Thursday, April 10, 2014

Yesterday's crap..a dog and a cat


Yesterday kicked my butt, but, it was an alright day because I felt pretty good. I've been feeling almost normal lately and eating for the first time since that surgery I had. Anyhow, I won't bore you with the details, but, I ran around all day for family. Aunt Bitch Face is seriously ill and I went and got her out of the hospital because no one else was available..even though her people have cars, go figure. So, I got her home, delivered my mother to her house, and went to the pharmacy for her prescriptions. It was a hassle, because I didn't have the correct info for her insurance and I still have to sort all that out today. Medicare and Medicaid are making things difficult for all old people now. (Including me.) It's all a mess. Thanks, Obama. So, that's my job for today. It's a small one compared to yesterday. Our small pharmacy was out of her prescriptions, they don't stock everything like in a city, and I knew they were vital. I have the same exact scripts. Same dosages too. They were meds that protect and line your stomach and a small non narcotic pain reliever. I went back to tell my aunt and found her alone and moaning in bed. Jebus. My mom had left to get ready for her own appointment, but, she had helpfully told me my aunt's illness was caused by stress of 'them boy's' fighting. Really, Doctor Tuwella, it couldn't be because Bitch Face is nearly a hundred? Sigh. 'Them boys' are her grandsons who live with her and are actually grown men with serious issues. This whole family is dysfunctional.

It's been forever since I was at my aunt's house, because y'all know why. Her antics cause me a lot of grief. But, I am not heartless. She's old, sick and alone, except for these grandson's who seem not to be able to help her and I don't know why. I don't even want to speculate. Anyway, the woman was a wreck with pain and confusion and I knew I had duplicate meds, so I went home and got her some. Judge me all you want. I am no doctor, but, I can read. I couldn't just leave her for a whole day in pain and moaning. Besides, one of the stomach meds was vital. I knew that from my own experience. She really had to have it. I gave her water and helped her take pills. I did some other small tasks and left her sleeping..finally. I did notice that one of her grandsons had cleaned the house. It was spotless, except for her bedroom, which, I guess, is off limits. He gets some credit for that in my eyes. Dysfunctional people do the best they can.

I also had Lissa, no school that day because of a teacher's meeting, and she had badgered me to go swimming all week. But, she has no suit. I had to go to the local used shop and spell in my head for one that fit her. Because I just can't budget a new one right now. There isn't a discount store anywhere near this tiny town. The spell must have worked, they'd just put out swim suits that day and I found a small woman's Speedo that was almost new and fit her. $3 bucks. She bitched because she picked out a hot pink bikini with fucking bra pads. I said, no. Period. The tone of my voice must have warned her, because she marched the Speedo straight to the register. (The register is an old lady with a pencil, pad and cigar box.) We took a break and went home for lunch and I told her she eats half her sandwich and her stupid Goldfish or she does not go swimming. This is all so boring, isn't it? It's significant to me, because I am sick of her eating habits. You cannot go hang at the pool all day with no food in you. She stomped and raised her voice and gave excuses, but, I ignored her. When her lunch plate was empty, I reached for my keys. I dropped her off with the new suit in a cool gold beach bag we also found, (fidy cents), and breathed a sigh of relief. I stayed to make sure she got inside okay and she walked with such confidence, acting like she was hot shit with that big gold bag. It made me smile, but, the whole thing was exhausting.

Then I ran some more. Mom to the doctor, back to the pharmacy, more Medicare debates, the grocery store, picking up mom, listening to her (totally exhausting), back to the pharmacy, a cat food run, then a short break back at the house to have some Kook-Aid (totally on a grape Kool-Aid bender this week) and a smoke and back to the pool to check the kid. She'd been there three hours, found a friend, showed me her swimming skills, which blew me away. Gowd, that kid swims like a fish! She can even dive! She's finally found a sport she's awesome at, (besides Butterball, who knows what that is, really?). I will now stop worrying about the deep end and the pond on their property.

