going to newton falls again tomorrow for fire works....went there for the first time last year and they are GREAT!! 45 minutes of continuous fireworks!!!! i love fireworks!!!!
and newton falls is a lovely little community.....it's about 50 minutes away from me but really worth the drive!!!
TODAY i got up late, bah...gonna change kitty boxes, take a bath, do some yard work---or try too....there's an ozone warning today and it's hard to breath....change the sheets and finish cataloging my royal books....that is the PLAN....i'll see how far i get! :)
Going to my sister in law's today for a picnic. Only the fireworks will be probably be between the sister-in laws that can't stand each other. I have to get there early for a good seat!
So glad to hear you're on the mend DD. I'm working July 4th. It's just another day in Canada. Although I worked during our national holiday on July 1st too, so...yeah. Double time and a half wewt! I'm going to head for a dark corner and visit my soul now.
Starting at 10 this morning I thought my entire neighborhood was on fire. Normally if there is a problem in here, the trucks shut off their sirens before they enter the subdivision. Nope not today, sirens nonstop! Then I remembered it was the 4th of July bike parade for all the little kids in the neighborhood. (decorated bikes, walkers, strollers, riding lawn mowers) We always have several trucks from the local volunteer station up the road lead the parade. But, it's time the boys took their toys back to the station. The parade has been over since 10:20. It's now after 11 and they are still driving the trucks through here. Getting a little tired of listening to those sirens. Can't complain about the volunteers tho, those guys show up within minutes when there is a problem. Hope the neighborhood association gave them a nice donation for doing this.
As for the 4th, I'm not doing anything. Tried to play the sympathy card with a friend when she asked what I was doing. She's not having a picnic b/c she's tired of her mooching family and needs to work on the garage sale she's having next week. She will be calling me to drive 40 miles to help on that.
11:10 Dayum, the trucks are still here! Those boys must be bored.
Won't be doing too much (too hot - 122F today). Here in Spain, it's just another day (although it's a Sunday). Today am watching the big game (Spain-Paraguay) for the world cup, and lunch with family tomorrow. Glad to hear that you'll "live" lol. Hope you feel better! Beth in Seville
Glad to hear you are feeling better, DD. We've missed you! Slept in a little today, and now that I'm up, I think I'll take care of the puppies, and chickens. My husband said he would, but he isn't, so what else is new? The clothes dryer sounds like it's on its last legs, but I'm going to keep doing bedding until it belches flame. My son went to work at 9, and my husband is probably going to go to his mom's place. She has been dumping a load of anxiety on him again. I think she needs a part-time job or a hobby as she stirs up problems and borrows trouble, otherwise. Something going on with her neighbors again. @@ Last year it was the neighbors' tree dropping some small leaves on her deck. She wanted to sue. :::sigh:::
It's cooling off here - only supposed to be 107° today. :)
Still unpacking from trip, hope to finish today. Tomorrow just getting together with my family for a poolside BBQ. I'll end up with a slight hangover and probably a sunburn but it's always worth it - we have lots of fun.
Relieved to hear you're feeling better DD. Make sure Nikki is secure when the fireworks begin. You never know how the pets will react...
I don't think we are going anywhere or doing anything for the 4th. Our son wants to go over to his friend's place for a "fireworks show" and we will probably just hang out. Our neighbor, who committed suicide, was always the heart of the 4th of July activities. He always had a ton of the illegal fireworks, and there were many times that we were still watching at midnight. It will be weird with his family here, but none of the usual stuff going on. George and I may set off a few things, but, all the kids are gone, so it won't be the same. We live in a very small neighborhood. Eight homes, and the end two generally don't participate. Everyone else had kids who are now grown, except that the next door neighbor has a two-year-old. We used to set up the grill, invite family, and people would set out small tables with dessert along the street. All the boys had super soaker water guns and worked fire control. It was very organized. My mom is going to Goldendale Washington for the demolition derby, but she is going with my brother and his son. It's a weird year. I'm off of work, but not doing anything, and we are poor, so we couldn't afford to do much, anyway. I think my husband will go back to work in a week, or so, but he still had not submitted all the paperwork for his leave as of yesterday, so all his time off has been without pay. At least his withdrawal from the pristiq is going smoothly. He is less dizzy, and forgets things less. LOL! No more buying two or three soldering irons in a week because he can't remember that he bought them. At least that is an improvement.
