Conversations with Lissa. She told me her mom put blond highlights in her hair because it was an activity. And I asked her if it washes out. She told me it would eventually and I said, good, because I like your red hair. And she said, yeah, but, it was AN ACTIVITY and she can tell her therapist about it. She informed me that I should do activities with her so she could tell her therapist how well I'm doing with her. I said, I think maybe people should just be decent most of the time and then you don't have to worry who tells what to anyone. Also, I don't give a crap what you tell your therapist. That's between you and your therapist.She leveled her gaze at me and nodded. Then she said, Grandma, you aren't scared of anybody, are you? I said, no, that's the only benefit to being old. I hope she remembers that someday.
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AN ACTIVITY?!??! just spending time together is no longer okay????
remember when kids could just go out and PLAY and now in most places it's called 'play dates'??? at least here in the ghetto kids still go outside and play with no pre-arrangements at all....
kid's lives are way too organized and filled with too many 'activities' and they need the time to do things on their own....
lissa WILL remember...you don't have to wonder about that.....
cute pictures!
Seem to you someone is very worried about what she tells this therapist?
Oh, my dog has skinny chicken legs, eh? LOL
yeah....it does seem someone is worried about what is told to the therapist....
and what a child tells a therapist is just like you told her, it's between her and the therapist and no one else....
I plan something to do everytime she comes over. That's an activity. I just refused to point that out and be manipulated. When I call her on it, she goes back to being the sweet girl she is. It's hard to be smarter than this 6 year old. She keeps me thinking.
I have the same mindset..what you tell your therapist is your business.
I like the pictures also. She is a cutie. How did Valentine`s day go at school?
I haven't gotten a phone call. Must have been fine.
I almost commented on how light her hair was getting, but I just figured it must be the lighting, because she hasn't had sun to bleach it out. Why did her mother feel she needed highlights, anyway?
I'm coming home tomorrow until Monday! I'm bringing my grooming kit too! ;D
Regardless of her hair colour, she's as cute as a bug :)
Nonetheless, yes, someone is worried about what the therapist hears... Suggesting more activities with mom may be the therapist's way to say that a common interest/activity and more time focusing on Lissa is needed? Then it's up to the parents to spend time with their child and not worry about "activities" that they must do together. Takes the fun out of things.
Sounds like Casey has an activity planned!
I agree with everyone else about the 'activity' crap.
Tonya
You're a grandmother? LOL, I thought you were a mentally ill man! You write like a man! You must be a transvestite or something.
Lissa is a cutie, and you're a good grandmother. Every young woman needs a role model to tell her it's OK to be strong and smart and not to take any shit from anyone while finding the balance of kindness.
Bleach won't wash out, unfortunately. Lissa is so cute with the red hair. Maybe I'm prejudiced - my little baby is a redhead too :-)
Good for you though. Every little girl should have some exposure to a strong woman who says & does what SHE chooses.
Those streaks look natural enough, at least she's not tottering around in high heels and makeup like Suri Cruise. Your dog is too CUTE!
Hey Casey J, you can see who needs an "activity" in the photos. I think he has fleas too.
I do not think people should have to plan activities with their kids.
Just being there with them, paying attention to them, having them participate in daily *activities* like washing dishes or pulling weeds, and sitting on the front porch and talking about nothing in particular. That is how you make a kid feel good.
That is what I did as a kid and what I did with my kids.
And from your posts past and present DD..you do the exact same thing. If the therapist doesn't like that, she can stick it.
You have to read between the lines to get her. She also told me she needs a computer for "important educational" stuff. So I let her use mine. She went to You Tube and typed in "fart."
Aww Love the new pics of lissa. So tres chic and adorable in her little benny and joon hat. Nickie looks so cute to DD. You have 2 of the best loves right there. Her hair still looks great. Very light highlights. I wish her the very best on this apt. Take care
Aww, thank you.