A weird thing happened in here on my smoke break, I heard a small kitten crying. I checked the house and yard and couldn't find it. It persisted. I assumed it was a real kitten and decided I'd find it when I got home from running. It really puzzled me though. But, still, we are a cat house, right? All the shit asses dump cats here. This one must be a good hider. Oh well. So, I go back to the hospital because I'd left my cane there when I helped Tuwella out of the stupid wheel chair they always put her in (she loves those damn wheel chair rides at check up time) and I'd left my favorite cane there. I'm fine, I just have a hip that's been slipping out of place lately. At the hospital, I encountered another lady with a cane, way worse off than me, and she was trying to figure out where a dog's bark was coming from in the parking lot. I knew the feeling, it can be bad news. It was a hot day. Soon, a lady in a wheel chair joined her and then a crippled old man. Jebus. A whole group of crippled animal lovers. I seemed to be the 'young sprite' in this hot mess, so I went to search. I found the dog and it was like the picture I posted. It was a miniature Collie, in a dog bed with a baby blanket, parked in the shade of the overhang with all the windows cracked. It had shade, a breeze and even toys and a bowl of water on the floor. It was fine, obviously cared for. I hadn't expected to find that. This is a backwoods place and I usually find horrible things, even children or babies in cars.

As, I was walking back (slow, owch) to tell the group, I stumbled on a small box. The box was sealed but, had air holes poked on top and was behind the back wheel of a truck. Fuck me! I opened it and inside was a greasy t-shirt wadded up and inside that was a tiny flea bitten yellow kitten. I grabbed her and took her to the group. I said, the dog is fine, she's doing better than any of us, but, I found this. I showed them the tiny kitten and explained. After cussing the unknown abandoner, the lady in the wheel chair said she'd take the kitten. Her cat had just died of old age and she felt that 'god' wanted her to take this baby. Well, okay then, thank you imaginary being. I helped the lady get the cat and her wheel chair back in her van and later, I never heard the 'kitten' at home again. It was strange. I think it was just a premonition that took a weird route. If I hadn't been on 'kitten alert' I may not have noticed that box and the truck might have smashed it. Who know? It WAS nice to know there are fellow animal lovers here who worry about dogs left in cars. It made me feel good about this backwoods farm town I bitch about.

 That looks like what I found, only 'box cat' had fleas and ear mites. I think Box Cat is a great name only the jesus lover will probably name her Fluffy. Oh, well, she has a home now. That's great.

My mother just checked on Bitch Face and found her on the floor. Her dang grandsons were drunk last night and they are hung over and sleeping in a van and a garage because 'sick people make them nervous'. We got some neighbor 'boys' to help lift her back in bed. This is bad, folks, and more than I can handle. My mother can't handle it either, though she thinks she can. Doctor Tuwella. (Giant eye roll.) They both confused meds this morning. That's it. I am calling Nurses On Call and find out what Medicare covers. It will be another long day. I know this is the shits to read. Sometimes this place is just my diary and can bore you to tears.

ps..dear diary..Lissa just called from school and said I have to pick her up. I guess one day is enough for her mom. I will be there, book in hand. I'm reading Oprah by Kitty Kelly. It's old, but, what hell, it was in a free box. Did you know Oprah's baby lived for 6 weeks?? I did not know that. I thought he was still born. She never went to see him. Not even once. No judgement here. I just didn't know.

 


16 comments:

connie45 said...

Dang! What an exhausting day! I hope you are able to carve out a little time to care for yourself. If you go down - it's not going to be good for anyone. The "caretaker" always suffers from neglect.
My father has alzheimers and my 84 yr old mom insists that he remains at home as long as possible. It's taking years off her own life though. Luckily my Dad was wise enough to purchase himself a long term disability policy decades ago and he has daily assistance for several hours everyday. Plus there is myself and all my siblings who are an ongoing part in seeing to their needs. Having alot of kids comes in handy sometimes. Still, caring for him is a grueling 24/7 job and he, still being a stubborn, prideful man - makes it even harder.
Maybe Lis should consider a tankini. Still a two-piece but usually does not include big bumper pads. Is there maybe a swim club or team she could join? Probably means you would carry all the responsibilities though.

