This is laying in the yard today and I hope it lays there until it rains and I have to lug it to the trash. My Mother is re-doing my brother's room. He said he didn't want it re-done so she re-did it. She sprung for paint and windows and a new floor. Now, she bought this roll of filth at a yard sale for $20 bucks and paid someone to deliver it. The person who sold it to her has a house as gross as hers. So, she's buying some other filthy persons filthy carpet to put in a nice clean room. It has ground in grease spots all over it. She could have gone to the discount store and bought a new room sized rug for the same price. Or she could have had me take her to the carpet store and gotten a remnant of new carpet in a better quality for about $50 bucks. But, she says this good enough for my brother. He is not coming home, I've told her that. He's still in a care facility and his doctor has said Mom's house in not a good environment for his mental health. No kidding. Duh.
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She says he needs to come home because "they" take all his money. If he came home, she'd take his money. He doesn't really need money, he gets a little spending money. At the end of the month he runs out of smokes and calls her. She gives me $20 bucks and says, go get your brother a carton of cigarettes, which I do. They cost $52.50 a carton. Then she tells everyone she has to buy the poor boy cigarettes because "they" take all his money. I don't think he should ever come home and this carpet is a great example of why.
She says he needs to come home because "they" take all his money. If he came home, she'd take his money. He doesn't really need money, he gets a little spending money. At the end of the month he runs out of smokes and calls her. She gives me $20 bucks and says, go get your brother a carton of cigarettes, which I do. They cost $52.50 a carton. Then she tells everyone she has to buy the poor boy cigarettes because "they" take all his money. I don't think he should ever come home and this carpet is a great example of why.
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She also took his bed. He bought a new bed before he left. She took it and replaced it with an old gross couch. So now, when he comes to visit he will see his room is totally changed, like he asked her not to do, his bed is gone and he has a greasy carpet with someone else's grease on it. Unless it rains before Joey comes over to put it in for her. I hope it rains.
She also took his bed. He bought a new bed before he left. She took it and replaced it with an old gross couch. So now, when he comes to visit he will see his room is totally changed, like he asked her not to do, his bed is gone and he has a greasy carpet with someone else's grease on it. Unless it rains before Joey comes over to put it in for her. I hope it rains.
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And my crazy bitch aunt, the one I hate who live across the street says "Your poor mother spent all that money trying to help your brother come home. She just loves you kids so much. She's amazing."
I hate that old cunting bitch.
I read this and shake my head. It's a wonder one of you kids didn't lose it and off her, through the years. Your poor brother did lose it but at least he is out of her direct line of fire for the most part. You still deal with it and hang on to your sanity too boot. You're a stronger gal than I would be.
For the longest time I thought her shit was normal and I couldn't figure out why I was so angry. I was environmentally retarded. Good thing that's curable. I am serious.
Shakes head. I don't know how you do it Pat. Shakes head. WTF did she do with new bed?
Did I mention my brother has a problem with change? Yeah, he's OCD and skitz. He freaks out about changes and his room is an add on way in the back where no one goes. I don't understand why she wanted to do this.
Pat-Most of the time the stories you write about your mother and other crazy relatives make me laugh but not this one.
She kept the bed for herself and got rid of her bed which was my son's old bed. It was a nice bed, but, there's no way I'd keep that. My son was a womanizer..and I'm glad he had a good time before he died, but, I could never sleep in that.
Pat- I's all about control. She buys you stuff she knows you don't like or want or need and does the same thing to your brother knowing full well he can't deal with change. She controls his insanity and controls your sanity. If that makes any sense. IDK
And how she thinks this is going to allow him to come back so she can spend his money is the most insane thing of all!
Jesus, Pat, I don't know how you hang on to your sanity! I eliminated all the nut cases out of my life years ago. Just couldn't deal with it anymore. I figured 40 years of hell was enough for anyone.
Pat, the strength it must have taken to pull out of her head trips and move forward in your own life leaves me amazed.
The fact that you can still find it in your heart to contend with her crap leaves me equally stunned.
I am no where near the compassionate or understanding woman you are. I'd have run as far away as possible by now and left her to her hoarding or offed her butt in a hissy fit of my own.
I would say put some jam on it and let the ants get to it. Don't wait on the rain. Or dump it then tell her someone must have stolen it.
I can't imagine how let down he would be to see the "new" room if he ever does go home, getting rid of the carpet would at least be one less piece of disappointment.
You guys give me too much credit. I am not right in the head. But, I'm not mean. I realize I am odd though. I can still feel sorry for her sometimes, but, mostly she makes me feel sick.
My SIL lives in a nursing home and gets mad because 'they take her money'. It's money the state GIVES her for being disabled, and the nursing home deserves every penny, as they provide 24 HOUR CARE for her. She is trying to move out to her own apartment and is realizing she can't pay rent, utilities, groceries and furnish it on what the state gives her. PLUS the care she would need at home.........
Yep, Tricia, they just don't get it.
Often parents who are hoarders have a child
with OCD. I know firsthand my mom was so
messy keeping all sorts of useless crap it would
put pressure on me as a child I would try to
keep mybedroom so tidy and free of clutter.
I could never bring a friend inside our home was
so messy and untidy a total pigstye. Me I totally
rebelled and went the opposite way and my sister
just succumb to the sloth and accumulations of
useless rubbish. It was a difficult childhood for us.
Does your brother live with your mom, DD? Or did she actually go into his house and do all this?
Either way, that is a TERRIBLE thing to do to somebody who has OCD. I used to have raging OCD (I did exposure therapy in 2007 and it's been much better since) and I would have been *hysterical* if someone had done this to my bedroom while I had bad OCD. Shame on your mom for doing that to your brother.
Alison, my brother's room is in my mom's house, but, he lives in a care facility now. He's been there a few months and I think it's a good place for him. This is the first time he hasn't lived with her.
9:24:00 PM..I know exactly what you mean.
You just want to yell "WHAT IN THE FUCKING HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?!!!"
And then you mentally say, GAAHHHH!!!! - Because you know they won't get it, there's no way you can have a rational conversation with them, and they'll act like you're the one who's gone off the deepend.
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