What an incredibly awesome funeral we had. Calling it a funeral is silly, it was a party. I'm lucky I got these photos of his things alone, because there was a huge crowd. I am not kidding. I haven't been in a crowd like that since the last time I went to see The Stones. Eric was there with me for that and I have no doubt he was here the night of his last party. His friends thought so too.
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There was no sitting in rows in suits listening to some preacher. There was beer and soda and junk food and pizza and slide shows and vids and blasting music. It may sound odd, but, at one point I just sat in a comfy chair and watched all the people who loved my son drinking a beer, eating pizza, touching his guitars, going through the albums and laughing at their Eric stories and I was SO greatly comforted by that. It was exactly the way he would have wanted it.
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I have so many people to thank...Davey, Josh, Collin, Dick, Jeremy..Oh my, excuse me if I don't name all your names, it would take an entire page and more. You know who you are and that I love you. Thank you to my friends who just listened to me..Shirl, Adrian, Fuzzy, Deb, Glenna, Josh, Crabbie, Nads, Judy, Jackie, Peg, Tammy L., Noelle, my sweet Casey....many more. I'll post more later. Hugs to all of you.
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Oh, how can I forget the guys who did the memorial benefit! I can never say thank you enough to you and everyone else for such selfless generosity. It is...amazing.
Oh, how can I forget the guys who did the memorial benefit! I can never say thank you enough to you and everyone else for such selfless generosity. It is...amazing.
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Thank you for sharing Eric with us and for sharing this with us. I think I can speak for most of your readers and say that many of US were there in spirit.
I know you were, I felt you. Hugs.
Sounds like the perfect service. I'm sure Eric approved and was right there with all of you, feeling the love.
Susan
I'm sure he was rockin with the music :) I think it was a wonderful way to say "see you later". Because of all the people that showed it proved that he was a well loved man and that he liked people. It showed a lot about who he was.
Big Hugs
Eliza
That sounds amazing. I have always preferred the types of funerals where you truly celebrate the life of the one who has passed away. This sounds like it was a great celebration. I am glad that it has given you comfort. >--hugs--<
Beautiful pics DD. Thank you for sharing it with all of us anon's! We love you babe. We were there in spirit. Eric would have loved what you all did for him, he was truly loved very much.
Sounds like it was a wonderful and fitting celebration of his life. Thank you so much for sharing it with us!
xoxox
What a beautiful way to have celebrated his life. That's what it should be like, a celebration of the wonderful times that were shared. Much love to you and your family.
That's awesome, DD. I'm so glad to hear that you truly held a celebration of his life.
What everybody else's said...
Plus, his guitar colletion looks truely awesome. Without ever having known him in person - I am positive I'd have admired him straight away.
I'll continue to send you good thoughts and wishes & I sincerely hope that Lissa is going to do ok too.
Thanks for letting us all in on this. And giving us (me) pointers how to deal with grief.
I second and third everyone! I'm glad you are doing ok. Hugs!
Thank you for sharing! That's just the kind of thing I'd like to have. When our good 21-year-old friend died last year, there was just a stuffy old preacher talking about how we needed to use his death as a reason to get saved and repent of our sins. And all of his close buddies were just like, wtf? Jonathan wasn't even a Christian as far as we know! So, afterward, we did something like you were talking about...we went to the park and sat around and shared our memories and laughed and cried, and it was amazing. I'm glad you had a great service like that, because those fire and brimstone sermons at funerals just make things worse IMO! If I could have been there I would!
DD, truly Eric was fortunate to have you, and vice versa. It's so beautiful to see that his life was celebrated by so many who loved him. I hope you continue to celebrate his life, and that it brings you much peace.
I just want to thank all of you for suporting my mothers site here, and for helping her out through this tough time of our lives. I know it has helped her through it when she reads all of your comments. Thank you all so, so much.
Casey J.
I LOVE YOU ERIC! RIP
*If you listen to the wind you can still hear him play*
Pat you gave him a goodbye like he would have wanted.... I'm sure he was there saying "way to go mom".
We had a crossing of thoughts once again today, you were emailing me when I called lol, so you didn't have to put it all down in writing... :)
Glad to hear that lissa was with you for the weekend, and who knows for how long actually, but she's good for you and you for her... that is what counts.
Lets talk again soon.... hugs my dear friend....
Nads
What a very special day that will be forever looked back on and although very sad, a sense of calmness will be thought of too because you did everything you know Eric would have wanted and you enjoyed his life with his friends.
It must have brought you a lot of pride and comfort sitting back and watching and listening to all the people there remembering Eric in their own way.
I know today was really difficult too Pat for you and your family, but now a sense of healing can start.
Take care and thanks for posting the pictures.
Crystal
thank you for sharing your life with us.
Thanks to all of you. I have a monument to design. I've never done anything like that before, but, it will be very cool, I can tell you that.
You are an artist, so get to work woman...... we will be waiting to see pics.
Nads
Sounds like you are being a super help to Eric's wife. I know she must appreciate everything. And to have you design the monument. Thats amazing. You mentioned her earlier, I hope she's doing well. I don't recall her name but we think of her too. You are a fantastic M-I-L and G'ma! Take care..we love you girl.
His ex, actually. Don't matter, family is family. Ups and downs, whatever..family.
My friends died too young and we had similar celebration-of-life things with drumming and dancing and music. Too many amazing people and way too young.
I keep meaning to tell you all about my close friend and how she died 6 yrs ago last week and how odd the death was and we were born really close together so it's still like new, but I've been working too much to do that. Just know I'm thinking of you and your family and if I don't post, it just means I'm not near a pc. Blessings
Thanks for sharing a very special part of your life with us. I was also with you in spirit. We all love you very much...
-kg
What a beautiful party. Sounds like you really celebrated him, which is just so wonderful. That is the way to go! I'd definitely expect something so appropriate from you, a party beats anything else you could have done. And a great eulogy, btw.
Laura
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