would do with it, anyway. I'm going to finish defurminating the doggies today, and then give them flea treatments. The birds will get extra treats as they always do when I am home. It will be warm today, so I am thinking baby spinach, and watermelon. I miss little Zeus, but the family that we gave him to emailed us and told us he fits right in, and that the kids love that they have a rooster that they can hold and pet. I am hoping that when my son and husband are out and about, they will find me two more pallets and I can make a compost heap with all the grass clippings, dirt and chicken manure I have waiting. I've been wanting that for some time. I can't wait to organize that!
I'm sorry you don't feel well Pat! ((((Hugs)))) I plan to have a nervous breakdown, me...after 16 years of my son not knowing his older half-brother/sister, 2 months ago they rediscovered each other. Come to find out, she was in an abusive marriage and was desperate to get out--so last week she and her 3 kids (all under age 6) moved in with us despite the fact that we can barely keep ourselves going. My son told me if I didn't like it I could get the fuck out (even though it's MY place, my bills, etc). I work from home for Citi Mortgage and it has to be quiet (customers are not to know we are home agents), so guess how well THAT'S going with 3 kids? Plus the ex is bugging the piss out of us 24/7. I want out of here and in my own quiet place so badly! I already have health problems and suffer anxiety attacks, some so severe I've been hospitalized. My asshole doc won't keep me on my regimen of meds (which kept me leveled out enough that I could work away from my home, which I can't now but disability refused me) because he "feels uncomfortable" prescribing them! I had been on that combination of meds for 9 years and was doing great! Now, I think I'm in danger of just giving the fuck up. I hate my life--I'm trapped in it and my traitorous sick body is trapping me inside it too. I don't have many people to talk to, so today it's you guys. Does ANYONE know a good disability person who can help me? Please?
Kim, if you were in the Portland area, I would know of someone, but I'm thinking you're more Midwest to Eastern part of the country, am I right? That sounds like you are having a really tough time of it. I am sorry that your doctor isn't helpful right now. Have you told him about the new life situation that you have, and that you feel like you will have a nervous breakdown if you don't get immediate relief? If you haven't, then I think you should. . .today. If you have, then you need a second opinion, from a doctor that specializes in these types of medications, and you need that. . . today. Make some calls. You shouldn't have to face this current situation without medical support. There are doctors out there that would take good care of you, and I hope this guy either steps up, or moves aside. Be blunt with him about what you need and why you need it. Do not mince words. . . and if you have to leave a message with the receptionist, call back repeatedly until you get the response you need. Let us know how this goes for you, Kim. I am thinking of you.
I have been practicing with going out on my own. I was in a near fatal car accident 2 years ago and have spent the last couple of years learning a lot of daily life again. Recently, I have been testing my driving skills. I have refused to drive myself for fear of every other person on the road. I feel like they will all hit me. It hasn't been fun. My poor husband has been put through turmoil. I told him it was practice for when our son is ready to start driving.
Anyway, I drove myself to my sister's house this past Friday night. I was all alone and I did it! We had a party to celebrate my accomplishment. Of course, the rain came and caused me to nearly panic. I almost stayed the night with my sister but I mustered up my courage and got on with it. I drove the 40 minutes back to my house, IN THE RAIN and kept myself alive! Yay me!
So, today I feel accomplished and ready to take on the next task.
DD, I hope you feel better. Being sick when it is this hot really sucks hind tit!
Rox, cable companies suck. They know they have us by the 'nads and take complete advantage. Bastages!
Heidi, BLTs sound soooo good right now.
Miss Tia, enjoy your lazy day.
Christina, are you sure our husbands aren't the same person? :)
Kim, just wow. I can't even imagine.
Now, I'm going to wait for the delivery truck. My husband ordered a new lawn tractor and it is coming in today. I know I will be playing second fiddle to his new toy for the next few days.
Ok. So. Haven't even told my "IRL" friends this because I cannot believe it is happening and I'm kind of embarrassed.
We have been a 1 car household for a while, it's just worked for us. We'd rather put the money we'd spend on a second car somewhere else plus the car we had was paid off - no car payments for the last 5 years. We finally decided it was time to upgrade, needed something bigger. After lots of "shopping around" and trying to get financed, we were able to trade in our car & put down a few thousand to buy a used Explorer. Liked it, test drove it - everything was great.
Sign over the title on our car, cancel insurance, insure/register & pick up "new" truck on Friday. 30 minutes after pulling off the lot the steering wheel starts shaking and locking up. Pulled into the nearest shop and they say - needs new differential, new tires, new brakes. And that was just after a quick check. They say the car SHOULD NOT be driven at all, the differential was so bad the wheels will just stop at some point, no way to tell when.
Drive 45 minutes back to dealer and they're SHOCKED. "Had no idea" Can't believe it. yadda yadda yadda.
It is now Monday are still driving our old car, which we no longer own. Last I heard from the dealer they would do brakes & diff, but not tires. So I have ponied up more money to do tires.
I know this does happen, but I cannot believe it actually happened to us. I mean, seriously. I keep thinking it's a dream. Then I see my old car sitting in the driveway, and start crying.
I don't know what to do. I feel like we should back out, but legally I don't know how or if we can.
This much stress, a week before I'm to deliver can't be good.
Heidi- I went through a bacon phase a few months ago, many a BLTs were had in this house. Can't stand the thought of it now tho, lol. Glad I enjoyed them when I did.
There's a flu type bug going around here DD. Feel better soon. Have you gotten any mosquito bites lately? You have to watch out for that West Nile virus. Because of all the rain, we are loaded with mosquitos and they are ravenous.
We've had so much stinkin rain and high winds, it's wreaked havoc on my garden. My container stuff is doing ok but my in ground veggies are stunted and turning yellow. We've had close to 10 inches just this month. I need to get out and fertilize and kill slugs.
Heidi, my family are bacon fanatics. I put a double layer of foil on my gas grill rolled up on the edges, and cook my bacon there. It comes out great and I get a whole pound and a half done at once. It's easy clean up too.
PS: did you guys ever color your bacon? Last week I saw blue, yellow, green and red bacon on a site and the gal said she would post how-to. LOL..she said her kids loved it! I dont think it would be hard, DUH! Food coloring. Bacon seems to absord color easily. Sounds like fun! We used to add food coloring to our grits, it made breakfast more fun. MMM...blue grits! Yummy! LOL rox
Biz, You should have the option in your contract for a "buyer's remorse". Check it out and see if you do, that should entitle you to return the car and cancel the transaction. If that's an option, I'd do it and find another dealer. If it's not, then i'd recommend speaking to the dealership's general manager and threatening to involve your local news team's consumer reporter if they refuse to let you pick out a replacement or let you cancel a contact. I did this once and was amazed at how quickly I got my way when I threatened them with bad press. Also, feel free to use your pregnancy as an excuse to be a nightmare. People are afraid to fuck with pregnant ladies. Good luck.
Congratulations Shelton. Just like post traumatic stress disorder; you heal at your own pace. Seldom do you have a linear recovery, so don't be discouraged by any setbacks if you have any. Sounds like you have a lot of support from home and that is essential.
biz---that seems pretty fishy to me....tell 'em because of all the fuckery you want out of the contract...speak to the manager like iambrizy said....tell 'em you'll report them to the AG and/or BBB...
most states have lemon laws too, which i believe let you have THIRTY days.....
I thought lemon laws only applied to a vehicle purchased new? I could be wrong. In any case, you should have 3 working days to cancel any contract.
I've never colored bacon. All of my boys are grown. When they were little I never had to do anything special to their food to get them to eat. They weren't picky and never lacked an appetite. Though I'm sure they would have gotten a kick out of green or blue bacon.
tia, thanks! I text'd my fam to make sure they got a receipt and they had already been there but did get a receipt. 4 others in line in front of them were also returning their boxes and cancelling service. The line was very long and took a long time to get thru it. Every person in line had their boxes, obviously returning them, and like I said alot of people! That says alot about Comcast and their customer service. But yes, and they froze our internet at $19.99 for the next 6 mos and we had a zero balance today due to the lack of service so we dont even owe them anything right now! yay! I hate Cable company's. What a f'g joke! Thanks again Tia. rox
There is nothing more divine then hot bacon on toast with cold lettuce and salted tomato..a smidge of mayo. Yummm!