DD, glad to see that you're feeling better! Happy 4th to everyone...watch some fireworks for me, since I can't! We're just rambling around now, the 2 of us, and Aaron's still depressed since the sis/kids left on Wednesday.
Nothing much here, the Dubuque fireworks and airshow is today, but I don't feel like fighting the crowds and traffic. I might just stay home and chill. Tomorrow there are more fireworks, so if I feel the need, I can go into town and see them, but they aren't so great that they outweigh the bugs. I know, I'm a big downer today :(
i'm from clinton.....a friend of mine currently is going to nursing school in dbq....
how long have you been there? remember in the 80s when they tried to have some black families move to dbq as there was none and people were having hissy fits and burning crosses in their yards? i think only 1 out of 10 families stayed....i hope their race relations has improved...
do they still have that train car that goes up the really steep hill??
I'm on the other side of the river, been here all my life :) Race relations are about what you could expect, really. You had a guy with lofty ideas that didn't think them through, instead of enticing middle class families with good jobs, they offered welfare benefits to those with nothing. Now Dubuque has areas that you don't venture into, regardless of your skin color. Gang affiliations and activities, the standard fare. Not to say it wouldn't have happened anyway, but many people blame old Jim Brady, that's for certain.
On the up side, the cable car is still there, I think it still runs, but it's been ages since I've checked that out. Your friend probably goes to Clarke, yes? Great nursing program there. Loras doesn't offer it and UD just started it up again.
The last time I was in Clinton, I visited a spiritualist camp and had a reading done. Interesting, but nothing like some of Pat's stories :)
The Pool and Picnic and fireworks. The challenge is where to watch from many shows going on around The Lake best place to watch is on the water from a boat. BUT everyone knows that and it is way too busy and rough for my kids. Scary. Adult only. So still need to find a spot to watch from.
Not doing much of anything tomorrow. I bought some ribs to grill. I only have 1 son left at home. I thought he would be spending the 4th with us but he has a new GF and has decided to spend the night and the 4th at her house. sigh. This new GF is an only child of a mom who has been divorced for about 20 years. I guess she feels if she allows her daughters BF to stay the night, she'll be able to keep her daughter at home. I really don't appreciate such lax rules as I would not allow that in my house with a girl he's only been going out with a month. But he's 23 and there's not too much I can say. I guess I'm just feeling the effects of an empty nest.
My 4th will be just me and my husband who it seems lately, his main purpose in life is to irritate me. Just another wonderful effect of menopause.
I'm just outside of Galena. If you remember the ghost boy photo Pat posted, that was in Grant Park on the east side of Galena. You can see a bit of the hillside in the background :)
galena is great place (at least it was the last time i was there about 16 years ago! i can't imagine the city changing much).....i always wanted to stay at that B&B up on the hill, i think fern manor? i just love all the old stores and old homes!!! and all those stairs up the hill!!! i remember there was a thomas nast painting of the signing of lee signing his surrender to grant...it was huge.....
The Felt Manor and I just walked by there today, it's been for sale for ages, still no takers. I'm sure they want a fortune for it. Galena has always been the most amazing place to both visit and live. Very small town, gets a bit dicey when kids get to high school age, but most of them come out okay :) Tried leaving a few times, but only made it 8 miles out of town...LOL
Going over to a friend's for dinner tomorrow - nothing much in terms of actually celebrating the 4th. No fireworks shows for us tomorrow - my 4 year old has a double ear infection so early night and lots of care and rest :(.
My son wants his room painted as an under water world for his 8th birthday so we are starting to prep for it. I only wish I could be a better artist and do some fun art on his wall - or wish I could use Kiki's talents to help out! I'm great at stick figures though ;-).
Glad you are healing, Pat and feel more alive today than you have.
How is Lissa's little brother doing? How is she adjusting to him?
Melissa My favourite things after birds to draw is sealife. From fish to corals. I sent DD a sketch of a seaturtle underwater looking up at the surface of the water. - Kiki
Melissa My favourite things after birds to draw is sealife. From fish to corals. I sent DD a sketch of a seaturtle underwater looking up at the surface of the water. - Kiki
Kiki, did you ever take art classes or is it something you can do naturally? Either way, I am envious and wish I could replicate what my son imagines on his walls. I will do my best...
