Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Banker husband, will stand by the wife who killed their children

THIS has to be one of the most interesting and captivating articles I've read lately. Banker, Gary Clarence says he will stand by his wife, Tania, who has been put, by a judge, into a mental hospital 'until she is recovered' after she murdered three of the couple's four children. Gary Clarence had the fourth child on a trip, with him, when his wife was home with the others. She tricked a nanny into leaving her alone with the kids and suffocated them. The children were severly disabled and she pled guilty to manslaughter, but, not murder. A judge ruled on it. I'm not sure how all that works, they are from South Africa. The murders happened in London.

I hope he writes a book because I would love to know the whole sad story. I know many will say, how could anyone kill their own children? But, I also have to ask, how could you watch them get weaker and suffer more every day, knowing they will die a bad death before they are grown? It boggles the mind, the suffering she must have endured. And always will. The article also points out the couple's struggle with medical professionals and social services. They disagreed with medical treatments and felt that some things would just prolong suffering or cause more. Social Services, well, it sounds like that department not only failed them, but, added to the turmoil and stress. Sometimes 'descending upon them' in groups. What horror. They were even accused or charged with neglect, though it's unclear what exact sort of neglect. I assume it's medical neglect stemming from their refusal to take the advice of some doctors about the children's treatment. This couple, the Clarences, are wealthy people, that's clear. No amount of money could really help them or spare them what they went through. I just thought, there must be one hell of a story here..if only someone would tell it all.

6 comments:

Jane said...

This is really sad. She will go to trial and I hope she has a jury of her peers. And I do mean peers--people who have children with disabilities along the same line. I truly believe if you haven't been in her position you don't have the understanding of what she went through and should not be allowed to judge her.

Anonymous said...

How horrible. I've had trouble with doctors and social services, a lot of trouble, with my husband in the years before he died. The last 2 or 3 years were dreadful. Unrelentingly dreadful. There were social worker reports on me that said I had anger issues and that I "let" him fall. Nonsense, but I did have anger issues, for good reason. How people deal with severely disabled kids I don't know. Realizing that everything you do only prolongs a life of deterioration and pain has to be unbearable. Do I blame her? No. I don't think I could ever do what she did, but I feel for her. Having the medical system in your can be a fight, but I fought. Why I haven't croaked from stress I don't know.

Dirty Disher said...

Jane, I totally agree with you. We have not walked in her shoes.

Border, I can imagine. I am going through great stress with all of it now trying to get medical help for my granddaughter. Which she is entitled to! Social Services is about as helpful to me as tits on a bore.

Dirty Disher said...

PS, the fact that she had to trick a nanny into leaving her alone with the kids, tells me that Social Services already knew she was a danger and did nothing.

Unknown said...

I hope euthenesia is legalized sometime before I loose the plot to dementia. We can put down suffering animas, but when it comes to humans we have to stand by and suffer watching them suffer.

Anonymous said...

She should have killed herself, if she was that miserable caring for her babies. These women, they never kill themselves. Hmmm? Then they skip off, happily rid of the millstone they no longer cared to have around. And I still say Jon Benet Ramsey's parents know what happened. Patsy's dead now. Karma. But I believe Patsy killed that child and her husband helped her conceal it. Don't have kids if you can't handle adversity. Life's not all rosey. Fuck these baby killers. STOP having babies. Go kill yourself instead. JMHO.

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