There is a flu-ish bug going around. I had to be tested for strep because the sore throat was really bad. But it was negative. I just have slight cough left.
Get thee to a new shrink (if you can) pronto! Docs that tell you they are not comfortable with giving out meds need to retire (in my opinion).
I am sorry you have to deal with that crap. It is easy for us to tell you "your house! Your rules!" but sometimes that is not so easy. I will just send you positive thoughts and hope it all gets better!
It is going to storm here in a bit. It has been so humid today. We went to the garden and picked sweet snap peas. Love to eat them whole! Monday night is always taco night in my house..i dont know why..LOL I have to get off here soon and make the guacamole.
Biz, Dayum!!! Do not agree to pay for anything!!! Thats a rip-off. They knew it was a POS when they sold it to you. I hate used car salesmen, LIARS!!! I had to replace my engine in my fabulous car after 6 mos and they basically told me to get effed. So, $6500 later plus a bigger car pmt, I had a new engine. They wouldnt do a thing about it. Sooo, I will be driving this car for a very long time, its like I paid for it twice. At least I got Karma on my side, they went out of business shortly after my incident. And they had been there a long time. Yes, please contact your local TV news station & tell them what happened, they will go there and film a story & then come & interview you at home. I bet the contract is canceled "forthwith"...DO IT!!! rox
Biz briezy is right get on to your tv ombudsman and expose them. In your condition they should be ashamed !
Kim can you go see another doctor and get back on the Rx to function outside the home. You need the meds in your system. Make the new doctor help you and report the old doc to the A. M. A. for malpractise. Let him know that you are filing a report before hand you may find he might alter his feelings and can prescribe you all your full doses of meds again. Most importantly bring a friend or family member you trust with you to all the apts as a witness when you see the docs. It will put them on notice that you are serious and that this is your life not a damn game !
Now for your son and his nonsense. This just started from what I read. It must be nipped in the bud now. Put your foot down and throw the lot of them out ! At once !!! You are in charge Kim tell them you can't have the noise of all those kids about. You work from home you can't have kaos in the background as noise. If they don't like it that's too bad. They shouldn't have overstepped the boundries of your home. Remind them that it is your home. Start as you mean to go on Kim right from the get go & let them know it. Good luck and let me know how you make out with the dr. Kiki :)
Rox I'm sorry about your cable cos in the us. We have much better policies up here in Canada. None of these hustlers I see on tv on my American stations. The USA has way to many providers. IO ,dish, direct tv , comcast, shaw, netzero, etc.... Just to name a few. It's really insane and they are all such tricksters with those annoying ads they put out. IO is the absolute worst one I've seen ! Yik ! Sorry Rox -kiki
Shelton do you have acess to C. B. G. T. to help with the fear of driving. Although I must say you did quite well not staying over your sisters home when the rainstorm came. Bravo I think your getting your own back. Just go slow and do what you can and get used to just sitting in the car with the engine on again. Get familiar with the noise and do it everyday even if you don't leave your driveway. It's an excercise in of itself just to familiarize yourself and not be afraid of the sounds smells surroundings of the car / driving experience. It will make you feel cofortable and less afraid if any at all. Just go in the car start it up and sit there for 2-3 5 min max listen to a song on the radio or just get into a habit that you need a car to get to and from places and see people you love. It really helps to expose yourself a bit everyday. I wish you well Shelton. Take care. Kiki :)
DD :) feel better soon and lil Lissa too :) - Kiki :)
biz...the more i think of that dealer, the more i get pissed...how could they NOT know it needed new tires or brakes?? fucking cancel the contract, hire an attorney if need be and fuck 'em.....you cannot put your family in an iffy vehicle....
Sorry you're feeling poorly, DD. Hope you're on the mend soon. It's my Friday so I'm happeh. It's everyone else's Monday, then Tuesday then it's WTF from there.
Thank you for the kind words. This has been a process. It took a year and a half to get me inside of a vehicle. The weird thing is, I don't remember the wreck but inside me somewhere I must remember. I would shake and tremble just sitting in the passenger seat. And God help us if someone remotely looked like they may hit us. I would scream and freak out. One day, it took my husband over an hour to get me back in the car at the grocery store. It felt really good last Friday to have some sort of freedom back. I'm quite sure Jeremy is sighing with relief at not having to drive Miss Daisy anymore. :)
Wow. Shelton, you are one strong woman. Way to go, getting in the car and driving, even in the rain! You go, girl!!
Biz---Is there anything lower than a used car salesman? That was mean and stupid to sell an obviously pregnant woman a piece of crap car. No wonder they get the reputation they do. I think that no matter what happens, you need to alert the BBB and. . . I think it's "Angie's List". . .not sure if I've got that right or not, but it is supposed to give you the real scoop on businesses. People need to know about those dishonest jerks, going in.
My mom was in a car accident this afternoon. She's okay, but her Pathfinder is not. Had to be towed, and I spent the afternoon with her, calling the repair shop, body shop, towing, insurance, my brother, getting the accident report taken care of, etc. She wasn't hurt, but I hope it doesn't spike her blood pressure high enough that she suffers other injury. My son and husband are still at the Pick-n-Pull. . . I think that's the new name for it, harvesting piles of crap to grace the driveway with. Right now there is about 50 feet of wiring, a jack, assorted other tools, and bits and pieces of interior in the driveway, and a mercedes bumper across the garbage can lid. Oh, and my husband's mercedes is up on ramps in the driveway, as well. Lovely. No. Really. I am so jealous of Miss Tia's cherries. That idea about freezing the juice in cube form is great. I'm going to have to see what I can do about coming up with a local alternative. I think it's time to go outside and rewater the chickies, and give them some melon to cool off with. This morning Free Bird lived up to her name and jumped out of the tractor while I was putting their feeder in. She kept flapping around just out of reach, and Little Miss Mia was trying to help me corral her. Or maybe she just wanted a little taste, I don't know. She's back where she belongs, though. I caught her eventually. :)
Thanks for the advice all. If it gets any worse (don't know how) then I might go to the news. I'm still overwhelmed that this has happened. Hubs says as long as the fix everything and our mechanic checks it out fine after then he wants to keep it. Our car, while not old, had been driven hard and had 150k miles, and was on it's last leg. So almost anything was better than that. I guess.
Shelton - good for you! I hope it only gets easier for you. I can say I know how you feel, but not as severely. I was t-boned a few years ago and miraculously was not hurt. My car was completely totaled tho. I couldn't drive for over a month. I still flinch whenever pass an intersection where cars are creeping forward.
biz---i disagree with your hubs....you put several thousand DOWN and they cuoldn't even have checked the brakes and tires??? if you bought this from an ad in the newspaper i might give this some leeway, but A DEALER??? NO, not a bit!!
it's shysty as FUCK that that happened....and to have them 'fix it'?? if they coudln't have seen that in the first place, how could they fix it? and they wouldn't even pay for new tires?!?!?
you're gonna have a new baby and you don't need this shit.....invoke the lemon law and get your money back and tell 'em to shove it...they said no, call the press....expectant mother given shaft by shady car dealer would make a good story.....
i'd check out that dealer with the BBB too....call your local BBB office....you could also call your state's attorney general office to file a complaint...
legitimate dealers check vehicles over before they sell 'em!!
I just read over at Evil Beet gossip that supposedly Kate G spends $6k every time she goes to the salon to have her extensions, cut, and color done. yeah right...she is struggling to survive.
Kim...I agree with Christina. I think she has given you some really good advice.
Some questions: Where is the girls mom? What is the situation with the girls dad? How old is your son? How did your son and step-sister find out about each other? Why are you saddled with this alone?