Would love to see your sea turtle swimming underwater looking up at the surface. Hopefully, DD will post it tomorrow :) I think I remember you sketching this thinking about the sea life in the gulf in light of the BP disaster. I cry and want to scream every time I think of what is happening and what lies ahead of us. They must not get away with this.
It's 12:30am here and my partying neighbors down the block just decided to start shooting off their fireworks - were they waiting to get good and drunk before playing with explosives? My dog is freaking out and the whole house is up. What is it with Southerners and their fireworks???
Melissa Im self taught. I didnot take art classes or music. I can also sing better than anything else I know. I majored in communications and minored in chemistry. I'm fluent in 7 languages and can breakdown most things into their written equations & molecular diagrams. I've freaked out my son with this peculiar talent. He calls me a walking living breathing human periodic table. LoL :-))
will take it easy tomorrow, we have an invitation to a bbq at a friend's house and then to watch the fireworks at the Summit Lake...
My hands are in pain right now. The left one it hurts from the elbow down to the index and middle fingers, the right one from the wrist. I don't know what I did, this week the pain has been on and off....can barely bend my left elbow to scratch my face! I wonder if I pinched a nerve somewhere...ugh...I know it's not the joints, cause it hurts like a pulled muscle/tendon...It didn't hurt today and decided to wash my car, but afterward the pain came back, gahh...well at least my car is clean!
This is going to be a long post because we had a bit of unwarranted excitement this weekend. My hubs ended up being admitted into the cardiac care wing of the hospital on Friday. He had been having pains in his chest. The Drs did not know if it was heart, liver, pancreas, or gallbladder. Since the holiday was approaching and they wanted to be on safe side, they admitted him. He is 44yrs old. Long story short..He is okay!! Heart is fine! All the other organs are fine also. They think it is most likely gastro..like bad case of reflux..so he has to double up on his Nexium and see his gastro dr this week. I was scared but did not show it. We have been together for 24 years and that is not enough time...we need another 20 or more..so I said it is time to stop fucking around with our health. He agreed.
So this fourth I am cooking some nice skinless chicken breasts on the grill. I have pickles to make and it is warm but not at all humid today. I have a massive headache but I think it is from all the stress. I will be better soon.
Pat, I am glad you are doing better. Did you have a sore throat? I will post pics of the finished canned pickles to show you later on.
meissa, that almost sounds like epicondylitis, (tennis elbow) I've had to have surgery on both of mine. If it hurts worse when you bend your wrist down or back, or when you try and carry something with your arm extended (like a coffee cup) get it checked. They also sell these bands with a little pillow that will press down on the muscle right under your elbow on your forearm.
Went to see Vince Gill at the Hollywood Bowl last night. AMAZING fireworks show - and he is just so YUMMY!!! Really fun evening. Today - I had "the girls" over for a barbecue on my patio - burgers, kobe dogs, corn on the cob, twice baked potatoes, grilled peaches, garlic cheese bread . . . I can't breathe!
I think my marriage is over.He put the house up for sale .I'm looking for a job still. He's so hard to get along with.My heart hurts. It sucks because he can't afford to get out so I'm stuck in this house with him. I don't know what to do or how to act. Hey, I'm leaving you, but we have to share a house together. I mean, what do I do? Do I ignore, be mean, act normal? It hurts to be around him because I know he doesn't want to be with me. I wish he would hug me or care about me. He's not being mean. His plan is to sell, get me a good car,find me and my girls a home and then see ya ! I can't imagine our lives without each other. We have separated before and I was heartbroken. As soon as I started getting myself together, he started coming back around. I told him he's not doing that again. Maybe if I can find a damn job it will take financial burden off of him and it will make things easier. Who knows. He always complains and criticizes about everything. I don't even know what to do or say anymore because you never know when he's gonna snap at me. I'm not a good alone person. I can't imagine being with someone else even though he makes me nuts.