Didnt you & Lissa just make Valentines and cookies??? Thats alot of activity, in my book! But its just fun, its not an activity. Its just you & me time. Thats good for kids. Lissa seems to admire your strength. Thats a good thing. Have fun with her and if she reports that as an activity, then w/e. Reading books together, talking about things and playing with the pup are the same thing. LIFE is an activity. Enjoy your time with her. I know you do.
xoxo
She typed in "fart" because she lacks good parenting and is destined to be dysfunctional the rest of her life. Aside from Lissa, please watch over that poor little dog will you please? The way she grips its legs looks very harsh on that poor little animal.
Girls don't get obsessed with farting until their in their tomboy stage, it's a bit young for a child to be Googling fart.
I went to Purdue University to see a grad student every Thursday afternoon of my 4th grade. He was a child psychologist. I became his thesis study. My mother was never allowed in while we had our sessions. He was Jewish and we talked about his holidays, my holidays. We played Tip-It and other games. All we did the entire time was talk and play. He sat in a childs size chair and was at my level, the entire room was child sized. He made it work and thats the point, he didn't ever scare me. My mom took me and found a way to get me some greatly needed help at a time when I needed it. He wrote his thesis about me and I would love to read it now, but I am sure it would scare the jeebus outta me. I was told when I was an adult that his conclusions were that I would commit suicide by the time I was 16 w/o the therapy. He wasn't far from being wrong. I am not dead, of course. Nevermind my 16th year. The point is that it was me & him, we talked, we played, we took walks around the campus. It was 1-2 hours of that every week. He was my friend. I told my mom he was my friend, I remember that. I sometimes wonder where he is now. He looked like Buddy Holly. LOL...kids sometimes need help & need to talk about stuff. I could cry thinking about it. It's hard being a kid, ya know? It's f'g hard. xoxo To Lissa.
It's obviously necessary for her Mother to plan an activity for reasons that we may not know about. My first thought is Lisaa is neglected. She has neuro issues as well. She is in therapy for a reason.
Pat would probably make a better fulltime parent for her, and well that is saying alot.
Tia you don't know squat about having children in various sports and lessons and if keeping them busy is best for them or not.
Parent's today work and can't supervise play dates. That's when kids get in trouble.
I do agree spending quality time with a child is a best you can offer.
It pains me to see a child with rotting teeth and silver caps. I hope someone helps her keep the permanent teeth clean. Pat, can you find a dentist who will apply sealants on her perm molars at a sliding scale?
Bethy
P.S. Tia, loved your new letter to the hospital!!!! They care so much about you.
aw, bethy....had a nice conversation with qwest about you the other day!
1:27:00 AM, thank you. That actually made me laugh and was a cool comment.
Rox.. Let us know what you find out because that is verrry cool!
The Tooth Fairy has been very busy with Lissa, lately. Those are just the best years!
awe! She is such a cute lil' girl. I would love to have her red hair! Gorgeous!
Aww bethy, you were on a roll then you had to come back and spoil it all. Neuro issues...ahh, that's called Chiari. Look it up. Lissa doesn't have permanent molars yet. Thanks for your concern though. :)
Opps.
Perhaps the term activity is some sort of 'newspeak' in childcare, perhaps the term activity has replaced the term 'play'. They keep changing language on us. :-(
DD Atleast she really is still listening to what you say to her. That says a lot right there and atleast what you say to her makes so much sense.
Lissa looks JUST LIKE your son. It's uncanny.
Roxanne - I really liked your comment. I think that you should google him. I bet he would be thrilled to know how much of a support he was to you during that very difficlt time.
I am not doing anything to you Tia. You needed someone to talk to and you call Qwest. Try comcast next. They care as much as the hospital does.
Have a nice day.
Roxanne I'm sure you could find him. His thesis is probably still on record at Purdue. It may take a bit of searching but it might be worth it! He would probably love to hear that he helped you.
DD That comment about Lissa typing in "Fart"-----LOL! That is some funny stuff! What a funny kid!
I'm 41 and I think I'd like to type 'fart' into youtube.
Nancy, I know. It freaks me out sometimes.
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