DD...try to take care of yourself as best you can so that you don't weaken your body any more than what it is. I'm assuming it's a summer cold because someone mentioned that. I have no advice on this subject. I think it's one of those things you just have to ride out. Rest and liquids---the panacea for all illnesses.
I had this long post written, and something went wrong.
Kim, do you have records from a psychologist, psychiatrist, etc. validating that you are unable to leave the house? I'm going to guess agoraphobia? If you have medical proof, and not getting any help, contact your state representative, write him a letter and let him/her know what is going on and see if you can get his help. My mom went through this years ago, and it was w/the help of her Senator that that she finally was awarded the disability. She went to DC a few times IIRC to meet w/the Sen. Also, and I'm sure you've already done this, but are you on an anti-depressant that has a anxiety component in it? Speak w/your dr. about that.
Biz, use your pregnancy to the utmost degree. I cannot believe they sold you that piece of crap. If you have a local news station that does investigative type work for members of the community, most definitely call them!
Shelton, you should be so encouraged and so proud of yourself! Way to go! Slow and steady is always the best route!
Oh, Kim - I'm w/BJ, how old is your son that took it upon himself to invite his newfound step sister into YOUR home? If he's old enough, I'd suggest to him that he get his own place, then he can ask anyone he wants to live there. If not, I might remind him this is your home, and anything involving it, goes through you first! Good luck!
Biz...I can understand not wanting to go through all this hassle. It's really a bad time for you. If you want to keep the Explore, as soon as they give it back to you, go to a Ford (?) dealer and have them do an inspection on the car. It will either give you peace of mind or it will give you something to work with if you have to go back to the dealer. Then if this doesn't help, go on with the other advice. Also, they should be able to give you the CarFacts on the car. That would tell you who the previous owner was. Maybe you could talk to them to find out what they had to say about the car.
Shelton...that is great news. You should be proud of yourself for what you have achieved. A 40 min. drive in the rain and by yourself is a job well done. You should be proud.
I was in a car accident a couple years ago and ever since then, i have issues with highway driving. I have a mini panic attack for days leading up to knowing i have to drive long distance. once i get behind the wheel, i have a teeny weeny freak out but once i start rolling down the highway..i really feel good. i had to drive my girls this past sunday an hour away. the drive up was hell. the drive back was heaven. You should be mega proud. The more you expose yourself to it..the better it is gonna get. Kudos to you!
It is humid!! I hate it!! We have a wonky sized window in our bedroom so we cannot have an air conditioner in here. I will dream of September from now until it cools off.
My husband has a touch of mental illness and it seems to get worse as he ages. I'm not sure what the exact issue is because he refuses to get help. His mother is the same way as he is. He wakes up at 4am because he can't sleep any longer. He goes to the gym, comes home and starts bitching about our house.It's so filthy (it's honestly not at all), my son's so lazy , he's tired of life, he works so hard and then he has to clean the house (not at all) .He walks around literally looking for something to complain about.He constantly says he's so tired of his life, he just wants to sell our house and run away. Then, the next day, totally normal and happy. I have no self confidence because he criticizes everything I do, eat,wear, say think, am. All I hear is negative. It is so hard for him to say something positive. I have to dig for a compliment about a nice dinner or a new shirt. He grudgingly compliments when asked to. He's fully aware of how nuts he is but won't do anything about it. He has ruined many many mornings. Sometimes I feel like I can't even be happy for one day without him ruining it. I don't know if it's adhd, add, bipolar, but it's something. He can be a great person and has been generous in the past, but as I said, the older he gets, the worse it is. He's always chasing the next best thing. We got a motorcycle, it wasn't good enough. This happened a few years in a row until now . We now have the biggest Harley you can get, now that one's not good enough. House, car , everything we have gets old. He has wanted to start numerous businesses, puts alot of time money and effort into it, only for him to tire of it.This especially sucks because when I remind him of all the other times he's started things only to abandon them he gets mad. We have separated a few times because (i think) of his mentality of everything gets old after a while. I don't know why I'm spilling all of this! Yesterday I finally decided to let go of all the anxiety and angst he causes and focus on me for once. Today I went to the gym for the first time in months.Also, I didn't let him ruin my day even though he started up 2 or times today. And I'm not giving up on me any longer.
Anon 126...this is a problem only you will be able to solve. Just do what you need to do to be as happy as you can be. If you have no problem leaving him, go and tell him you won't be back until he gets some help. While you are gone, take real good care of yourself---go to the gym, get a massage, color your hair for fun (you can always change it back)and anything else that you can do to indulge yourself. If you can afford it, stay away until you know he is doing something to straighten himself out. This is the rest of YOUR life you are talking about. It seems he has taken enough of it already. But, I don't know you so I could be way off. Just sayin'!
Thanks to everyone for the great comments and suggestions; after I posted, I felt ashamed that I had written it, like I should have just kept quiet---but you all have helped SO much just by sharing with me…I don’t feel so alone now and that helps more than you know! Christina, I’m in Monroe Louisiana---I had to change doctors because we moved here from Biloxi Miss. a few weeks after Katrina. I will begin The Great Receptionist Harassment Regiment first thing tomorrow. And I’m glad your mom wasn’t hurt in that accident! Kiki, I didn’t want them coming here because I know I can’t handle these kids---they scream more than any other kids I’ve ever seen in my LIFE. I had to move all my computer equipment, desk, etc into my room and now that’s where I live. Right now my son can’t afford to live without my income, and vice versa—but I’ve been planning on moving away from him as soon as possible for a good while, then THIS happened. After all the years I raised him alone, doing the best I could, he has begun to treat me badly without respect and I hate that. I don’t deserve this treatment; I know that. After I’m gone he’ll have his sister (who doesn’t work) and those 3 kids to take care of on the salary of his 2 jobs. He is 21 by the way. Bayou Jane: her mom lives somewhere in Mississippi, and apparently Angela (the sis) didn’t want to go there. She has a full brother too who lives in the same town she did (outside Memphis) but they helped her once when she left her husband before and they said they wouldn’t do it again (which sent up red flags to me!) so she felt she had nowhere else to go. She found my son Aaron on Facebook of all things. I am in this alone because until she came along, my son and I only had each other; my family banished me (I could write about it, but it would be epically long—like Pat’s Arizona Chronicles) years ago. Their father, whom I divorced 16 years ago, has a 3rd family now, lives in Alabama, and has nothing to do with any of his 3 other children. Oh, but he became a preacher cuz he’s *such* a good, changed person. Gag. I am hoping that Angela will soon see that we can’t support her and 3 kids, and go to her mom’s anyway. Then I will be able to save my pay and move on my own. I did decide to continue school today—after I read some of you guys’ encouraging comments! I was really sick over the winter—pneumonia, got well, then relapsed so my grades plummeted and I ended up not being able to catch up but I submitted an appeal letter more than 6 weeks ago and they keep telling me to wait for them to get back to me (they said it would only be 3—5 weeks) so today I said fuck them and contacted another school online. Gonna go for my Master’s in Forensic Science! Yay me! Shelton; I am so PROUD of you! I can feel from your posts how much better YOU feel inside, and that is a great thing. Good luck with keeping up the progress! You can do it! Biz; I am so pissed at that dealership! They deserve to go out of business at the very least. Hopefully you can get this resolved ASAP before the Bean gets here—please don’t let the stress get to you too much if you can, you need all your strength for what is coming. :)