Oh, Valle. . . that makes me so sad. Years ago I went through a similar situation with my husband. We couldn't afford to be apart, but his heart was elsewhere. It was awful, but eventually, we worked through it, and have a really good marriage again. I don't know a magic formula that will help you, but just do what you need to do for yourself and your girls. Take each day as it comes, and force yourself to look at the whole picture. Figure out, little bit by little bit, what you can do to make yourself feel better or be able to cope with the changes that come every day, or with the feelings of emptiness and despair. Think about it, and try to figure out if this marriage is really something you want to preserve----if there is enough good still in there that he just isn't finding right now---to make it worthwhile to save, or if it's just fear of the unknown and being without him that keeps you there. It's not a good time to sell a house or anything, right now, and so I don't know how that part of this situation would work out anyway. I got counseling, my husband got counseling, and we got counseling together. I got him in there under the guise of working things out for Andy, and both of our separate lives. He didn't always readily consent to go, but he did go. Strangely enough, it wasn't until I told him "it's okay. You can go now. I don't need you to be here. I'll be just fine, and Andy will be just fine with me if you leave." that he decided he needed to stay. It took me awhile to get to the point where I was ready to say that to him, but I got there. (Not suggesting you do that, everyone, and every situation is different. You have to start thinking about what is really right for you and your girls.) Good luck.
Oh, Valle, I am so sorry. That must be one of the hardest, most difficult, unhealthy situation to be in.
Good for you for telling him that, this time, you will not take him back. I think this could be your time, once you are able to sell the house, find work and figure out a livable financial situation, to get yourself back on your own two feet?
Is there anyone, family or friend, you can turn to for help until the house sells?
I hope everyone has a great holiday. What are you guys doing for the 4th? I'm recovering. I think I might live. :)
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going to newton falls again tomorrow for fire works....went there for the first time last year and they are GREAT!! 45 minutes of continuous fireworks!!!! i love fireworks!!!!
and newton falls is a lovely little community.....it's about 50 minutes away from me but really worth the drive!!!
TODAY i got up late, bah...gonna change kitty boxes, take a bath, do some yard work---or try too....there's an ozone warning today and it's hard to breath....change the sheets and finish cataloging my royal books....that is the PLAN....i'll see how far i get! :)
glad you are recovering DD!
Going to my sister in law's today for a picnic. Only the fireworks will be probably be between the sister-in laws that can't stand each other. I have to get there early for a good seat!
So glad to hear you're on the mend DD. I'm working July 4th. It's just another day in Canada. Although I worked during our national holiday on July 1st too, so...yeah. Double time and a half wewt! I'm going to head for a dark corner and visit my soul now.
Starting at 10 this morning I thought my entire neighborhood was on fire. Normally if there is a problem in here, the trucks shut off their sirens before they enter the subdivision. Nope not today, sirens nonstop! Then I remembered it was the 4th of July bike parade for all the little kids in the neighborhood. (decorated bikes, walkers, strollers, riding lawn mowers) We always have several trucks from the local volunteer station up the road lead the parade. But, it's time the boys took their toys back to the station. The parade has been over since 10:20. It's now after 11 and they are still driving the trucks through here. Getting a little tired of listening to those sirens. Can't complain about the volunteers tho, those guys show up within minutes when there is a problem. Hope the neighborhood association gave them a nice donation for doing this.
As for the 4th, I'm not doing anything. Tried to play the sympathy card with a friend when she asked what I was doing. She's not having a picnic b/c she's tired of her mooching family and needs to work on the garage sale she's having next week. She will be calling me to drive 40 miles to help on that.
11:10 Dayum, the trucks are still here! Those boys must be bored.
Woke up this morning to a cool, almost humid-free morning. WTF? Did I sleep through July and August? It feels like September!
Nothing exciting for the 4th. I'm getting ready for my baby sister to visit from NC. I haven't seen her in 2 years.
Hope everyone has a safe holiday. Glad you are surviving DD!
Won't be doing too much (too hot - 122F today). Here in Spain, it's just another day (although it's a Sunday). Today am watching the big game (Spain-Paraguay) for the world cup, and lunch with family tomorrow.
Glad to hear that you'll "live" lol. Hope you feel better!
Beth in Seville
Glad to hear you are feeling better, DD. We've missed you!
Slept in a little today, and now that I'm up, I think I'll take care of the puppies, and chickens. My husband said he would, but he isn't, so what else is new?
The clothes dryer sounds like it's on its last legs, but I'm going to keep doing bedding until it belches flame.
