THIS is one of the most moving articles I've seen lately. A mother, who lost her 20 year old son, CJ, to suicide, is asking strangers to scatter his ashes around the globe. CJ wanted to go places, see things, he never got to do that. So, his mom is doing the best she can to see that it happens and so far, 10, 000 strangers have helped out. They get a pic of CJ and a tiny bag of ashes and they take of picture of the place they have helped to put him and send it back to his mother. In that photo, his remains are being scattered in The Sierra Fria Mountains on Day Of The Dead. His mom has a FaceBook page, just for this project, it's called 'Scattering CJ' and it's
HERE for those of you who use FB. I only read a few of the responses and I saw some awesome ones and one disappointing one that told her to give it up and lay him to rest already, basically. I don't think she should give up until all the ashes are gone. Let her grieve and heal the way SHE needs to, not the way YOU would. Besides, not many of them have walked in her shoes.
I have walked close to her shoes, it makes no difference how you lose them, really. I used to think it did, but, they're still gone and you're left here going WTF? I'll leave her a message later, after I've thought on it awhile. Only time makes it better, as a few of you parents on here know. And there are a LOT of ashes in those cold, lonely urns. I didn't know that either, but, I do now. Looking at that urn everyday, well, it may be a comfort to some, but, it pissed me off and made me sad all the time until it went where it was supposed to, which took a long damn time. So, I get this mom and what she's doing. Do you live somewhere cool and want to help her?
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So sad. Reminds me of my daughter's wish. She told me when she goes to take her to the top of a hill and "let me fly". I of course, told her that will be her husbands responsibility. And now she's married and he doesn't believe in cremation. It's sad. I hope I'm long gone if that day ever comes. This is a great mom!
rox
My uncle died after a short illness this year. Because he loved to travel and did not see nearly all the places he wanted, my aunt divided up his ashes to some close family members of to do something similar to this.
So far I have taken him to Disneyland (I put him in a quiet little area near Sleeping Beauty's Castle where the wishing well is). Later this month I will leave some of his ashes in Tahiti and Bora Bora while vacationing there over Christmas.
We are taking pictures of where we left ashes and writing a little paragraph about where the location is and what the day was like. Then the picture and paragraph are getting put into a little memorial book.
-T
My FIL passed away a year ago. My husband took some of his ashes and sprinkled them on his beloved Eldora Race Track in Ohio. He is also going to take some ashes back to his home in Tennessee someday. Take him home. You have to sneak to do this! Once a man took some of his dads ashes to "The Pirates of The Carribbean" ride in DW. He was caught, they stopped the ride. Drained it. Sanitized it. It took about 4 days to get the ride back working. OF course somebody on the boat is gonna see you! So, don't do that. Be careful and sneaky. Nobody needs to know.
Rox
I won't judge anyone else's expression of grief. If this makes her feel better, and gives her peace, then so be it.
Christina
What a wonderful tribute to her son. Looks like she has no shortage of volunteers! That makes me happy.
What a lovely idea. I am going to be commingled with my husband and pets and put in a crypt next to my mom. The mausoleum is what bothered me but mum didn't want to be all alone and I'll be dead. They let you co-mingle ashes.
I live less than an hour from Lake Louise, and yes the water really is that colour. I wonder if anyone from here has offered to help. I think I'll go check it out, see what I can do.
Darn, already been done:
CANADA ALBERTA - LAKE LOUISE (Tanya).
I don't see Drumheller on there anywhere though. That's an hour in the opposite direction.
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