Kim, Hello, this is roxanne. I totally feel your pain girl! My husband can be a real S.O.B. and then the next day he's making supper & doing stuff around the house etc. he bitches and says he has to do everything too. He does do alot, but I work and he's on disability and can help with household tasks, so he does. He just got disability too and up till then I carried his ass free of charge for over 8 years! And believe me it was tough!! I dont make that much. All thw ehile keeping my own bills current always and paying my 2 car pmts! I was paying all the hosuehold bills too and he was the one bitching!!!!!!!!! Talk about being pissed off for 8 years! That was me. But he has to help me now and now he's bitching about that. Tough sh** dude. He paid cash for a new truck so he has zero car pmt, unlike me. So, he can pay for the household bills and help out. Plus, now our daughter is getting married and this is in just 3 1/2 months! 10-10-10!!! We have been in the planning stages for about 2 months already. It will be fine but it's alot. Sooo, in conclusion...I have come to realize that some people just thrive on misery and bitching. I do not. I am the opposite. I enjoy life and whatever it gives me, I do get some bouts of bad depression but I am not a complainer. I just go inside myself. I am a Cancer, thats what we do. But his mom has neer stopped bitching & complaining since the day I met her back in 1972!! Its always this or that, or she has this disease or that. I have mennieres, a rare disease, but guess what, she says she has it too. I rarely even see her much less talk to her. Can't get a owrd in edgewise. She told my daughte that she probably cant come to her wedding because she might be sick. She is actually planning on being siick that day? Really? OMFG! Just say it, you dont wanna come. My daughters onlu living grandmother. W/evs. She was so hurt she was in tears. My husband was even pissed. But again, it gives him something to be all pissy about to fill his empty days. He will be happy today becasue he can be pissed about that. It totally stresses me out and I hate that. I like smooth waters, no fussing & fighting. Its just not me. HATE it! So, eff it. Your husband is a big fat baby just like mine and they like to whine & cry and get attention any way they can. I ignore the bullshit now. After this long I know just to go in another room and shut the damn door. I hate his voice. Luckily, I am nealry deaf, so thats good LOL! I am sorry for you. But some men just never grow up and want to be babies forever. Tell him to STFU and be a GD man! You just gotta, then go in the other room and shut the door and watch a movie. Love you girl. xoxo Roxanne
Biz, another idea, have you insurance rep search that vehicle for any claims it may have had on it. Such as an accident or flood. I swear they will tell you! You can have them do this for you before you buy a house too. If it has a shady past, and I am betting it does. I am with Tia, regardelss, the dealer was lying when they sold it to you. It sounds like a cartoon! It does! Next thing the wheels will fall off and the steering wheel will come off in your hands. Its not even a joke! Get the hell rid of it. Just mention the word "lawsuit" and you will be made a much happier person. Car delaers dont want to get investigated, they can't afford that. Just tell them to keep the GD vehicle, take your money to a reputable delaer and get a nice Ford. I personally want a Ford Fusion, but will have to wait to get a used one sometime. My daughter drives a Ford Focus, fantastic car, my hubs drives a Ford Ranger Edge, its fabulous. Stick with Ford. I drive a "from Hell" Chrysler. Nice fancy car but they dont know "F" about engines. I am stuck with it, but I have a brand new engine. I resent my car, ya know? You will too as it nickels & dimes you. Get rid of it and get back your money. Dont be wimp, stand up for yourself!! Your baby has to ride in this thing! Roxanne xoxox
Anonymous, I am not a therapist or a shrink but it feels to me like your hubs is dealing with a bad case of Depression. I have chronic depression so I know what I read. I am not saying he is Bipolar but he could have a really bad case of Depression that has gone unchecked for too long. Make him an appointment. Tell him he has to go. No ifs ands or buts about it. When you are that sick, you really do not know the scope of how sick you are until you climb out of it and you are better. (((Big Hugs!))) I had a really bad time once and put my family through hell. I was dealing with a ill elderly Mother and an undiagnosed case of auto immune..plus I was diagnosed with diabetes. Too much for my brain to deal with i guess. I went into intensive outpatient therapy and I am told that I am in remission. So he can get better. You just got to light a fire under his ass like my husband did.
I picked my first cherry tomatoes today. They are yellow ones. I only picked four but I am so proud..ROFL!
It is another hot one today. Humidity sucks! I am on the coast of CT so I can get some relief but Pat..I think I could not handle being where you are. From what you describe, it is like being on a sweaty nightmare. Try and stay cool!
Hey Rox: Thanks for the encouragement, and I'm sorry to hear that you've been going through hell too! Wow. Sounds like you are one tough girl that I'd be proud to know...all of you here in Pat's community are good, strong people and I'm so glad I found this site!
Today, the ex came knocking with court papers trying to take the children, who were all screaming and crying cuz (I quote) "Daddy's mean to us, we don't want to go". He didn't get them because he was told before he drove here from TN that he had to go through Louisiana courts first. So he left and now we're making plans to move her and the children to her mother's in Mississippi, to further stymie him and give her time to get papers of her own drawn up (my idea). He put in the papers that my son was dangerous and a killer (WFT?), etc, so we think this will force him to have to redo his whole complaint. Does this sound like an intelligent strategy to you guys? I'm so upset and nervous I can't tell. I feel like it's my fault because I complained *out loud* to you guys but that's silly I know.
Tia, her mom is coming to get her and the kids like Thursday or Friday...can't come soon enough for me! I feel like the most horrible person in the world for saying that but it's truth. Whew. There, I said it!
Anonymous with the weird husband: get thee out of there, girl, if you can--I see you're realizing that he won't change after all this time, only you can make yourself happy now!
why should you feel bad??? they moved into your place without your permission, just your sons, they ran ripshod and interferred with your work and had you living in your room and you feel bad?!?!?!
Kim...I see no reason to think that you did anything wrong. She is going where she should have gone in the first place.
Angela had to have told the ex where she was or how would he know where to find her. Doesn't sound like she was trying to exscape to me. Sounds like she has a pattern going there.
And as for your ex---bring all of them to his church next Sunday, introduce them to the congregation and continue to tell them her sad story. Then while they are in prayer---sneak out and hit the road as fast as your wheels will take you! A little revenge always makes me feel better!!!
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Oh no, summer colds are awful! I hope you start to feel better soon.
I am a diehard college sports fanatic and am just a tad bit excited that my team is competing for the College World Series. I hate that it's during the week, or we would have done a road trip to Omaha.
~Palmetto Girl
Bitching about having no cable or internet service at home since last Wednesday! So, we ripped out all the damn boxes and are returning them right now! I am at work but someone is doing it for me! Comcast can suck it! Except for when I need the internet, then they can just maybe not suck it then. Just fix it? Gawd, now I get what you were going thru. Except I can get online at work. But no tv, zero! Notta.
rox
I just finished cooking bacon (in this heat) to make BLTs. I am taking the girls to the beach, and when I get back..I am going to water the garden. It is fucking HOT!
Sorry that you two are sick. I just got over the creepy crud myself.
Get well soon!
rox---make sure whoever is returning it gets a receipt for the box because i know time warner has a nasty habit of charging people for returned boxes ($500) and when people say "i returned it" they'll say "do you have proof"? i bet your cable scum company would be the same way.....
think it's gonna be a lazy day....drained from yesterday.....might try to make an effort to find books in my bedroom.....
Oh, no, Pat! I'm sorry you're feeling sick.
Hope your team wins, Palmetto Girl!
Finally I have a day off. We slept in, and my husband is now up and trying to get our son up so they can go out looking for car crap. My son has an older Mercedes, and now my husband does, too. They go out to the you-pull-it type places, to see what parts they can get from other old cars of the same make, to fix up theirs. I went along once, and it was interesting from the standpoint of peeking into the other derelict cars and seeing what junk people left behind. It always makes me sad when I see a baby toy left, but some of the other stuff is interesting, and the parts are, of course, way cheaper than buying new. My husband is an absolute whiz at fixing cars and anything mechanical, electrical, etc. We always joke about him learning to use his "powers" for good instead of evil.
My house is a mess, and I think I'm going to get serious about putting away all the junk. I want to have a garage sale, but we currently have so many cars that I don't know where people would park. We have a ton of stuff I want to get rid of. Periodically I watch Clean House, and find it very inspirational. The houses, all of them, are way worse than anything we have ever had, and most often people are able to break free of the mess. I don't have a problem with it for myself, but my husband could be a hoarder, and I find that very difficult to deal with. I am always cleaning a never ending supply of crap up. If my husband gets car parts in the mail, I find the packing label in one place, the box in another, packing materials in yet another, and the actual parts sitting around somewhere else. It drives me crazy. He really does not like to have me mess with any of it, either.