My son went to work at 9, and my husband is probably going to go to his mom's place. She has been dumping a load of anxiety on him again. I think she needs a part-time job or a hobby as she stirs up problems and borrows trouble, otherwise. Something going on with her neighbors again. @@ Last year it was the neighbors' tree dropping some small leaves on her deck. She wanted to sue. :::sigh:::
It's cooling off here - only supposed to be 107° today. :)
Still unpacking from trip, hope to finish today. Tomorrow just getting together with my family for a poolside BBQ. I'll end up with a slight hangover and probably a sunburn but it's always worth it - we have lots of fun.
Relieved to hear you're feeling better DD. Make sure Nikki is secure when the fireworks begin. You never know how the pets will react...
Going to wonderland to see the fireworks.
Kiki :)
I don't think we are going anywhere or doing anything for the 4th. Our son wants to go over to his friend's place for a "fireworks show" and we will probably just hang out. Our neighbor, who committed suicide, was always the heart of the 4th of July activities. He always had a ton of the illegal fireworks, and there were many times that we were still watching at midnight. It will be weird with his family here, but none of the usual stuff going on. George and I may set off a few things, but, all the kids are gone, so it won't be the same. We live in a very small neighborhood. Eight homes, and the end two generally don't participate. Everyone else had kids who are now grown, except that the next door neighbor has a two-year-old. We used to set up the grill, invite family, and people would set out small tables with dessert along the street. All the boys had super soaker water guns and worked fire control. It was very organized.
My mom is going to Goldendale Washington for the demolition derby, but she is going with my brother and his son. It's a weird year. I'm off of work, but not doing anything, and we are poor, so we couldn't afford to do much, anyway. I think my husband will go back to work in a week, or so, but he still had not submitted all the paperwork for his leave as of yesterday, so all his time off has been without pay. At least his withdrawal from the pristiq is going smoothly. He is less dizzy, and forgets things less. LOL! No more buying two or three soldering irons in a week because he can't remember that he bought them. At least that is an improvement.
DD, glad to see that you're feeling better! Happy 4th to everyone...watch some fireworks for me, since I can't! We're just rambling around now, the 2 of us, and Aaron's still depressed since the sis/kids left on Wednesday.
Nothing much here, the Dubuque fireworks and airshow is today, but I don't feel like fighting the crowds and traffic. I might just stay home and chill. Tomorrow there are more fireworks, so if I feel the need, I can go into town and see them, but they aren't so great that they outweigh the bugs. I know, I'm a big downer today :(
dubuque iowa???
Yes, are you familiar with it Tia?
i'm from clinton.....a friend of mine currently is going to nursing school in dbq....
how long have you been there? remember in the 80s when they tried to have some black families move to dbq as there was none and people were having hissy fits and burning crosses in their yards? i think only 1 out of 10 families stayed....i hope their race relations has improved...
do they still have that train car that goes up the really steep hill??
I'm on the other side of the river, been here all my life :) Race relations are about what you could expect, really. You had a guy with lofty ideas that didn't think them through, instead of enticing middle class families with good jobs, they offered welfare benefits to those with nothing. Now Dubuque has areas that you don't venture into, regardless of your skin color. Gang affiliations and activities, the standard fare. Not to say it wouldn't have happened anyway, but many people blame old Jim Brady, that's for certain.
On the up side, the cable car is still there, I think it still runs, but it's been ages since I've checked that out. Your friend probably goes to Clarke, yes? Great nursing program there. Loras doesn't offer it and UD just started it up again.
The last time I was in Clinton, I visited a spiritualist camp and had a reading done. Interesting, but nothing like some of Pat's stories :)
ah yes the spiritualist camp....i remember that was up on a hill....
i don't know what school he goes too....just that it's in dbq....
where in IL are you??? savannah?
have you been to galena?? i would love to go there again.....
The Pool and Picnic and fireworks. The challenge is where to watch from many shows going on around The Lake best place to watch is on the water from a boat. BUT everyone knows that and it is way too busy and rough for my kids. Scary. Adult only. So still need to find a spot to watch from.
Not doing much of anything tomorrow. I bought some ribs to grill. I only have 1 son left at home. I thought he would be spending the 4th with us but he has a new GF and has decided to spend the night and the 4th at her house. sigh. This new GF is an only child of a mom who has been divorced for about 20 years. I guess she feels if she allows her daughters BF to stay the night, she'll be able to keep her daughter at home. I really don't appreciate such lax rules as I would not allow that in my house with a girl he's only been going out with a month. But he's 23 and there's not too much I can say. I guess I'm just feeling the effects of an empty nest.