Dirty Disher said...

I want her on a swim team. When I get time, I'll look into it. I also want to go swimming with her. I need an old lady suit. The tankini's look weird on her because she's tall and skinny, but, has a little pot belly. I think she can swim it off if I buy a season pass.

Aunt Bitch Face's son is sitting with her now. He came from out of town. Whew. I am worthless at lifting old people.

Dirty Disher said...

PS.,.Lissa was with me when I picked up Bitch Face at the hospital. She patiently cradled all the flowers and carried them and BF's bags into the house for her. She arranged the flowers on her tables. She's a great kid. I made her sound bratty, but, usually she's not. She just really wanted that grown up glitter 'kini and swimming because running for old ladies is boring for her. But, she always helps.

Anonymous said...

I detest Oprah. She is one of the most racist black people on earth.

Dirty Disher said...

The book said her dream was always to be white. I think it's true, but, she's over it. She IS racist. I can't judge her on how she treated her baby, she was an abused child at the time. I believe that.

Jane said...

I guess aunt bitch face won't be writing anymore books. There have been many good stories about her. I will miss them.

As for Oprah, I don't care one way or the other. She irritates me.

Remind Lis that if she is serious about swimming, bikinis are very uncomfortable, don't stay in place, tend to come undone at the wrong time and can be very embarrassing. My red face can atest to that. Memories still make me blush.

Beth said...

good luck with the olds. you are such a good person to help them when they have and do treat you so badly. take care of yourself, like connie said.

Lissa sounds like a great kid, I think it's hysterical when you tell us about her preference for FLASHY clothes. Too funny, she is going to be such a unique, fierce and cool person when she grows up, thanks in no small part to you.

Sending you good thoughts.

Anonymous said...

I love reading about your life! Your stories are so interesting to me, and it's bizarre to me what you sometimes have to put up with.
As to your Aunt. . . in most families there are people who step up to the plate, and others who sit back and say "why doesn't anyone do anything?" I know this from personal experience. How others can sit back and just allow nature to take its course, or say they don't have the skills, etc. is beyond me.
When my mom was in skilled care and they assured me that they would keep close track of her clothes and special blanket, I thought, we will see. By the next day, virtually all of her things had been lost. My sister and I spent time and located all the lost things. It was apparent that someone would have to watch over her and her belongings. Do you think anyone but me stepped up? Nope. Just me. Visiting twice a day on my days off, and at least once a day on work days (I work 12 hour shifts). Doing all her laundry, etc. Someone had to, and just like in your case, only one person really steps up. (I am discounting your mom's contributions because, well, you know.) It's just a shame that it has to be you.
They are all lucky to have you, and I'm glad that Lissa is growing up with you to guide her.
I am worried about you trying to do all the hard, physical lifting, etc. You shouldn't have to lift anything heavy with your recent surgery and difficult recovery.
Pretty amazing about the premonition you had about the kitten. You saved that helpless little guy's life. Weird that someone would put the box kitty was in, behind the wheel of a truck. That's crazy right there. . .
Christina

Dirty Disher said...

Christina, it was obviously a pig farm truck, you could smell it. I think people believe all farmers take stray cats for their barns. But, of course, that's bullshit. Some of them shoot cats. He might have missed the box anyhow, it was just bigger than a shoe box.

Dirty Disher said...

Thanks, Beth, but, I'm not that good. I hate those old ladies. I just believe family has certain duties to family. Even if they've treated you badly. Being decent will leave you with no guilt when they're gone.

Dirty Disher said...

Jane, LOL you remembered. Her stupid self printed 'book' drove me to tears. Gowd, I hate the bitch. But, I felt no death around her. I think she'll rally, even if she is 90 and too sick for the surgery she needs.


