Dear Blabby..

DEAR ABBY: I have been married almost four years. Recently I had some medical problems that were my wake-up call. I'm fine now, but I no longer am willing to wait for "someday."

I decided to try some new hobbies, one of which is skydiving. I had said for years I'd never do it because I'm afraid of heights. But I have changed my mind, and for me, this is a big deal.

When I asked my husband what he thought, his response was, "I'm not spending the day just to see you jump out of an airplane." Talk about disappointing!

I have always "gone with the flow" when he has wanted to do something. I know he doesn't want to go skydiving, but all I wanted was his support, and maybe someone to take a video or pictures.

His response has left me wondering about a lot of things. I have had enough of his negativity. He doesn't do anything except stay home. I guess I expected him to be excited for me, or to say he didn't want me doing it. The first is what I would have preferred. Now I'm not sure where I go from here. -- DISAPPOINTED IN SAN DIEGO

Go HERE to read Abby's answer. Basically, she recommends a marriage counselor.  She says this isn't about skydiving. Oh, bullshit. It IS about skydiving. He don't want any part of it and she wants to do something daring. She needs to find an adventurous friend and go for it. That's what I did and I never regretted it. It won't cure her fear of heights (it didn't mine), but, it's a great adventure and if you take the class and get good instruction, it's not that dangerous. I was so excited by it, by the time I hit the ground, the first thing I asked was for the pilot to take me up again! And again! You don't need a husband there for that and it shouldn't affect your marriage just because he's not interested in it. He has a right not to be interested in it. Why do some couples always think they have to do everything together anyway?

Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!

Crawl out onto the wheel base, hold on to the strut and...JUMP! It's awesome!