My 4th will be just me and my husband who it seems lately, his main purpose in life is to irritate me. Just another wonderful effect of menopause.
I'm just outside of Galena. If you remember the ghost boy photo Pat posted, that was in Grant Park on the east side of Galena. You can see a bit of the hillside in the background :)
galena is great place (at least it was the last time i was there about 16 years ago! i can't imagine the city changing much).....i always wanted to stay at that B&B up on the hill, i think fern manor? i just love all the old stores and old homes!!! and all those stairs up the hill!!! i remember there was a thomas nast painting of the signing of lee signing his surrender to grant...it was huge.....
The Felt Manor and I just walked by there today, it's been for sale for ages, still no takers. I'm sure they want a fortune for it. Galena has always been the most amazing place to both visit and live. Very small town, gets a bit dicey when kids get to high school age, but most of them come out okay :) Tried leaving a few times, but only made it 8 miles out of town...LOL
Going over to a friend's for dinner tomorrow - nothing much in terms of actually celebrating the 4th. No fireworks shows for us tomorrow - my 4 year old has a double ear infection so early night and lots of care and rest :(.
My son wants his room painted as an under water world for his 8th birthday so we are starting to prep for it. I only wish I could be a better artist and do some fun art on his wall - or wish I could use Kiki's talents to help out! I'm great at stick figures though ;-).
Glad you are healing, Pat and feel more alive today than you have.
How is Lissa's little brother doing? How is she adjusting to him?
Wishing you all a safe and fun 4th!
that's it! felt manor!!!! oh that is just beautiful from the outside....
they want $782,500 which considering it's age and history is an awesome price! if i won the lottery i would SO buy it and live there!!
here's the brochure with some pix and the specs...7 marble fireplaces!
http://www.galena.com/feltmanor_hi_res_v2.pdf
more photos....
http://gallery.me.com/nsnport#100021/DSC00162&bgcolor=black
all the home tours i was on, the felt manor was never on it.....
Melissa My favourite things after birds to draw is sealife.
From fish to corals. I sent DD a sketch of a seaturtle underwater looking up at the surface of the water. - Kiki
Melissa My favourite things after birds to draw is sealife.
From fish to corals. I sent DD a sketch of a seaturtle underwater looking up at the surface of the water. - Kiki
Thanks for the pix miss Tia. It's lovely ! Kiki :)
Kiki, did you ever take art classes or is it something you can do naturally? Either way, I am envious and wish I could replicate what my son imagines on his walls. I will do my best...
Would love to see your sea turtle swimming underwater looking up at the surface. Hopefully, DD will post it tomorrow :) I think I remember you sketching this thinking about the sea life in the gulf in light of the BP disaster. I cry and want to scream every time I think of what is happening and what lies ahead of us. They must not get away with this.
It's 12:30am here and my partying neighbors down the block just decided to start shooting off their fireworks - were they waiting to get good and drunk before playing with explosives? My dog is freaking out and the whole house is up. What is it with Southerners and their fireworks???
Happy 4th of July to all!
Melissa Im self taught. I didnot take art
classes or music. I can also sing better
than anything else I know. I majored in
communications and minored in chemistry.
I'm fluent in 7 languages and can breakdown
most things into their written equations &
molecular diagrams. I've freaked out my son
with this peculiar talent. He calls me a walking
living breathing human periodic table. LoL :-))
Yes that's the sad turtle in the gulf you recall.
HAPPY 4th of JULY !
-Kiki
:)
will take it easy tomorrow, we have an invitation to a bbq at a friend's house and then to watch the fireworks at the Summit Lake...
My hands are in pain right now. The left one it hurts from the elbow down to the index and middle fingers, the right one from the wrist. I don't know what I did, this week the pain has been on and off....can barely bend my left elbow to scratch my face! I wonder if I pinched a nerve somewhere...ugh...I know it's not the joints, cause it hurts like a pulled muscle/tendon...It didn't hurt today and decided to wash my car, but afterward the pain came back, gahh...well at least my car is clean!
Happy 4th all, enjoy & be safe! heading to the boarder to watch fireworks. To fellow Canuks, belated happy Canada Day! Sorry, missed it.
This is going to be a long post because we had a bit of unwarranted excitement this weekend.