Yesterday I signed up for about eight extra shifts in August. I don't know if they will give any of them to me as they will all put me in overtime, but they need the time covered, so we will see. I told the staffing person that I would like to experiment with the idea of having a big paycheck. I never sign up for extra, so I'm not sure how I would do with it, anyway.
I'm going to finish defurminating the doggies today, and then give them flea treatments.
The birds will get extra treats as they always do when I am home. It will be warm today, so I am thinking baby spinach, and watermelon. I miss little Zeus, but the family that we gave him to emailed us and told us he fits right in, and that the kids love that they have a rooster that they can hold and pet.
I am hoping that when my son and husband are out and about, they will find me two more pallets and I can make a compost heap with all the grass clippings, dirt and chicken manure I have waiting. I've been wanting that for some time. I can't wait to organize that!
hope you're feeling better soon DD!!!
I'm sorry you don't feel well Pat! ((((Hugs))))
I plan to have a nervous breakdown, me...after 16 years of my son not knowing his older half-brother/sister, 2 months ago they rediscovered each other. Come to find out, she was in an abusive marriage and was desperate to get out--so last week she and her 3 kids (all under age 6) moved in with us despite the fact that we can barely keep ourselves going. My son told me if I didn't like it I could get the fuck out (even though it's MY place, my bills, etc). I work from home for Citi Mortgage and it has to be quiet (customers are not to know we are home agents), so guess how well THAT'S going with 3 kids? Plus the ex is bugging the piss out of us 24/7. I want out of here and in my own quiet place so badly! I already have health problems and suffer anxiety attacks, some so severe I've been hospitalized. My asshole doc won't keep me on my regimen of meds (which kept me leveled out enough that I could work away from my home, which I can't now but disability refused me) because he "feels uncomfortable" prescribing them! I had been on that combination of meds for 9 years and was doing great! Now, I think I'm in danger of just giving the fuck up. I hate my life--I'm trapped in it and my traitorous sick body is trapping me inside it too. I don't have many people to talk to, so today it's you guys.
Does ANYONE know a good disability person who can help me? Please?
your son just told them to move in w/o checking with you first??? i'd kick 'em all out.....
you should go to a new dr., why did your dr. change your prescription regime after 9 years???
Kim, if you were in the Portland area, I would know of someone, but I'm thinking you're more Midwest to Eastern part of the country, am I right?
That sounds like you are having a really tough time of it. I am sorry that your doctor isn't helpful right now. Have you told him about the new life situation that you have, and that you feel like you will have a nervous breakdown if you don't get immediate relief? If you haven't, then I think you should. . .today. If you have, then you need a second opinion, from a doctor that specializes in these types of medications, and you need that. . . today. Make some calls. You shouldn't have to face this current situation without medical support. There are doctors out there that would take good care of you, and I hope this guy either steps up, or moves aside. Be blunt with him about what you need and why you need it. Do not mince words. . . and if you have to leave a message with the receptionist, call back repeatedly until you get the response you need. Let us know how this goes for you, Kim. I am thinking of you.
I have been practicing with going out on my own. I was in a near fatal car accident 2 years ago and have spent the last couple of years learning a lot of daily life again. Recently, I have been testing my driving skills. I have refused to drive myself for fear of every other person on the road. I feel like they will all hit me. It hasn't been fun. My poor husband has been put through turmoil. I told him it was practice for when our son is ready to start driving.
Anyway, I drove myself to my sister's house this past Friday night. I was all alone and I did it! We had a party to celebrate my accomplishment. Of course, the rain came and caused me to nearly panic. I almost stayed the night with my sister but I mustered up my courage and got on with it. I drove the 40 minutes back to my house, IN THE RAIN and kept myself alive! Yay me!
So, today I feel accomplished and ready to take on the next task.
DD, I hope you feel better. Being sick when it is this hot really sucks hind tit!
Rox, cable companies suck. They know they have us by the 'nads and take complete advantage. Bastages!
Heidi, BLTs sound soooo good right now.
Miss Tia, enjoy your lazy day.
Christina, are you sure our husbands aren't the same person? :)
Kim, just wow. I can't even imagine.
Now, I'm going to wait for the delivery truck. My husband ordered a new lawn tractor and it is coming in today. I know I will be playing second fiddle to his new toy for the next few days.
Sending good energy to everyone!
Ok. So. Haven't even told my "IRL" friends this because I cannot believe it is happening and I'm kind of embarrassed.
We have been a 1 car household for a while, it's just worked for us. We'd rather put the money we'd spend on a second car somewhere else plus the car we had was paid off - no car payments for the last 5 years. We finally decided it was time to upgrade, needed something bigger. After lots of "shopping around" and trying to get financed, we were able to trade in our car & put down a few thousand to buy a used Explorer. Liked it, test drove it - everything was great.
Sign over the title on our car, cancel insurance, insure/register & pick up "new" truck on Friday. 30 minutes after pulling off the lot the steering wheel starts shaking and locking up. Pulled into the nearest shop and they say - needs new differential, new tires, new brakes. And that was just after a quick check. They say the car SHOULD NOT be driven at all, the differential was so bad the wheels will just stop at some point, no way to tell when.
Drive 45 minutes back to dealer and they're SHOCKED. "Had no idea" Can't believe it. yadda yadda yadda.
It is now Monday are still driving our old car, which we no longer own. Last I heard from the dealer they would do brakes & diff, but not tires. So I have ponied up more money to do tires.
I know this does happen, but I cannot believe it actually happened to us. I mean, seriously. I keep thinking it's a dream. Then I see my old car sitting in the driveway, and start crying.
I don't know what to do. I feel like we should back out, but legally I don't know how or if we can.
This much stress, a week before I'm to deliver can't be good.
Heidi- I went through a bacon phase a few months ago, many a BLTs were had in this house. Can't stand the thought of it now tho, lol. Glad I enjoyed them when I did.
Hope you feel better, DD!
Kim that sucks so bad. I know how you feel. Sorry.
There's a flu type bug going around here DD. Feel better soon. Have you gotten any mosquito bites lately? You have to watch out for that West Nile virus. Because of all the rain, we are loaded with mosquitos and they are ravenous.
We've had so much stinkin rain and high winds, it's wreaked havoc on my garden. My container stuff is doing ok but my in ground veggies are stunted and turning yellow. We've had close to 10 inches just this month. I need to get out and fertilize and kill slugs.
Heidi, my family are bacon fanatics.
I put a double layer of foil on my gas grill rolled up on the edges, and cook my bacon there. It comes out great and I get a whole pound and a half done at once. It's easy clean up too.
Feel better Pat. Being sick in the summer is awful. xo
Roxanne
PS: did you guys ever color your bacon? Last week I saw blue, yellow, green and red bacon on a site and the gal said she would post how-to. LOL..she said her kids loved it! I dont think it would be hard, DUH! Food coloring. Bacon seems to absord color easily. Sounds like fun! We used to add food coloring to our grits, it made breakfast more fun. MMM...blue grits! Yummy! LOL
rox
Hey! Was that colored bacon post on here? LOL if it was. I am an idiot!!!
Biz,
You should have the option in your contract for a "buyer's remorse". Check it out and see if you do, that should entitle you to return the car and cancel the transaction. If that's an option, I'd do it and find another dealer. If it's not, then i'd recommend speaking to the dealership's general manager and threatening to involve your local news team's consumer reporter if they refuse to let you pick out a replacement or let you cancel a contact. I did this once and was amazed at how quickly I got my way when I threatened them with bad press. Also, feel free to use your pregnancy as an excuse to be a nightmare. People are afraid to fuck with pregnant ladies. Good luck.
Congratulations Shelton. Just like post traumatic stress disorder; you heal at your own pace. Seldom do you have a linear recovery, so don't be discouraged by any setbacks if you have any. Sounds like you have a lot of support from home and that is essential.
