Yes, it's annoying and insulting, but, I fear for her. Confronting idiots alone is dangerous and you will never change the way an idiot thinks. I'm 60 years old and I'm still hearing the idiot cat calls every time I walk Guntown. "Hey Blondie! Nice ass! Woo woo!" I either wave or flip them off, depending on my mood. The difference is, I know most of the idiots here at least vaguely. I may think they're idiots, but, I don't feel threatened. In the city, it would be a different story and no way would I confront anyone. These idiots will never understand that cat calls make us feel scared and unsafe. They're best ignored. If a big dog on a chain barks at you, you don't poke it with a stick. Someday, it could break it's chain.
What do you think? What do you do when you encounter this? Does it piss you off?
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That pisses me off so much! Those videos are terrifying. So many ignorant and sexist men out there. Good for her. I hope her message spreads.
I do too. Most of the mean no harm, they just don't realize how scary it is for us when we're alone. Ignorance is all it is. But, you really have to pick your battles wisely. Around here, if I started a verbal fight with the idiots, my cousins would come and end it and they'd all end up in jail. I get sick of it, but, whatever. When it's a stranger in a strange place, it's scary.
Yeah....being in a small town is different, because you probably know them. Not that it's right, but there would be no way to confront them like she does.
When I was a pre-driving teen, I took the bus everywhere. One time while waiting at the bus stop, there was a car full of men so busy catcalling me that they didn't notice traffic had stopped, and they plowed into the car in front of them. I've never laughed so hard in my life. Oh...and I was probably 14 at the time.
She's not being safe. Getting close enough to a stalker to hand them a card? That's very dangerous. Even a kid knows to just keep moving, or run. She's actually encouraging them. IMO
Rox
This never happens to me. I mean never. Even so, I'd be ignoring it and definitely not confronting anyone.
This happened to me daily in one form or another when I was younger. I remember when it stopped, gradually at about age 35 and it was FANTASTIC.
That said, I live in Minneapolis. We have a SERIOUS problem downtown with loitering gang members and homeless. So some of the people she is dealing with very likely could be violent, crazy, desperate pieces of shit with NOTHING to lose. If I were her I would not be doing this. I certainly hope she has a tough friend with a gun near by. (and a gun at her house).
And to the idiot in video 2 I think it was, in the MN Gophers shirt: Look it up asshole: "bitch" does not mean "sexy". But if you insist it does then I'm going to declare right now that "nigger" means "tan". Fair is fair after all.
These things used to happen to me, but I'm invisible now. The funniest time was when I was passing a building site and they started carrying on till they saw my pregnant stomach. Dead silence after that. Just respect. That was funny. Another time I was sitting on a bench in the city square when a guy started harassing me. I got so pissed off that I followed him. So close that I kicked his heels. He freaked and started moving faster and I stayed on his heels, following him right through town. He finally escaped into a men's toilet. I kinda freak about it now, he could have turned on me any time and assaulted me. But I was so fucking mad that time I didn't care, I just wanted him to know what it was like.
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