As for Lis, Alco had last years suits on sale for $10 bucks yesterday. I went in and found two in girls size 16, one was a one piece, one was a tankin, but, the top was long. I looked in my checking account and I had $27 dollars. I thought, fuck it, I'm broke anyhow and she deserves it. I bought them both. She had a bad night because of a misunderstanding with a teacher and was crying. I finally found the teacher's addy, emailed her and gave Lis the suits to cheer her up (instead of putting them in her Easter/Ostara basket. She was really thankfull and happy.

Dirty Disher said...

ps..I was never embarrassed by a bikini, but, I had a tube top suddenly roll all the way down on a crowded disco dance floor once. I wanted to crawl in a hole and never go back there. Unfortunatly, I worked there, it was my night off. Fuck tube tops. And discos.

Anonymous said...

You do waaay too much sometimes! WOW! Thats a crazy, nutty, exhausting f'g day. It would take me 2 days to recover. And yes. Lis needs a one piece to actually swim and dive. Tell her it's like the Olympians wear. Bikini's are for laying out. Tanks are for actual swimming. Which, btw, is THE best workout anybody ever had. I would love to swim daily. The kitten story is so sweet. Thank goodness. And I agree with anon up there. O is THE most racist person on TV. Don't you just love the "skinny" O on every O magazine cover? Gawd, I hate her. But w/e. and about the old, sick people. I totally get it. Stupid Medicaid and Medicare can suck it. And even in larger cities, Pharmacies will be out of something, or have 2 pills and expect you to drive back again to pick up the difference. And I have to say, the live-in nephews are no different than most men. Men are weak when it comes to dealing with anything that is about illness. If it changes their daily routine, they can't handle it. It's how they are wired. Some men, can deal. Most cannot not. However, I have noticed an uptick in male nurses whenever my husband is in the hospital, again. My hubs just had total knee replacement surgery, just another surgery in his life. But it's hard to care for another person and work 50 hrs a week as well. And 2 dogs! I have been f'g falling into bed all week. So, I totally get you running non-stop. I am getting so tired. But. that's life. If I win the lottery, I am buying a fabulous motorhome and traveling to all the National Parks. We all need a vaca. Please take care. And my best to you and your family. I do hope your aunt and mother get better soon. Take care of YOU too! Don't forget that. Us women tend to do that. xo

Dirty Disher said...

Thanks, it turned out yesterday was just as exhausting with these old ladies confusing 'scripts. I had to go to that pharmacy 6 times!! All because they don't hear people well on the phone. I finally had to call the damn doctor and talk to him. Today will be better, they BOTH have their GD meds and groceries and cat food. Jesus. Now, I have to go hope the used store has a phone, because mine just quit. I need it to straighten out my own medicare and Lis called from school and said she refuses to go home on the bus. She left a message for me at Tuwella's, so I can't even ask what the problem is. OMFG. This family!!

Roxanne said...

Hell, my husbands Dr doesn't even phone in his Rx till 10 at night usually. Even if he's out of something. Then, she won't call in everything. We drive all the way to walgreens just to find out she didn't call in one or two if them. That's BS. It happens every GD time too. He's on the phone getting his meds straightened out, more than any other thing he does. But many Drs won't F with Medicaid patients. You get kinda stuck. It's stressful and exhausting. Neither is good for someone ill. eBay has deals on phones! I do not want a smart phone. So, I keep buying new batteries for $7 on eBay to keep my 2009 phone working. I'm a hold out too. I don't want nor need the GD Internet on my phone!

Roxanne said...

Hell, my husbands Dr doesn't even phone in his Rx till 10 at night usually. Even if he's out of something. Then, she won't call in everything. We drive all the way to walgreens just to find out she didn't call in one or two if them. That's BS. It happens every GD time too. He's on the phone getting his meds straightened out, more than any other thing he does. But many Drs won't F with Medicaid patients. You get kinda stuck. It's stressful and exhausting. Neither is good for someone ill. eBay has deals on phones! I do not want a smart phone. So, I keep buying new batteries for $7 on eBay to keep my 2009 phone working. I'm a hold out too. I don't want nor need the GD Internet on my phone!