Jarhead
biz---that seems pretty fishy to me....tell 'em because of all the fuckery you want out of the contract...speak to the manager like iambrizy said....tell 'em you'll report them to the AG and/or BBB...
most states have lemon laws too, which i believe let you have THIRTY days.....
I thought lemon laws only applied to a vehicle purchased new? I could be wrong. In any case, you should have 3 working days to cancel any contract.
I've never colored bacon. All of my boys are grown. When they were little I never had to do anything special to their food to get them to eat. They weren't picky and never lacked an appetite. Though I'm sure they would have gotten a kick out of green or blue bacon.
tia,
thanks! I text'd my fam to make sure they got a receipt and they had already been there but did get a receipt. 4 others in line in front of them were also returning their boxes and cancelling service. The line was very long and took a long time to get thru it. Every person in line had their boxes, obviously returning them, and like I said alot of people! That says alot about Comcast and their customer service. But yes, and they froze our internet at $19.99 for the next 6 mos and we had a zero balance today due to the lack of service so we dont even owe them anything right now! yay! I hate Cable company's. What a f'g joke! Thanks again Tia.
rox
There is nothing more divine then hot bacon on toast with cold lettuce and salted tomato..a smidge of mayo. Yummm!
There is a flu-ish bug going around. I had to be tested for strep because the sore throat was really bad. But it was negative. I just have slight cough left.
Get thee to a new shrink (if you can) pronto! Docs that tell you they are not comfortable with giving out meds need to retire (in my opinion).
I am sorry you have to deal with that crap. It is easy for us to tell you "your house! Your rules!" but sometimes that is not so easy.
I will just send you positive thoughts and hope it all gets better!
It is going to storm here in a bit. It has been so humid today. We went to the garden and picked sweet snap peas. Love to eat them whole!
Monday night is always taco night in my house..i dont know why..LOL
I have to get off here soon and make the guacamole.
Biz,
Dayum!!! Do not agree to pay for anything!!! Thats a rip-off. They knew it was a POS when they sold it to you. I hate used car salesmen, LIARS!!! I had to replace my engine in my fabulous car after 6 mos and they basically told me to get effed. So, $6500 later plus a bigger car pmt, I had a new engine. They wouldnt do a thing about it. Sooo, I will be driving this car for a very long time, its like I paid for it twice. At least I got Karma on my side, they went out of business shortly after my incident. And they had been there a long time. Yes, please contact your local TV news station & tell them what happened, they will go there and film a story & then come & interview you at home. I bet the contract is canceled "forthwith"...DO IT!!!
rox
lemon laws are for used vehicles!
Biz briezy is right get on to your tv ombudsman and expose them. In your condition they should be ashamed !
Kim can you go see another doctor and get back on the
Rx to function outside the home. You need the meds in your system. Make the new doctor help you and report the old doc to the A. M. A. for malpractise. Let him know that you are filing a report before hand you may find he might alter his feelings and can prescribe you all your full doses of meds again. Most importantly bring a friend or family member you trust with you to all the apts as a witness when you see the docs. It will put them on notice that you are serious and that this is your life not a damn game !
Now for your son and his nonsense. This just started from what I read. It must be nipped in the bud now. Put your foot down and throw the lot of them out ! At once !!! You are in charge Kim tell them you can't have the noise of all those kids about. You work from home you can't have kaos in the background as noise. If they don't like it that's too bad. They shouldn't have overstepped the boundries of your home. Remind them that it is your home. Start as you mean to go on Kim right from the get go & let them know it.
Good luck and let me know how you make out with the dr.
Kiki :)
Rox I'm sorry about your cable cos in the us. We have much better policies up here in Canada. None of these
hustlers I see on tv on my American stations. The USA has way to many providers. IO ,dish, direct tv , comcast, shaw,
netzero, etc.... Just to name a few. It's really insane and they are all such tricksters with those annoying ads they put out. IO is the absolute worst one I've seen ! Yik ! Sorry Rox
-kiki
just harvested 6 more cups of cherries!! more still ripening!!!
Shelton do you have acess to C. B. G. T. to help with the fear of driving. Although I must say you did quite well not staying over your sisters home when the rainstorm came.
Bravo I think your getting your own back. Just go slow and do what you can and get used to just sitting in the car with the engine on again. Get familiar with the noise and do it everyday even if you don't leave your driveway. It's an excercise in of itself just to familiarize yourself and not be afraid of the sounds smells surroundings of the car / driving experience. It will make you feel cofortable and less afraid if any at all. Just go in the car start it up and sit there for 2-3 5 min max listen to a song on the radio or just get into a habit that you need a car to get to and from places and see people you love. It really helps to expose yourself
a bit everyday. I wish you well Shelton. Take care. Kiki :)
DD :) feel better soon and lil Lissa too :) - Kiki :)
Pat, so sorry to read about BeeBee! Rest in Peace little one!
Hope you feel better soon!
Lost my ass in Vegas this weekend.
bima
biz...the more i think of that dealer, the more i get pissed...how could they NOT know it needed new tires or brakes?? fucking cancel the contract, hire an attorney if need be and fuck 'em.....you cannot put your family in an iffy vehicle....
FUCK BIZ'S CAR DEALER!!!!!!!!!
Sorry you're feeling poorly, DD. Hope you're on the mend soon. It's my Friday so I'm happeh. It's everyone else's Monday, then Tuesday then it's WTF from there.
Hi all,
Are the comments fixed on The Last Word site? I added a comment the other day & I don't see that one or any other.
Biz ~ check out this site for New Jersey Lemon Laws for used cars.
http://www.state.nj.us/oag/ca/ocp/usedlemon.htm
Thank you for the kind words. This has been a process. It took a year and a half to get me inside of a vehicle. The weird thing is, I don't remember the wreck but inside me somewhere I must remember. I would shake and tremble just sitting in the passenger seat. And God help us if someone remotely looked like they may hit us. I would scream and freak out. One day, it took my husband over an hour to get me back in the car at the grocery store. It felt really good last Friday to have some sort of freedom back. I'm quite sure Jeremy is sighing with relief at not having to drive Miss Daisy anymore. :)
Wow. Shelton, you are one strong woman. Way to go, getting in the car and driving, even in the rain! You go, girl!!
Biz---Is there anything lower than a used car salesman? That was mean and stupid to sell an obviously pregnant woman a piece of crap car. No wonder they get the reputation they do. I think that no matter what happens, you need to alert the BBB and. . . I think it's "Angie's List". . .not sure if I've got that right or not, but it is supposed to give you the real scoop on businesses. People need to know about those dishonest jerks, going in.
My mom was in a car accident this afternoon. She's okay, but her Pathfinder is not. Had to be towed, and I spent the afternoon with her, calling the repair shop, body shop, towing, insurance, my brother, getting the accident report taken care of, etc.
She wasn't hurt, but I hope it doesn't spike her blood pressure high enough that she suffers other injury.
My son and husband are still at the Pick-n-Pull. . . I think that's the new name for it, harvesting piles of crap to grace the driveway with. Right now there is about 50 feet of wiring, a jack, assorted other tools, and bits and pieces of interior in the driveway, and a mercedes bumper across the garbage can lid. Oh, and my husband's mercedes is up on ramps in the driveway, as well. Lovely. No. Really.
I am so jealous of Miss Tia's cherries. That idea about freezing the juice in cube form is great. I'm going to have to see what I can do about coming up with a local alternative.
I think it's time to go outside and rewater the chickies, and give them some melon to cool off with.
This morning Free Bird lived up to her name and jumped out of the tractor while I was putting their feeder in. She kept flapping around just out of reach, and Little Miss Mia was trying to help me corral her. Or maybe she just wanted a little taste, I don't know. She's back where she belongs, though. I caught her eventually. :)
Thanks for the advice all. If it gets any worse (don't know how) then I might go to the news. I'm still overwhelmed that this has happened. Hubs says as long as the fix everything and our mechanic checks it out fine after then he wants to keep it. Our car, while not old, had been driven hard and had 150k miles, and was on it's last leg. So almost anything was better than that. I guess.
