School, school! Go to school. You know, this raising a kid thing is not that bad. I've slipped right back into the routine. I raised my son alone. I raised my daughter with her father. He had her more than I did, but, I think we both were fairly decent parents. I dunno..you can ask her. (Let it rip, Case.) Anyway, it's not all that troublesome. The routine has helped my shit sleeping patterns. A little.The kid gets to school on time. She gets picked up on time. The car always has gas in it now. There's a meal on the table every night. There's breakfast cereal. There is always milk in the house now. She's clean. Her hair is clean and brushed. Ditto her teeth. She always has clean clothes that fit. She has packed lunch twice a week, and milk money in her bag. She always has a jacket in the morning, even if I make her go back into the school to get it the day before. She always wears pajamas and goes to bed at 8.
This is not that hard. If it was just me and her, it would be a piece of cake. It's everyone else that drives me nuts. I don't understand why people have kids when they have to know this is what you do. ForEVER. This is what it is, damn. The world is made up of two types of people. The one's that have their shit together some of the time, and the ones who never have their shit together. I've met tons of those last kind. I think they're just lazy fucks. That's what I think.
Seriously. Stop whining about your depression, your dependency, your loneliness, your..what the fuck ever...and just stop being lazy fuckers. You lazy fuckers. Come on. Hoarders are lazy fuckers who won't clean. Addicts are lazy fuckers who think every day is party time. There are all kinds of lazy fuckers. Lazy fuckers do whatever they want and they want someone else to pick up that slack. Let's all kick the lazy fuckers in the nut sack or poon. Lazy fuckers.
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I would love to join this lazy fucker kick fest. Couldn't have said it better.
I mean I don't know how you do it with out a bus? You have to drive her? Wow and you make it on time? (Sarcasm)
I know. Give me a break right? I have all day to fuck around on the net..half a day on work days. Work..there's a concept. Sigh.
BTW, at home she rode the bus. No one even had to get out and drive her. Shakes head.
I like this post a lot. My kids are grown now, but there were days when sometimes things were hectic, you deal. Things don't go as planned, shit breaks, papers are misplaced, lunch money is scrounged up, whatever, it happens. Don't act like you're the only person in this world that is busy. I listen to moms today talk about how stressed they are, how nuts it is, etc. No shit? What did you think it was going to be like? You think no one else has ever dealt with this? Get over yourselves.
When do they get over themselves? It's been seven years. Get off your ass and do what you have to do. You know what I'm saying?
Though I think things can swing too far in the other direction in terms of enabling mentally ill people not to get ANY better, hoarders and drug addicts are not just lazy, and that attitude in family members made it exceptionally difficult for me to work with clients when I was in the mental health field. Some people are lazy, yes, but a lot of people were NOT given the skills needed to function properly AND they have measurable differences in their brain makeup and functionality.
I know it's hard for you to accept, since you came from a difficult home situation yourself (from what I have read) and you DID pull yourself up by the bootstraps. Give yourself a pat on the back, you were able to accomplish what others could not. That doesn't mean that others who failed where you succeeded were just lazy.
I had one schizophrenic client who frustrated the hell out of me because he had come to depend on his case managers to do every little thing. I did not put up with that crap. I let him have one phone call a day to me, and for every additional time he called me on any given day, that subtracted a day that he could call me again. So if he called me three times in one day, I took only one call that day and no calls the next two. You better believe that he managed to all of a sudden exhibit some self control very quickly.
However he had deep seated problems, and his Marine Corp father thought it was all weakness and would yell at him to just "pick himself up" which would make him fall to pieces with stress and guilt and regress substantially, making my job that much harder.
I do know what you're saying, perfectly. There were days upon days I didn't even see my house until 10pm. You have to see the bright side, less cooking, less cleaning, am I right? It was a lot of running around, but it's what I signed up for when I had them.
I find that, when faced with one of these supermoms, a smile and a "You'd think no one ever had a child before" will usually shut them up.
