Yesterday, late, I was sitting here and I heard my cousin Joey start up the tiller. I got a big smile on my face, yay! He's tilling my garden! I went out there and he'd plowed a strip of lawn right in the middle of my backyard. The shock must have shown on my face. He turned off the tiller and said, "Your mom told me to put the garden here this year. She doesn't think it should be near the fence."*
I was so freaked out, I said, put it wherever you want it and went inside. He knew something was wrong and he moved the garden back where it was. In that isolated spot where no one can see me out there and it's not near anything but a machine shed. The place my mother chose was in the freekin' shade in full view of her and both neighbors. I have a torn up strip of grass that will heal, but, if he'd gone any further it would have torn up the roots of the Willow I put in last year.
Why does she do these things?? We were getting along. Oh, we'll never be friends, but, we weren't fighting. Why in the hell does she do these things? It's not her garden, it's MY garden. She doesn't work in the garden, she has no interest in the damn garden. She never goes back there and her yard is fenced off from mine, so there's no mistake. She makes me so mad that it affects my health. I am in so much physical pain today and I know it's from stress and anger. She just never stops trying to control me. If I confront her, she'll lie. She lies all the time.
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at least Joey put the garden where it had been!
wtf?!?! it is obvious she just wants to control control control and if she had the garden right there she'd be able to watch you out there and then probably come bug you.....
(HUGS)
I know she doesn't give a damn about the garden. It's all about control. She's insane and retarded. I want to smash her.
Sorry, DD. That must really hurt. As Tia said, at least he got the garden back to where you want it. I would be in pain from anger and frustration too. I wish we could all get together and move you somewhere where you actually want to live and, especially, away from your mother.
And this is a diff subject, but, Joey won't take a dime from me. He has some idea in his head that he's doing things for me that Eric would do if he was alive. Eric would never plow a garden or move furniture for me..lol. He'd change my guitar strings, but, anyhow..I made some extra at work this week and I want to give Joey some money. He takes a little from my mom for mowing and snow removal, so the logical thing would be to give it to her and have her give it to him and not tell him it was from me. It would make me feel better about all he does. But, I can't even trust her to do that.
Your cousin sounds like a very decent human being. Could you find a way to slip an envelope in his jacket or something? The good ol' pat on the back while I slip something in your pocket kinda thing??
Why wouldn't your cousin come check with you first? Why does he think she has the right to dictate anything in your yard? She's the crazy puppetmaster of Guntown and it drives her crazy that you don't dance.
it may feel like you are giving in to her, but why dont you move? Any expense would be worth your health and peace of mind.
I'm not a patter. I am the most non touchy/feely person ever. It would be weird.
Anon, I can't afford to move. And I am not physically capable of moving. My income is very limited. But, I have everything I need except peace.
yeah, Angie raises a good point....Joey should have known to check with you first....it is YOUR yard....at least he did put it where it had been, but he should have checked with you first....
He know's the old ladies are nuts, he doesn't know the extent of my mother's madness. He's finding out.
As for giving Joey something, maybe you could arrange for something to paid for him. Take the money and pay it towards his city water bill or something like that?
Yeah, I'll figure it out. He's so decent to me.
you should have your cousin just start digging where he tilled the middle of the yard...(like 6 ft deep if you get me) and dont say anything, i bet it would freak her right out.....
snowbunnie
Why the fuck didn't your cousin Joey consult YOU?
She's very convincing. No one really gets it. She's really really dumb, but, devious. She plays the role of sweet scatterbrained old lady really good. Inside, she hates me and wants to destroy me. No one gets it. No one.
well WE get it!!!
It ties my guts up in knots just reading this. I can't even imagine how you feel living it, DD. I hope you somehow get some peace soon.
this sucks. I'm sorry Pat. this really sucks.
she'll be dead soon, then you can be happy
"She's very convincing. No one really gets it. She's really really dumb, but, devious. She plays the role of sweet scatterbrained old lady really good. Inside, she hates me and wants to destroy me. No one gets it. No one."
Wrong. My husband and I get it completely. I have a mother and sibling who are exactly like your mom. Hubs'deceased mother was a lot like yours. These people could get away with murder, they're so sweet on the outside and endlessly devious on the inside. Even when they're caught red-handed, they wiggle their way out of it. Their whole world is made of rules that only work for them and they never follow the rules the rest of us do. And they're very dumb in many ways, but not when they can impart some evil on the people they're jealous of.
I really do 'get' it.
V.
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