I hope I hear from them tomorrow.
Shelton - good for you! I hope it only gets easier for you. I can say I know how you feel, but not as severely. I was t-boned a few years ago and miraculously was not hurt. My car was completely totaled tho. I couldn't drive for over a month. I still flinch whenever pass an intersection where cars are creeping forward.
biz---i disagree with your hubs....you put several thousand DOWN and they cuoldn't even have checked the brakes and tires??? if you bought this from an ad in the newspaper i might give this some leeway, but A DEALER??? NO, not a bit!!
it's shysty as FUCK that that happened....and to have them 'fix it'?? if they coudln't have seen that in the first place, how could they fix it? and they wouldn't even pay for new tires?!?!?
you're gonna have a new baby and you don't need this shit.....invoke the lemon law and get your money back and tell 'em to shove it...they said no, call the press....expectant mother given shaft by shady car dealer would make a good story.....
I know I know I know! We put literally all of our money into it + gave up our car, yet we're still driving our car.
It's all very shady.
According to the stuff I read tho, it doesn't yet qualify as a lemon - yet.
I'm going to call the NJ Lemon hotline tomorrow for more info. Until then, I wait.
i'd check out that dealer with the BBB too....call your local BBB office....you could also call your state's attorney general office to file a complaint...
legitimate dealers check vehicles over before they sell 'em!!
I just read over at Evil Beet gossip that supposedly Kate G spends $6k every time she goes to the salon to have her extensions, cut, and color done.
yeah right...she is struggling to survive.
Kim...I agree with Christina. I think she has given you some really good advice.
Some questions: Where is the girls mom? What is the situation with the girls dad? How old is your son? How did your son and step-sister find out about each other?
Why are you saddled with this alone?
DD...try to take care of yourself as best you can so that you don't weaken your body any more than what it is. I'm assuming it's a summer cold because someone mentioned that. I have no advice on this subject. I think it's one of those things you just have to ride out. Rest and liquids---the panacea for all illnesses.
I had this long post written, and something went wrong.
Kim, do you have records from a psychologist, psychiatrist, etc. validating that you are unable to leave the house? I'm going to guess agoraphobia? If you have medical proof, and not getting any help, contact your state representative, write him a letter and let him/her know what is going on and see if you can get his help. My mom went through this years ago, and it was w/the help of her Senator that that she finally was awarded the disability. She went to DC a few times IIRC to meet w/the Sen. Also, and I'm sure you've already done this, but are you on an anti-depressant that has a anxiety component in it? Speak w/your dr. about that.
Biz, use your pregnancy to the utmost degree. I cannot believe they sold you that piece of crap. If you have a local news station that does investigative type work for members of the community, most definitely call them!
Shelton, you should be so encouraged and so proud of yourself! Way to go! Slow and steady is always the best route!
Oh, Kim - I'm w/BJ, how old is your son that took it upon himself to invite his newfound step sister into YOUR home? If he's old enough, I'd suggest to him that he get his own place, then he can ask anyone he wants to live there. If not, I might remind him this is your home, and anything involving it, goes through you first! Good luck!
Biz -
they said no, call the press....expectant mother given shaft by shady car dealer would make a good story.....
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I'm w/Miss Tia on this!
Biz...I can understand not wanting to go through all this hassle. It's really a bad time for you. If you want to keep the Explore, as soon as they give it back to you, go to a Ford (?) dealer and have them do an inspection on the car. It will either give you peace of mind or it will give you something to work with if you have to go back to the dealer. Then if this doesn't help, go on with the other advice. Also, they should be able to give you the CarFacts on the car. That would tell you who the previous owner was. Maybe you could talk to them to find out what they had to say about the car.
Shelton...that is great news. You should be proud of yourself for what you have achieved. A 40 min. drive in the rain and by yourself is a job well done. You should be proud.
Shelton,
I was in a car accident a couple years ago and ever since then, i have issues with highway driving. I have a mini panic attack for days leading up to knowing i have to drive long distance. once i get behind the wheel, i have a teeny weeny freak out but once i start rolling down the highway..i really feel good. i had to drive my girls this past sunday an hour away. the drive up was hell. the drive back was heaven.
You should be mega proud. The more you expose yourself to it..the better it is gonna get. Kudos to you!
It is humid!! I hate it!! We have a wonky sized window in our bedroom so we cannot have an air conditioner in here. I will dream of September from now until it cools off.
My husband has a touch of mental illness and it seems to get worse as he ages. I'm not sure what the exact issue is because he refuses to get help. His mother is the same way as he is. He wakes up at 4am because he can't sleep any longer. He goes to the gym, comes home and starts bitching about our house.It's so filthy (it's honestly not at all), my son's so lazy , he's tired of life, he works so hard and then he has to clean the house (not at all) .He walks around literally looking for something to complain about.He constantly says he's so tired of his life, he just wants to sell our house and run away. Then, the next day, totally normal and happy. I have no self confidence because he criticizes everything I do, eat,wear, say think, am. All I hear is negative. It is so hard for him to say something positive. I have to dig for a compliment about a nice dinner or a new shirt. He grudgingly compliments when asked to. He's fully aware of how nuts he is but won't do anything about it. He has ruined many many mornings. Sometimes I feel like I can't even be happy for one day without him ruining it. I don't know if it's adhd, add, bipolar, but it's something. He can be a great person and has been generous in the past, but as I said, the older he gets, the worse it is. He's always chasing the next best thing. We got a motorcycle, it wasn't good enough. This happened a few years in a row until now . We now have the biggest Harley you can get, now that one's not good enough. House, car , everything we have gets old. He has wanted to start numerous businesses, puts alot of time money and effort into it, only for him to tire of it.This especially sucks because when I remind him of all the other times he's started things only to abandon them he gets mad. We have separated a few times because (i think) of his mentality of everything gets old after a while. I don't know why I'm spilling all of this! Yesterday I finally decided to let go of all the anxiety and angst he causes and focus on me for once. Today I went to the gym for the first time in months.Also, I didn't let him ruin my day even though he started up 2 or times today. And I'm not giving up on me any longer.
Hope you & Lissa are both back in the pink of things soon, take care. :)
Anon 126...this is a problem only you will be able to solve. Just do what you need to do to be as happy as you can be. If you have no problem leaving him, go and tell him you won't be back until he gets some help. While you are gone, take real good care of yourself---go to the gym, get a massage, color your hair for fun (you can always change it back)and anything else that you can do to indulge yourself. If you can afford it, stay away until you know he is doing something to straighten himself out. This is the rest of YOUR life you are talking about. It seems he has taken enough of it already. But, I don't know you so I could be way off. Just sayin'!
Thanks to everyone for the great comments and suggestions; after I posted, I felt ashamed that I had written it, like I should have just kept quiet---but you all have helped SO much just by sharing with me…I don’t feel so alone now and that helps more than you know!
Christina, I’m in Monroe Louisiana---I had to change doctors because we moved here from Biloxi Miss. a few weeks after Katrina. I will begin The Great Receptionist Harassment Regiment first thing tomorrow. And I’m glad your mom wasn’t hurt in that accident!
Kiki, I didn’t want them coming here because I know I can’t handle these kids---they scream more than any other kids I’ve ever seen in my LIFE. I had to move all my computer equipment, desk, etc into my room and now that’s where I live. Right now my son can’t afford to live without my income, and vice versa—but I’ve been planning on moving away from him as soon as possible for a good while, then THIS happened. After all the years I raised him alone, doing the best I could, he has begun to treat me badly without respect and I hate that. I don’t deserve this treatment; I know that. After I’m gone he’ll have his sister (who doesn’t work) and those 3 kids to take care of on the salary of his 2 jobs. He is 21 by the way.