Nope. Not talking about the mentally ill. Talkin' about lazy mother fuckers who claim they have a problem and parrot diagnosis' they've seen on tv so they can do whatever they want..when ever they want. Because they're LAZY FUCKERS.
LAZY LAZY MOTHER FUCKERS.
Not talkin' about super moms either. Talkin' about lazy mother fuckers who pretend they're super mom when they're fucked up lazy fuckers who need to get off their fat lazy ass.
To me, they are about the same and almost as bad. The supermoms go on and on, but the lazy fuckers do too, they just sound like the normal everyday shit is like rocket science. Pretending, yes, that's exactly right.
And usually, the lazy ones end up driving their kid to school because the bus came too early and they missed it.
I was talking about the people in MY life and it amazes me that someone reading here wouldn't get that. I am blown away. I really am.
I feel like deleting this blog.
Man, I hope you aren't talking about me.
No! Don't delete this just because some people don't get it. It's the best thing I've read in a long time and is soo true!
Angie, no. Amy.
Amy, you pissed me off. I don't need you to tell me about crazy. I watched my first murder at age 6. It was an axe murder. My dad took me along for the ride. Wee!
My mother is bat shit crazy too. That's how I was raised. So, I know crazy. I can accept crazy. There's no boo hoo here. I don't need a pat on the back for acting like a responsible adult.
Kick Fest sounds good. I'm never at my place ever. I'm working long hours always. My sister in law is always bothering me on the phone with her problems, kids, my brother and the occasional woes. They are the only family I have left. But its draining. I think that's why I love my job at times. I'm always in the sky.
Fawn.
Best rant ever Pat! I hate lazy Fuckers too. Would make a great t shirt. Lazy fuckers is a springboard to many topics.
Fairy....the chick that can't remember her password
Bravo, Dear DD. I get what you're laying down here. All the ills of LIFE boil down to two things: LAZINESS and GREED.
Please run for President. Common sense never looked so good.
Mary
I'm doing what someone else is supposed to because they think it's too hard, but, they chose it. Not once, but, twice. And I'm supposed to give positive affirmation when they (let's say)..do their laundry? Or take the trash out? Seriously?
Well, good job!! Wow. I'm so impressed. Soooo, how long until they get those pesky urine tests fixed? I know they're broken.
My grandkid is a piece of cake. The rest of these people grind me like crack imbeded sandpaper.
Yeah, I didn't think so, but wanted to make sure. These women will cut a bitch that causes this blog to go down. I'm just covering my fat ass...lol
I'm alright now. Gawd, I have enough social workers as it is without coming here for one.
I get what you're saying, DD. You're pissed that they can't just do their fucking JOB. You're right. It's such a simple job, really. And they're cruel and selfish to rob their children of normalcy because they can't just handle simple tasks. I'm so glad for Lissa that she has you. It must be a huge relief for her to have an dependable adult taking care of her now.
Thanks. I'm not really pissed that she fucks it up. I'm pissed at the lying and nonsense. And the social workers and therapists who seem to encourage the nonsense. Just fess and and stop being lazy. Admit you fucked up...and stop it. The lying drives me INsane.
Sometimes I want to scream, "I was a member of Mensa! You are not smarter than me." It's old.
I had two kids, I raised those two kids, and now I am done. Thank God. I worked hard every damn day for 22 years. I am proud and now it is ME time. Some kids need to realize that the only sexy part about parenthood is conception. Some think it isn't gonna be that hard, it is hard as hell sometimes, but you just do it. Everyday! Even when you have the flu, even when your depressed.
I get what your saying DD. They want gold fucking stars for doing shit that they are supposed to do!
I am glass List has you. You will get your ME time back one day.
Damn phone
I am glad Lis has you in her corner.
I love the pumpkin too
What if one of your kids married an idiot and then had a kid? What if they then died and left you tied to the idiot? For life.