My hubs ended up being admitted into the cardiac care wing of the hospital on Friday. He had been having pains in his chest. The Drs did not know if it was heart, liver, pancreas, or gallbladder. Since the holiday was approaching and they wanted to be on safe side, they admitted him. He is 44yrs old.
Long story short..He is okay!! Heart is fine! All the other organs are fine also. They think it is most likely gastro..like bad case of reflux..so he has to double up on his Nexium and see his gastro dr this week.
I was scared but did not show it. We have been together for 24 years and that is not enough time...we need another 20 or more..so I said it is time to stop fucking around with our health. He agreed.
So this fourth I am cooking some nice skinless chicken breasts on the grill. I have pickles to make and it is warm but not at all humid today.
I have a massive headache but I think it is from all the stress. I will be better soon.
Pat,
I am glad you are doing better. Did you have a sore throat?
I will post pics of the finished canned pickles to show you later on.
Have a great Sunday all.
Very, very impressive, Kiki!
HAPPY 4TH!!
meissa, that almost sounds like epicondylitis, (tennis elbow) I've had to have surgery on both of mine. If it hurts worse when you bend your wrist down or back, or when you try and carry something with your arm extended (like a coffee cup) get it checked. They also sell these bands with a little pillow that will press down on the muscle right under your elbow on your forearm.
Went to see Vince Gill at the Hollywood Bowl last night. AMAZING fireworks show - and he is just so YUMMY!!! Really fun evening. Today - I had "the girls" over for a barbecue on my patio - burgers, kobe dogs, corn on the cob, twice baked potatoes, grilled peaches, garlic cheese bread . . . I can't breathe!
my beautiful and absolutely gorgeous sons 27th birthday!
I think my marriage is over.He put the house up for sale .I'm looking for a job still. He's so hard to get along with.My heart hurts. It sucks because he can't afford to get out so I'm stuck in this house with him. I don't know what to do or how to act. Hey, I'm leaving you, but we have to share a house together. I mean, what do I do? Do I ignore, be mean, act normal? It hurts to be around him because I know he doesn't want to be with me. I wish he would hug me or care about me. He's not being mean. His plan is to sell, get me a good car,find me and my girls a home and then see ya ! I can't imagine our lives without each other. We have separated before and I was heartbroken. As soon as I started getting myself together, he started coming back around. I told him he's not doing that again. Maybe if I can find a damn job it will take financial burden off of him and it will make things easier. Who knows. He always complains and criticizes about everything. I don't even know what to do or say anymore because you never know when he's gonna snap at me. I'm not a good alone person. I can't imagine being with someone else even though he makes me nuts.
Oh, Valle. . . that makes me so sad. Years ago I went through a similar situation with my husband. We couldn't afford to be apart, but his heart was elsewhere. It was awful, but eventually, we worked through it, and have a really good marriage again.
I don't know a magic formula that will help you, but just do what you need to do for yourself and your girls. Take each day as it comes, and force yourself to look at the whole picture. Figure out, little bit by little bit, what you can do to make yourself feel better or be able to cope with the changes that come every day, or with the feelings of emptiness and despair. Think about it, and try to figure out if this marriage is really something you want to preserve----if there is enough good still in there that he just isn't finding right now---to make it worthwhile to save, or if it's just fear of the unknown and being without him that keeps you there.
It's not a good time to sell a house or anything, right now, and so I don't know how that part of this situation would work out anyway.
I got counseling, my husband got counseling, and we got counseling together. I got him in there under the guise of working things out for Andy, and both of our separate lives. He didn't always readily consent to go, but he did go. Strangely enough, it wasn't until I told him "it's okay. You can go now. I don't need you to be here. I'll be just fine, and Andy will be just fine with me if you leave." that he decided he needed to stay. It took me awhile to get to the point where I was ready to say that to him, but I got there. (Not suggesting you do that, everyone, and every situation is different. You have to start thinking about what is really right for you and your girls.) Good luck.
Oh, Valle, I am so sorry. That must be one of the hardest, most difficult, unhealthy situation to be in.
Good for you for telling him that, this time, you will not take him back. I think this could be your time, once you are able to sell the house, find work and figure out a livable financial situation, to get yourself back on your own two feet?
Is there anyone, family or friend, you can turn to for help until the house sells?
I'm sorry Valle....((hugs)) to you.
Daphne
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