Bayou Jane: her mom lives somewhere in Mississippi, and apparently Angela (the sis) didn’t want to go there. She has a full brother too who lives in the same town she did (outside Memphis) but they helped her once when she left her husband before and they said they wouldn’t do it again (which sent up red flags to me!) so she felt she had nowhere else to go. She found my son Aaron on Facebook of all things. I am in this alone because until she came along, my son and I only had each other; my family banished me (I could write about it, but it would be epically long—like Pat’s Arizona Chronicles) years ago. Their father, whom I divorced 16 years ago, has a 3rd family now, lives in Alabama, and has nothing to do with any of his 3 other children. Oh, but he became a preacher cuz he’s *such* a good, changed person. Gag. I am hoping that Angela will soon see that we can’t support her and 3 kids, and go to her mom’s anyway. Then I will be able to save my pay and move on my own. I did decide to continue school today—after I read some of you guys’ encouraging comments! I was really sick over the winter—pneumonia, got well, then relapsed so my grades plummeted and I ended up not being able to catch up but I submitted an appeal letter more than 6 weeks ago and they keep telling me to wait for them to get back to me (they said it would only be 3—5 weeks) so today I said fuck them and contacted another school online. Gonna go for my Master’s in Forensic Science! Yay me!
Shelton; I am so PROUD of you! I can feel from your posts how much better YOU feel inside, and that is a great thing. Good luck with keeping up the progress! You can do it!
Biz; I am so pissed at that dealership! They deserve to go out of business at the very least. Hopefully you can get this resolved ASAP before the Bean gets here—please don’t let the stress get to you too much if you can, you need all your strength for what is coming. :)
Kim,
Hello, this is roxanne. I totally feel your pain girl! My husband can be a real S.O.B. and then the next day he's making supper & doing stuff around the house etc. he bitches and says he has to do everything too. He does do alot, but I work and he's on disability and can help with household tasks, so he does. He just got disability too and up till then I carried his ass free of charge for over 8 years! And believe me it was tough!! I dont make that much. All thw ehile keeping my own bills current always and paying my 2 car pmts! I was paying all the hosuehold bills too and he was the one bitching!!!!!!!!! Talk about being pissed off for 8 years! That was me. But he has to help me now and now he's bitching about that. Tough sh** dude. He paid cash for a new truck so he has zero car pmt, unlike me. So, he can pay for the household bills and help out. Plus, now our daughter is getting married and this is in just 3 1/2 months! 10-10-10!!! We have been in the planning stages for about 2 months already. It will be fine but it's alot. Sooo, in conclusion...I have come to realize that some people just thrive on misery and bitching. I do not. I am the opposite. I enjoy life and whatever it gives me, I do get some bouts of bad depression but I am not a complainer. I just go inside myself. I am a Cancer, thats what we do. But his mom has neer stopped bitching & complaining since the day I met her back in 1972!! Its always this or that, or she has this disease or that. I have mennieres, a rare disease, but guess what, she says she has it too. I rarely even see her much less talk to her. Can't get a owrd in edgewise. She told my daughte that she probably cant come to her wedding because she might be sick. She is actually planning on being siick that day? Really? OMFG! Just say it, you dont wanna come. My daughters onlu living grandmother. W/evs. She was so hurt she was in tears. My husband was even pissed. But again, it gives him something to be all pissy about to fill his empty days. He will be happy today becasue he can be pissed about that. It totally stresses me out and I hate that. I like smooth waters, no fussing & fighting. Its just not me. HATE it! So, eff it. Your husband is a big fat baby just like mine and they like to whine & cry and get attention any way they can. I ignore the bullshit now. After this long I know just to go in another room and shut the damn door. I hate his voice. Luckily, I am nealry deaf, so thats good LOL! I am sorry for you. But some men just never grow up and want to be babies forever. Tell him to STFU and be a GD man! You just gotta, then go in the other room and shut the door and watch a movie. Love you girl.
xoxo
Roxanne
Biz, another idea, have you insurance rep search that vehicle for any claims it may have had on it. Such as an accident or flood. I swear they will tell you! You can have them do this for you before you buy a house too. If it has a shady past, and I am betting it does. I am with Tia, regardelss, the dealer was lying when they sold it to you. It sounds like a cartoon! It does! Next thing the wheels will fall off and the steering wheel will come off in your hands. Its not even a joke! Get the hell rid of it. Just mention the word "lawsuit" and you will be made a much happier person. Car delaers dont want to get investigated, they can't afford that. Just tell them to keep the GD vehicle, take your money to a reputable delaer and get a nice Ford. I personally want a Ford Fusion, but will have to wait to get a used one sometime. My daughter drives a Ford Focus, fantastic car, my hubs drives a Ford Ranger Edge, its fabulous. Stick with Ford. I drive a "from Hell" Chrysler. Nice fancy car but they dont know "F" about engines. I am stuck with it, but I have a brand new engine. I resent my car, ya know? You will too as it nickels & dimes you. Get rid of it and get back your money. Dont be wimp, stand up for yourself!! Your baby has to ride in this thing!
Roxanne xoxox
Anonymous,
I am not a therapist or a shrink but it feels to me like your hubs is dealing with a bad case of Depression. I have chronic depression so I know what I read.
I am not saying he is Bipolar but he could have a really bad case of Depression that has gone unchecked for too long. Make him an appointment. Tell him he has to go. No ifs ands or buts about it. When you are that sick, you really do not know the scope of how sick you are until you climb out of it and you are better.
(((Big Hugs!)))
I had a really bad time once and put my family through hell. I was dealing with a ill elderly Mother and an undiagnosed case of auto immune..plus I was diagnosed with diabetes. Too much for my brain to deal with i guess.
I went into intensive outpatient therapy and I am told that I am in remission.
So he can get better. You just got to light a fire under his ass like my husband did.
I picked my first cherry tomatoes today. They are yellow ones. I only picked four but I am so proud..ROFL!
It is another hot one today. Humidity sucks!
I am on the coast of CT so I can get some relief but Pat..I think I could not handle being where you are. From what you describe, it is like being on a sweaty nightmare.
Try and stay cool!
Hey Rox:
Thanks for the encouragement, and I'm sorry to hear that you've been going through hell too! Wow. Sounds like you are one tough girl that I'd be proud to know...all of you here in Pat's community are good, strong people and I'm so glad I found this site!
Today, the ex came knocking with court papers trying to take the children, who were all screaming and crying cuz (I quote) "Daddy's mean to us, we don't want to go". He didn't get them because he was told before he drove here from TN that he had to go through Louisiana courts first. So he left and now we're making plans to move her and the children to her mother's in Mississippi, to further stymie him and give her time to get papers of her own drawn up (my idea). He put in the papers that my son was dangerous and a killer (WFT?), etc, so we think this will force him to have to redo his whole complaint. Does this sound like an intelligent strategy to you guys? I'm so upset and nervous I can't tell. I feel like it's my fault because I complained *out loud* to you guys but that's silly I know.
kim---they need to GO!!! and i'd be worried about my own safety with that yahoo writing up that your son is a killer....WTF?!?!?
they needed to go before this, but now they absolutely MUST Go!
Tia, her mom is coming to get her and the kids like Thursday or Friday...can't come soon enough for me! I feel like the most horrible person in the world for saying that but it's truth. Whew. There, I said it!
Anonymous with the weird husband: get thee out of there, girl, if you can--I see you're realizing that he won't change after all this time, only you can make yourself happy now!
why should you feel bad??? they moved into your place without your permission, just your sons, they ran ripshod and interferred with your work and had you living in your room and you feel bad?!?!?!
feel RELIEVED! and take back your place!
Kim...I see no reason to think that you did anything wrong. She is going where she should have gone in the first place.
Angela had to have told the ex where she was or how would he know where to find her. Doesn't sound like she was trying to exscape to me. Sounds like she has a pattern going there.
And as for your ex---bring all of them to his church next Sunday, introduce them to the congregation and continue to tell them her sad story. Then while they are in prayer---sneak out and hit the road as fast as your wheels will take you! A little revenge always makes me feel better!!!
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