No one is boo hooing you or patting you on the back. You should NOT let someone you don't even know (me) get you that upset.
I did say pat yourself on the back, but I didn't mean that in any patronizing way. I really meant that. A lot of people get tripped up by even minor stuff in life, and it's sad. I think it's great that you are able to take care of your granddaughter and deal with all of this, though I know you don't care about my opinion anyway.
You didn't say it was people in your life, you were speaking in generalities, so no, I did not pick up on that. I am not a mind reader.
Lastly, I was trying to engage on the topic in general, not comment on specific people you were apparently talking about because I do not know them and therefore cannot make a judgement about them. I have been reading your blog for years and thought this was a place where people can talk about their experiences and opinions.
Cocktails, anyone?
You know, if there is one positive thing about this horrible economy it may be that we run out of money to support all the lazy fuckers out there-- and all the bleeding heart psych majors that cater to them. Would it really be so bad if lazy fucks just had to suck it up and get a job or starve?
How about this, in order to get a check from the govt. you at least have to pick up the godamn trash in your own front yard, you lazy piece of shit!~
Over it. But, next time anyone wants to explain mental illness to me, please speak in very small words so that I can understand.
Sally, I like your idea. Trashy yard...no check. My mother would shit herself, eh?
Mary..yes.
Crips this took a weird turn. Don't delete this blog.
I would be pissed off sometimes if my son off and died on me and left me to deal with baby momma for life without him. He understands, he knows you. He'd be pissed too.
The most annoying thing about lazy is the pile of excuses one has to conjure up to justify it. Use that energy to get out of be and do a load of laundry. geesh!
I see lazy parenting constantly. Doesn't matter if it's in my neighborhood, Walmart or the grocery store. What really gets me is when the parent brings their darlings into the office. Your kid doesn't need a civics lesson, what they need is a lesson on how to behave. Get off your lazy ass, quit watching the TV or playing your video games... do your job. You are a parent, you only have so many years to fix this problem.
Ya know, my house is never spotless, but it's a sad fuckin day when doing a load of laundry or taking out the trash is progress. Ashleigh is 7 and in 2nd grade now, Trenton will be 2 in a week and is potty training and wild and a typical boy.. I don't get to unload my kids on my mother or MIL every weekend or even once every 3 months because neither of them live remotely close to me. I am constantly drained. But I get up every morning, make the kids breakfast, do Ashleigh's hair, pack her lunch and snacks, drive her to school, come back home and my day with Trenton begins until it's time to go pick Ashleigh up from school. Then it's dinner, baths, homework, bedtime stories..I'll not even mention soccer, karate, swimming lessons, girl scouts, playgroups, playdates, birthday parties. Then after the kids are in bed sleeping and you think "finally, I can sit down and relax" you take a look at the dishes on the counter and the pots from dinner and spend another hour picking up toys, doing laundry, cleaning toothpaste from the sink, doing dishes, sweeping and mopping the floors.
And every single bit is what you sign up for when you decide to lay down, spread your legs and have a baby. When you have children life isn't about YOU anymore it's about your children, people need to wake the fuck up and realize that.
Ash and Trenton are lucky kids. They really are.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2040922/Squalid-home-family-slept-son-4-daughter-2-walked-main-road.html
you mean people like this? luckily they are in the minority!
lia
I read that before you posted it. Disgusting. Raw meat and spray paint on the kid's beds?? Dirty lazy fuckers.
I love you mom! You taught me so much. The love I have for animals, nature, music and art is all because of you. I miss singing songs with you while you play the guitar. We need to do that again. Someday I will be closer and we will be able to do more together. I hate the fact that I live so far away, (I know 2.5 hrs doesn't seem far, but when you don't have the gas money to get there all the time it is) and when I am home it doesn't seem like I have very much time to spend before I have to get back. I love you mom and I don't know what I would ever do without you. You are the greatest!
:)
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